My 6 year old son is smart, strong, and confidant but when he's around his friends he doesn't always make the wisest decisions. The latest things have led to them playing with a kitchen firebottle that they found at a neighbooring house and having a hibachi grill in a little clubhouse that they have. He knows better than to play with both but he still did it. He has no problem telling us "no" and telling his brother "no" but he just can't seem to tell one of his friends "no." I know that it is peer pressure and we have tried everything from grounding him to the house/backyard or even from his friends but doesn't help. It is dificult forbiding him from his friends because we live in an area where there is only a few kids his age to play with and it is a tight-knit comunity. We have yet to figure out a solution to this as grounding always seems to change his attitude for a short time and then he's back to his regular behavior. Does anyone have any other suggestions?
2007-02-03 22:51:28 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
With him being only 6 I think it should be wise for the parents to step in and tell him that if he doesn't stop getting in trouble with his friends then he will not get to play with them anymore... he'll buck up! And yes you can tell him who he can and who he cant hang out with... since he's only 6... when he gets older maybe he will hang out with a better crowd, we can only hope! But it would be smart that you step in now before they do something that would harm one another!!
2007-02-04 02:13:47 · answer #1 · answered by csmutz2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think 6 year olds have the capacity to forsee the consequences of their actions with any certainty. That's the parents job. If you know he is going to make bad decisions and that that may put him and or his friends in danger, then you have no choice but to supervise his play more closely. If you stay switched on and tuned into where he is and what he is doing, you will be able to monitor the situation and step in if neccessary.
2007-02-04 01:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find him other friends
Isn't he young to do this
He doesn't need psychoanalyzed
Just righted a little
Change his environment
Where is he playng that there is broken glass?
If you need to switch you tactics go ahead
But humans at any age follow the majortiy as we think there is safety in numbers
This close knit community you are in seems to have kids that need disciplined
It's not entirely yours to fix but dont give him access to what is hurting him
And keep ypur anxiety in check or you will add to the problem
2007-02-04 00:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you expect from a 6 year old? He is being a kid! ?ALL KIDS KNOW RIGHT FROM WRONG.... They choose to not listen and follow directions when with friends ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY ARE BY THEMSELVES! ALL KIDS PUSH BUTTONS! As long as he knows right from wrong then you need to talk to him, and adress his actions. It's nothing that you severly ground him over, becasue HE IS A KID!!! I can see if he was starting fires, and leaving them or playing with chemicals, and stuff like that then yeah Ground him and punish him, but he is being a kid! I am sure you never did any of that when you were a boy now did ya??
2007-02-04 03:31:21 · answer #4 · answered by ♥xvioletx1882♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Im 66 now and I was a little bugger as a kid was the leader of the pack. Many times i got hurt from the stupid Things I done I now have 11 grandkids. He will turn out ok dont worry so much kick his bum when he plays up too much
2007-02-03 23:12:55 · answer #5 · answered by burning brightly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you try to tell him how you see the situation ?most of the time boys like to show off for his friends.I think he is to young for you try to use the peer pressure excuse,for unsupervised playing.If you think this is not the right friend for him,just don't let he play with the boy anymore and don't keep saying that is no kids for him to play and blah,blah..take him somewhere else,put him in a community sport so he can have less time to do stupid stuff.
2007-02-03 23:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by realistic 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes 6,same as my daughter.your right its peer pressure and no amount of punishing will make him see sence.hes a boy and boys get up to mischief a little more than girls.what i usually do it make my child do house work at the time she wants to go out and play(weekends). 30 minutes for helping around the house with out a puss on his face will get him 1 hour of play with his friends.
2007-02-03 22:57:38 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best and worst part of being a parent is watching your kid grow up and make bad choices. the hardest part is letting them make their own choice and learning from the consecuence . You can not give him experience he must obtain it for himself inorder to continue to be a stong and independent person. You are doing a great job - now is the hard part and let him make mistakes because they are his own mistakes. it's painful as parents to watch this but in the end he will come to the same conclusion without your input and that will give him confidence for his adult years
2007-02-03 23:10:35 · answer #8 · answered by prettymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is only 6 for goodness sake - his behaviour is perfectly normal. All kids experiment with things they shouldn't. Some adults too for that matter. Don't be so harsh on him. I am sure you have already pointed out the dangers he would have faced playing with fire.
2007-02-03 22:57:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i was the same mate. was an absolute terror!
if i could get hurt / burnt / bruised, or there was any risk i could see, i would make a bee line for it.
i grew out of it, well, most of it.
hes only 6. let him know what the risks are and make his own mind up. everone knows their limit, when they reach it, and decide, thats a bit to full on for me, and will get out.
give him time mate
2007-02-03 23:23:04 · answer #10 · answered by deaity 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋