my kid has the habbit of crying for anything that doesnt go his way.he is 20 months old.will time outs work for him.at the end of the day i am exhausted ..
2007-02-03 22:48:37 · 11 answers · asked by sah 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
yes and my son is going through the same.hes 19 months old. even if you look at him sideways he'll have a hissy fit and cry. its the age of the trrible 2's it will pass. just do not pay attention to the crying sessions.dont talk to him,just pick him up and put him in front of a mirror to look at himself crying. it has started to work for my son,now as soon as he sees himself he stops. taks a few days but its working. the important this is not to look at him or talk to him at this time.remove him from the area hes in and always put him in the same spot where you have a mirror.
2007-02-03 23:02:39 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a 'terrible two' moment! I am just going through this with my little girl. We use time out and that works really, really well. It's hard the first few times as you can feel very guilty but I think it is important to put boundaries on what is acceptable or not. Our daughter positively hates it. When we started, she decided to challenge us in public to see if we would carryout time out then. We did and it also worked.
It's important to find a safe space for the child to spend time out in. It's also really important to speak to them calmly and to explain to them before and afterwards why they are given time out. I always try to get down to my daughter's eye level to talk to her. She then has time to say sorry and all is forgotten! The rate is 1 minute per year.
What really worked also were star charts. I think that 20 months might be a little too early though.
In any case, be ready for screams and tantrums. The beginnings are always difficult but it is a good feeling to feel in control again.
Good luck!
2007-02-03 22:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by Laurence C 1 · 5⤊ 1⤋
If you're responding every time he cries, then he will cry more. Try only giving him what he wants if it's reasonable. My sister-in-law tends to do that with her son; as a result, he screams every time anything doesn't go exactly his way. You have to be firm. I know it's not easy, but if you don't do it now, it'll only get harder.
Good luck! Remember, you're the grownup!
2007-02-04 03:33:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to let him know who is boss and not let the crying get to you. Kids have a way of making you feel guilty when they cry,don't fall for it, tell him why he can't have it and then let him get on with the crying,he will soon realise that you will not fall for the crying trick. It is very hard at first,if he starts to get angry use a naughty step, kids do not like to be on their own for long,but they do learn fast.
I have 4 boys and it is hard work, but please remember it is worth it in the end, and i am tired everyday too,it's a fact of life when you have kids...good luck.
2007-02-03 22:56:53 · answer #4 · answered by mrgee32uk 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he's entered the terrible two's early. I have an 18mo that does the same thing. anything that is taken away is when he cries or throws tantrums. i let him cry...and then he stops. sometimes it takes 5 or 15mins, but he calms down on his own. he needs to learn that he's not going to get what they want.
2007-02-04 00:09:17 · answer #5 · answered by Melissa T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually time outs don't work very well at this age.you have to be patient and start to ignore his crying.,(if it is not about hunger or he didn't hurt him self) I know it is very annoying and frustrating but as soon as he realize that his crying won't affect you he will get better.as soon as he start doing that when you tell no,just leave the room and keep going on with your shores.Just make sure that he is in a safe place and won't hurt himself.good luck
2007-02-03 22:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by realistic 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Stop handing everything he cries for...and LET him cry. If you must, invest in a child gate, put it up in the doorway of his bedroom...put him in his room, then grab a pair of earphones and go on about your routine (checking in on him from time to time). The reason you are exhausted at the end of the day is becuase you put yourself into that position.
2007-02-03 22:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 3⤋
he's a little too young for time outs but you can say "I can't hear you when you cry - it hurts my ears" Then when he doesn't cry smile and say how much your ears are tingeling and it feels so good
It's call behaviour modification and it does help
2007-02-03 22:57:40 · answer #8 · answered by prettymama 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
are you giving into his every demand? then he will keep doing this. time out in a time out chair or step. if he moves, don't talk to him, just put him back. do it for a minute, since he's young.
2007-02-03 22:51:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
When he begins to cry and whine, walk away.
2007-02-03 23:21:39 · answer #10 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋