she's 21 and he's 34. they meet at the same time everyday and talk for more than 2 hours. they don't really sweet talk each other. they talk about each other's lives, what happened for the day, each other's parents, friends, bros, and sis, interests and they do have a lot in common, when we are together shopping and it's time for them to talk she would say, we gotta go home. then there was a time she goes on night shift so she couldn't make it for how many weeks talking to him, she didn't inform him or anything why she couldn't be there but he sends her emails and they're they go talking again about each other. im really just wondering? do you think there could be a possibility that they will fall in love with each other granting their age gap?? or what is your opinion? what do you think is in what they have together if they have something?? could they really just be friends? what's your opinion? anything?
2007-02-03 21:50:03 · 12 answers · asked by terra 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They could just be friends. Something could happen romantically at some point, but it would be wise for them to meet before they start anything in that direction. As far as an age gap goes. It is big, but that isn't something that is a big deal if they are just friends anyway, and it is certainly something that can be overcome if they meet and want to pursue something more.
2007-02-03 21:54:46 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say they are just friends, but most healthy relationships start at friendships. No matter what the age gap may be, they are both adults and probably communicate on the same level. Online is a whole different game. I don't think much will come of it. Some people just want to share their lives with people. That's all.
2007-02-03 21:56:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 31 and my gf is 20. We started our romance over IM the same way your friend did just talking about life. That's what made me fall in love with her in the first place: the way she was endlessly interesting and interested in me; the depth that she understood herself and her life and the insight she had into mine. I never found anyone my own age as deep, intelligent and incredible as she. It helps that we were also incredibly physically attracted to one another. So yeah, it can work with that age gap. Sure we have some differences, but we recognize them and they're nothing that interfere with our relationship. Opening our minds to each other, appreciating and respecting each other doesn't seem to be tied to or affected by age.
2007-02-03 22:10:51 · answer #3 · answered by Rustoleum_James 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry this happened to you. Now, on to your question, yes. You should tell her. Technically you are not a "home-wrecker" he is. He lied to you. If you do confront her, you need to tell her your side as quick as possible because chances are her first reaction is going to be that you are lying and you are a pyscho with a crush on her husband. However, if you tell her that you met at the wedding and he never said he was married, in fact he always insinuated he was divorced then she may not be as angry with you as she could be. You are NOT stupid. You were lied to but someone you cared about and trusted. The only part that will make you stupid is if you continue to see this guy at all. The issue is that he will definitely continue to try and see you and have sex with you. If you stay in that relationship then that is the only thing that will make you not the sharpest knife in the drawer. You are 100% correct. She has a right and needs to know. I know when my girlfriend cheated on me many years ago, I was crushed but I was very glad I found out. And then I told them that he better tell his wife or else I would and. although she was hurt, she was able to get out of that crummy marriage and get into a marriage that allowed her to have the life she wanted with someone else. Yes, you want revenge, but you also need to tell her. If you do tell her and act like you are throwing it in her face rather than do it in a fashion that is that you feel ashamed and sorry for this to have happened, then you would be a bad person. When you can think of her and truly know you feel bad and are sorry this happened then that is when you tell her. Try not to beat yourself up about it. He lied and decieved you and there was no real way to know about all that. Your trust was broken, but not all guys are like that. I hope you rebound back ok. Let me know how things turn out.
2016-05-24 02:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are obviously good friends. It may not go further than that. But being good friends can be a stepping stone to romance. I would think that 13 year age difference could be a problem. But there are people who do it and are happy. I hope they are happy, with all the hassles in life that there are, happiness is great to find. I don't know if I have helped you, hope I have.
2007-02-03 22:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they can get along and understands each other, and the guys seemed nice and respect your friend, I don't see the problem, especially when they are just being friends. So if they do fall in love later, age should not be a barrier.
2007-02-03 22:06:36 · answer #6 · answered by chardonnayormerlot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either they've already discussed it and just want to be friends or they haven't and they may be taking a slow movement towards love. Age shouldn't be a factor to hold anyone back unless it's more than a 40 year difference.
2007-02-03 21:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by Roxie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know,when it comes to relationship,even love,age is not a barrier and a factor. I can't say that they will fall in love, but if they do,as a friend just tell her that it's not safe to trust a person on the internet.
2007-02-03 21:54:29 · answer #8 · answered by FloralLover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that they haven't a big age gap.My boyfriend is about 20yrs older than me and we are very happy.We are abou 5yrs together.They can be more than only friends or very very good friends.Don't worry about your friend :)
2007-02-03 21:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by janinka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife is 10 years younger than me and it doesn't bother either one of us and we've been married 6 days..........just kidding 6 years
2007-02-03 22:03:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋