A guy friend of mine has gotten 0-r-a-l from me twice when we fooled around. We also did it very quick one time (he c@me in 1 minute - so it was quick) It was fun but I dont feel comfortable doing stuff like that outside of dating a guy. (Ive only slept with one other man before this)
I like him but I want to tell him that Im only happy doing 0-r-a-l with a guy Im dating. And that although I think he's a cool friend we'd have to be dating for me to ever do that again.
Shall I just explain it plainly to him ?
Say sorry 0-R-A-L is reserved for guys whom Im dating not just casual with ?
2007-02-03 20:17:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Also he is dating a new girl, and apparently got 0-r-a-l from me while already dating her.
So I dont want to date him, just be friends but no more casual stuff.
2007-02-03 20:21:32 · update #1
Absolutely tell him no. And if he brings up that you did it before, tell him, "yes I did, and I realize that this is not something I care to continue to do with someone who I am not involved with." Stick to your guns and be straight about it.
2007-02-03 20:21:39 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know exactly what to do. He is not a very honourable guy if he is getting head from you and has a girl friend at the same time... that is disrespectful to both you and the girl friend...
The thing you really need to ask is "what is he doing for you?" YOu are giving him head - and it is obvious he likes it, gets off on it and the benefits are all his... but what does he do for you in return - if it is a one-way train... then he is using you! another sign of total disrespect for you.
Tell him that part of the "friendship" is over and if he doesn't like it he can lump it. you should only be performing oral and sex with those you are in a relationship with, those who respect you enought to want to return the favour by making you feel amazing too....
Tell him it's off.
2007-02-04 04:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Jodes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you shouldn't have given it to him because now he expects it. Tell him that it was a one off and that you only like doing it to guys you're dating. But don't make it seem as if you're pressuring him into asking you out, because then you might be put into the position where he asks you out just to get oral. I would just stay away from the guy because any guy that gets oral from another girl while dating is a scumbag.
2007-02-04 04:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmmmm casual oral..... I never heard it put that way before. I assume you have told him by now, no more casual oral.
Casual oral is usually reserved for gay men. For many that is a the easiest, quickest way to get off.
Are you sure he is straight. Maybe you should ask him, as long as he does not have a temper.
2007-02-04 04:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Dr No 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should never do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable, and even though you did it before doesnt mean you have to keep doing it. i am sure if he is your friend that if you let him know you only like doing oral with people you date he will understand.
2007-02-04 04:22:51 · answer #5 · answered by D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly. why would u want to give a man that's not only not yours, he's someone elses a BJ?
Has he even returned the favour. if not then forget him completely, what a selfish boy!!
2007-02-04 04:26:03 · answer #6 · answered by stevieglenwright 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you know the obvious answer. Be honest with him and yourself and you'll both be better off. Don't do this just to get him to try harder though as he may just pretend. He has to be honest too. Remember, safe sex honey.
2007-02-04 04:22:30 · answer #7 · answered by Huguenot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and straight out. He obviously has no respect for you or that girl he is now with. Respect yourself and your body. Plus... you dont know if that girl has had oral with him already... and u dont know where shes been.. PROTECT YOURSELF!!
2007-02-04 04:27:26 · answer #8 · answered by evilcyn83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him straight..NO MORE ORAL...sounds like he is not returning the favour..so...**** him....and this is coming from na GUY. I|f he can't satisfy you? Then why satisfy him.SCREW THE PRICK. If he dosn't satisfy youy...thenh kick his *** to the curb and LEAVE HIM THERE
2007-02-04 04:26:54 · answer #9 · answered by Comfortably Numb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are 100% correct...
Only give oral to guys you love and are involved with
in serious exclusive relationships...
2007-02-04 04:21:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋