when it comes to looking/finding a man/women? Why do we want to have someone that looks like Brad Pitt or Eva Longoria when we know we aren't going to get them..... I know I have high standards but do others try and go above their statis and actually do find happiness or are they more game players - better looking people -because they know more people look and they have more options/opportunities....
2007-02-03 19:52:27 · 5 answers · asked by sexy rack 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
u know the phrase "pursuit of happiness"? that's sorta related to wut ur asking here. even tho ppl kno that these unrealistic dreams are almost impossible to obtain, it's the hope that we can that drives us to become better at wut we do. if no one had the "unrealistic" dream that man cannot fly, then...well, its obvious wut we wouldn't have. as for women and men, i suppose it's the driving force in humans that makes us breed ^^.
2007-02-03 20:08:32 · answer #1 · answered by roro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have unrealistic goals in the game of love because the unpleasant reality is that dating/romance is a settling process. We are only physically attractive and reproductive for a finite amount of time, so we have to settle with the person that comes closest to what we want. Doesn't sound very desirable, does it? I believe it is a basic truth of the human condition that most people choose illusion over despair. When faced with unpleasant realities, like the one I have outline, many rather retreat into their fantasies and pretend everything is okay. Unfortunately, when its put up or shut up time, illusions lead to disappointment.
2007-02-04 04:12:12 · answer #2 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you have unattainable goals .you get the unattainable .........
nothing .....
expecting to have some person in your life because of their looks , such as the people you have mentioned above , is more hop to it stuff .........and very unrealistic ...........
being realistic and staying with your feet on the ground , will get you further in your personal satisfaction ,
and a beautiful flower , last not............. long .............:-)
many a times , behind a less # looking man # on can find some of the most beautiful emotions and some true feelings ....that are mutual ,as compared to some flashy better looking and star searching look alike ...........
i certainly would not want Brat Pitt .........!
sure he may be tasty for some , but not for i ...........:-)
2007-02-11 15:50:14 · answer #3 · answered by HJW 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will give you the advice I give my one g/f who has totally unreasonable goals of what she wants in a man. Make 3 columns, one list of things you HAVE to have in a mate, like timeliness is in mine, along with tall. Second column, list the things you don't like in a mate, no matter how silly you think they are. Last column, look at the first two and really really decide which characteristics are not negotiable and which ones you could live with. It's not settling, it's being realistic.
2007-02-11 22:31:44 · answer #4 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that's why it's called standards. So that they could have a basis when looking for a partner. And though they know they could never have either of them.. and so they're looking for alternatives.
2007-02-04 04:07:44 · answer #5 · answered by sheer♥black 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋