I need tips on how to get over depression.?

Question

Every since my dog died on Jan 4, Ive been really sad. See, Im really antisocial and he was my only friend. I have a really crazy life and I move a lot so I gave up on making friends. My dog Buster he choked to death, his leash got stuck on some stairs when he fell off the other side. Ever since then Ive noticed that it feels good to hold my breath for a very long time and this scares me. I just want to be with him again. My dad is a crazy mofo, Ive run away from him twice, and my mom just takes off like she doesnt even care. She wont answer her phone and she lied about where she was going. I live with my grandparents btw. The only person I could tell is my grandma but I hate talking to her about these things. The only thing thats ever helped me is weed, and I dont even know where to buy it. I dont want to go to a shrink and I dont want pills. If anyone could talk to me or just give me some tips it might make me feel a lot better...

Sorry about the long description I just felt like telling someone.

Answer 1

you may try the follow to deal with your depression:

1. Assess whether you’re suffering some (or all) of the typical symptoms, which include: feelings of low self-esteem; a loss of libido; persistent feelings of sadness, apathy, or hopelessness lasting more than two weeks; diminished interest in most daily activities (particularly pleasurable ones); decreased appetite and subsequent weight loss; increased appetite and weight gain; lack of sleep (insomnia), frequent waking throughout the night (particularly in the early mornings) or conversely, an increased need for sleep; anxiety; diminished ability to think or concentrate; irritation and frequent outbursts of anger; suicidal thoughts.

2. Make an appointment to see your family doctor, who may confirm or rule out depression as a diagnosis. He/she will likely refer you to a suitable, reputable psychiatrist. It is far better to be treated by a specialist from the get-go, as many family doctors have a relatively superficial understanding of mental health issues. Rather see a specialist with expert knowledge and experience.

3. When it comes to drug treatment, rely on the advice of your psychiatrist, not rumors. Depression is common, and many people have misconceptions about the available treatments. Antidepressants are not addictive. Most drugs have some side effects, but just because a coworker of yours suffers dizziness or nausea, doesn’t mean you will. Each person reacts differently to medications.

4. Your psychiatrist will likely prescribe an antidepressant, to be taken for a minimum 6 to 8 weeks. Don’t expect to feel better within days. Some can work fairly quickly (10 – 14 days) but most take a little longer. Persevere.

5. Don’t despair if the first drug you try doesn’t work, or only makes you feel marginally better. Drug-resistant depression is quite common, but usually temporary. It’s important to realize that your body is unique – it’s a case of finding the right medication for you.

6. Important! If you don’t feel you’re getting the best care possible, ask your family doctor for another referral. Your psychiatrist is there to support you, and if you aren’t comfortable with him/her, it’s best to find someone else. Mental health issues are very personal, and if you don’t trust or like your psychiatrist, you’re doing yourself a disservice by continuing to see him/her.

7. Consider therapy. Depression can distort the way you see reality, particularly when it comes to interpersonal relationships. Talking to someone once a week can be extremely beneficial. Not only does it allow you to verbalize how you’re feeling, but it can give you perspective on situations developing as a result of your depression (for example judgmental behavior from your spouse or boss).

8. Find a friend to talk to who has suffered depression. Talking to people who have never suffered depression is usually a frustrating and disappointing experience. You may meet with judgment and condemnation. The last thing you need to hear right now is “Pull yourself together.” On the other hand, someone who has been in your position will recognize that you can’t do that. Depression is not mind over matter. A sympathetic ear will help you cope better.

9. Routine is important for sufferers of depression. Try getting up at the same time each morning, no matter how tired you may be. A “to-do” list can help structure your day better. Again, it is common to feel overwhelmed, indecisive and unsure of what to do next. Take your list, start at the top, and work your way down. At the end of the day, look at what you’ve achieved. Even two out of ten items should be considered a success. After all, you could’ve stayed in bed all day and done absolutely nothing!

10. Lastly, you may feel overwhelmed at times. Try to remember that you won’t always feel like this. You need to hold on, ride out the bad days, and know that the day will come when you’ll be feeling “normal” again. Try not to think too far into the future, which undoubtedly looks bleak. Rather concentrate on getting through today one hour at a time, if need be.

Answer 2

Hay that is find, you take as long as you want, cause you have just taken the first step by doing that . Well if your grandmother will listen to you , that is a good thing, and she proably can relate to how you feel too. I am sorry that your parents are not supportive, or even functional. They sound very disfunctional. That does not help, and neither is getiing hold of some weed. That is just trying to cover it over, and you are right, drugs, medications, are not always the answer, there is not magic pill, or magic wand. So you really need to find someone to talk to, and if you can not do that, then i would have to suggest to see a therapist. You can tell them how you feel about taking med's they usually would reither work on it without medications if they can . Shrink do not always give you medications, so you do not have to worry about that, casue medications is not always the way to cure the problem. For some it is cause they could not function with out medication with certain disorders, but that is only certain disorders. So if you do not want to bother your grandmother with it, then i would have to sugguest what you do not want to do. Go and see a therapist, and why you are there, you can talk about some of the other problems that you have, and they can help you with them too. So if your really want to get over this, and can not do it yourself, or with your grandmother, then yes go and see a therapist and work through it, and also work through those other problems that you have mentioned here.

Answer 3

I am so sorry that you're having such a hard time; it is very hard to lose something that you love. I also understand about how difficult it is to make friends because growing up I moved alot too when my dad was in the Army. Either I left or my friends left. The best way to get over losing your dog is to get another dog-go to the pound and rescue one.

And it's normal to feel depressed after losing your dog. What I do when I feel bad is put on some music, close my eyes and listen closely. And the depression goes away. I just can't be depressed when I'm listening to music.

I really hope this helps you and you should try talking to your grandma. I think that she'd want you to and I think that she could help you too.

Answer 4

If this is an ongoing depression you should think about seeing a therapist. Talking to someone on a regular basis really helps. If it is a serious depression you may even consider taking some medication - my sister suffers from depression and she takes medication for it. It has helped 100%! If this is just a temporary depression than find a hobby to keep yourself busy! Try cooking or something! Also, exercise is great to do when you are feeling down...it gets some frustrations out and gives you time clear your head!

Answer 5

First off let me say how sorry I am about your dog. I myself am very attached to my dog and would feel the same way you do if anything happened to her. You mentioned that you could tell your grandmother, however you don't want to talk to her about these type of things. She might be more understanding then you think. It's a better option than smoking weed. Weed won't solve your problem it will only cover up the real problem. Shrinks really aren't as bad as you think, if you find a good one. Im talking more of like a therapist, who is there for you to talk to. There to listen and not there to judge you. Meds.. well I don't have a suggestion on that. Something that usually helps me if I'm down or upset is doing what you are doing now.. write it out. You have to be able to express whats going on inside of you, if you don't.. you'll explode. Do know that there are people in this world that really care about you, even if you don't think thats true. Hope you feel a little bit better.. if you need to talk, I'm here. :)

Answer 6

You know it might not be the dog. That could be you misplacing what is really bothering you. Psychologists called that displacement I believe. Where you are trying to make the issue something else that you feel you can deal with better. I lost my cat Chuckie to cancer a couple years ago so I know how that is.

It could be you need to work on your relationship with your grandparents, your caretakers and legal guardians. Sometimes people who have an unfulfilling home life turn to drugs. This is not a good choice. I suggest being as nice and considerate and caring as you can be to your loved one in the hope that they return this love, and you then will no longer be depressed or want to get high. Good luck!!!

Answer 7

I have reoccurring depression, or whatever they call it, so what helps me maybe be different for you.
I exercise, which is what amounts to a mindless task. other then the counting i can't think of anything. plus the endorphins in the brain cheer you up chemically.
I also find, and this if probably the last thing a psych person would suggest, getting angry helps. its the same basic principle, its often mindless and the chemicals in your brain get tossed around. reading the newspaper usually helps. in fact reading helps all together.
i think the worst thing you can do is think about it too much. if you let the thoughts roam around your head too long they start turning into imaginary situations, what if this, what if that, remember when.
dont get me wrong grieving and remembering is fine but the key is not drown yourself. you don't have to be sad all

Answer 8

Over the last five years I had begun to have increasingly withdraw into a downward spiral of depression..

But now with the method I can fully focus my energy and thoughts into a decisive line on how to make my life better constantly. And it works like magic! I'm beginning to attract people to me once again and things have just been looking up since then.

Helping you eliminate depression?

Answer 9

I have been suffering from depression since I was about 15 and I am 25 now and I just have to take everyday as it comes. I have been to see numerous psycholgists, doctors have been on prozac etc. but I stopped all that and I just try and tell myself every day it will be allright.

Answer 10

Death of a pets causes a lot of stress I agree. I had lost my pet rabbit last year and felt terrible. Animals seem to be better than humans...they do not lie...they are faithful...they respond to attention and love...

But humans are far superior. Live a life that will be of service to others. Make your goal in life to do something good to someone each day. Maybe a smile..a kind word..an encouragement...sympathy...just listening to someone ...You will feel good about yourself.

Most of all try to be close to God the Creator. Be grateful and thankful for small things and great ones. Know that 'All things work out for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose'.

There are many verses in the Bible to tell us God cares for us and how much He cares for us. Read the Bible everyday morning and evening.

Know that you are cared for!