I've been going out with my boyfriend for a few years now. He has a little sister that is 4 years old. The little girl is very social at times, but she is rather annoying. Even her older cousin's find her an annoying brat. She throws ridiculous tantrums over little things like candy and cartoons. She drinks soda and eats candy way after her bedtime and is very disrespectful to everyone. It's her way or the highway. I've gotten my bf to notice the issue. I know my bf's brought it up to his parents’ attention several times, but they make few attempts to correct her and quickly give up. I may not have a right to change her life, but she is getting out of hand and it is only becoming worse with time. How can I help them help her be more respectful and understanding? Or how can I help her myself?
2007-02-03 19:31:45 · 6 answers · asked by Zeda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Sorry to be so blunt, but I think the best way to help everyone in the situation is to realize it's not your battle to fight.
Even if you and your BF eventually get married, it's STILL not your battle to fight. Until this young girl's parents decide to parent their own child, it's NO ONE else's role to 'help' this brat understand how the world really works. And remember, she's only 4 years old...I know plenty of bratty 4-6 year olds that became reasonable middle schoolers. Well...perhaps not 'plenty', but enough to know it is possible.
Sorry to say, best thing you can do is keep your nose out of it or be labeled a meddler.
Best to you.
2007-02-03 19:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Timothy W 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being way out of line, this is not your family and you need to stay out of it, they raised your BF I'm sure they know what there doing. You need to not be over there so much and at bedtime you should be on your way home. You are a child yourself and obviously need discipline yourself if you can not stay out of others business.
2007-02-03 19:50:28 · answer #2 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't. It is not your place to tell her parents or the child how to act. If she directly is rude to you you could tell her not to do so, but otherwise you have no rights at all. Even if you do choose to approach the childs parents with your concerns I doubt they will listen, as from what you have said your boyfriend has voiced his concerns with his parents about the childs behaviour.
I think I would just spend less time around the child.
2007-02-03 19:42:42 · answer #3 · answered by auburn 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its really not in your place to tell her parents on how to discipline her. I think you should just leave well enough alone. If she bothers you, then just stay out of her way. Besides, she is in that age where all the kids act like that, there is really nothing you can do about it but wait it out.
2007-02-04 06:14:17 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a normal 4yr old. This is not your child, and you are simply a girlfriend. You have no rights or concerns here. If you don't want to be around her, then don't be. Mind your own business.
2007-02-04 00:39:50 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u don't. it's rude to tell ppl how to raise their children. besides, she in dat age, and kids will rebel all da tym, let them make their own mistakes and learn fo dem selves. they'll realize da path they wanna go on as they mature. fo now, let them be kids.
2007-02-03 19:35:48 · answer #6 · answered by bambam#1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋