My daughter is getting married coming summer i dont have money to help her with.?

Answer 1

Wedding are over priced anyway, I think spending all that money for one day is terrible. But I have a 25 year old daughter, I bet I will spend some money one of these days.

DONT GO IN TO DEBT, DONT TAKE A LOAN. If you cant help, you cant help, but if you have a sack full of money and you are being cheap SHAME ON YOU. There are folks out there that have plenty of money but are too CHEAP to spend it on anyone but themselves.

Answer 2

I'm sure she unerstands. There are many ways to cut costs in a wedding..
1- the dress David's Bridal has awesome sales, or find a white prom dress they are often cheaper and sometimes a lot prettier.
2- photos if it's a smaller wedding have friends and family take them then you get all different views of different things, or if the family has a friend that has a good digital camera and knows how to use it ask them if they will take the photos--this way you can see the pics right then and there w/ professionals you have to wait and pray you get good quality ( had many family members and friends go w/ a pro and got stuck with bad quality and you can't go back and re do them. If you go with a pro I strongly suggest you ask to see other weddings and events and for phone numbers of other customers for references type stuff just to check them out).
3- the reception- if you jusy have cake, mints, nuts and punch again this will cut your costs a lot..if you have one of those bulk stores ( Sam's Club of Costco) you can get huge boxes of the mints and nuts for a reasonable price, again if there is a group of people wanting to give the bride and groom a gift this is something that can be a gift ( my reception was a gift from my soon to be sister in law).
Flowers- go buy silks from a hobby store, they also have books that show you how to make them...silks are also easier to save.
Ceremony/ recerption place- find a place where you can have both, it will cut costs if you don't have to pay to use two different places.
Hair and stuff--have the ladies fix their own hair and makeup, they do it on a daily basis anyway, why pay for someone to do it for them...or again if there is a friend who is a stylist see if she'll do it as a gift.
Invites- (I didn't have them, but I had a family only wedding) but creft/ hoby stores have pretty paper you can make and print your own, if you have a "bulk" mailing somes times the post office will give you a bulk price.

I did all these things (I actually borrowed a dress which saved a lot of money) and my whole wedding (the costs of everyone involved) was amybe $500.00

Answer 3

You give what you can.

Money comes and goes...there's always more later, and never enough now.
...it's just money.

Your baby girl however is one of a kind, unique, and special...and 20 years from now she won't remember how much money you spent on her wedding, if any at all...but she will remember that you were there by her side, making the details as easy to manage as you could...and holding her up through the potentially stressful details of the planning stages.

A wedding isn't really about the money after all, is it?

My wife and I were married in a simple local church, in a simple ceremony of less than a dozen guests...we wore rented clothes and paid the reverend out of our pockets, and had no reception.
...That was 25 years ago, and neither of us has even a single negative memory of the wedding day.
We stood on our own two feet and took full responsibility for our new future...and we both believe that it made us stronger as a couple.

You can always finance a nice wedding gift, or start dropshipping items on eBay for cash...or even have localized talents to profit from, such as babysitting or latchkey sitter, term paper composition-typing, grocery delivery, etc.

Answer 4

Don't feel too bad, hon. You can help your daughter in other ways, like accompanying her on meetings and helping her do invitations, just being there for her when she gets overwhelmed. If you can afford small expenses, try covering the candy for the favors or some element of the centerpieces. If you catch some small expenses, I'd bet that would touch her heart since she knows your circumstances.

Just remember-if you show that you feel bad or keep apologizing for not being able to help, then it becomes about you, and she will feel bad as well.

The most important thing is to support her, and you can certainly afford to do that!

Answer 5

Well, she and her future husband will just have to come up with the money themselves. If they're old enough to get married, they're old enough to pay for it. Don't feel guilty - just be there for your daughter; your love and support is the best gift you can give her. I'm sure she is well-aware of your financial situation, and will completely understand.

Answer 6

Don't be a miserable mother.

Be positive and offer love and advice if she wants it.

You can give her the something borrowed, something new, something old, and something blue.

You can help her set up things like tables, chairs, and cook food for the reception.

Write to the Oprah show and see if they can host it. lol

Answer 7

well, why don't you keep everything simple? the bride and groom can call only their closest friends and family to the reception.. get them to help around... no need for a caterer... just cook your daughter's favourite food! she'll be thrilled!

Answer 8

My parents didn't financially help us out. They did things like do the invitation for me, help set up the reception, etc.

Answer 9

I don't know much about weddings but can you get a loan from the bank? A low budget wedding is still good =) I think you and your family should pull your resources together with their family and see what you get. =) I hope I helped.

Answer 10

just have her do a simple wedding with a justice of the peace which doesn't cost very much and then forego the reception until you can afford to give her one