My dad is greek and had a unique way of dicipline. whenever we did something wrong we had a family meeting after talking about it we decide about physical dicipline for instance my sister one time got spanked for 45 minutesfor coming late around 2 am when she was 16 , ...and every single member of family should contribute ) mom or dad hit ,rest hold the person ) that way everyone saw the consequence of doing wrong,one at a time, in this discipline and spank or cane the "bad" person... but we all turn out to be ok people we are all college graduate, drug free EVEN my rebel sister.. my dad has different stick from different materials which call it "tame tool" that a carpenter made for him,( oak is the most painful one trust me I couldn't seat for a week) is which was/still is my dad's closet, and we had to go on top of table in frog position and they hit you or depends on your punishment, palm of our hands or sole of our feet
2007-02-03 19:30:20 · 11 answers · asked by Handsome 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i think its a great way... i spank my kids all the time and they turn out to be fine...i mean discipline should be in a way that remember not in sissy way... never tried stick but belt work fabulous
2007-02-03 19:38:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well... that sounds embrassing and painful. I do have to say that I think that it is a good idea to have the whole family involved in the discussions of what has happened and appointing a punishment, because it makes a family communicate, and understand what the limits are. What I don't know about it the about of physical punishment that you talk about. I think there are many ways of punishing that are better than hitting of any kind. I can see a spanking in extreme cases but not too that degree! My parents got pretty creative with their punishments without resorting to a spanking. I had to do all the crappy chores, go do "community service" (free work for my neighbours and extended family), had a police officer come to our house and do a presentation for us once, research and write essays on certain topics and my Moms favourite "be her for a day"!
2007-02-04 06:30:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
that would be humilitating... embarassing.. and controling. and physical abuse. Also restraint and holding someone down is not good either. You may have turned out ok.. many abused people do. To have your siblings hold you down, to be beat until you are to sore to sit, to be humiliated.. to not be able to reason or explain.. to just be controlled and having to fit into the rules despite any circumstances.. is not good. i was raised in a contolling environment. It had it's merits.. I didn't dare rebel either. I was the perfect teenager. But as the years developed.. turned out that I had anxiety around people... I had depression.. I had a fear of people that thought I did something wrong (whether or not I felt I did or didn't). From being held down against my will i developed panic attacks and claustrophobia... I am over these things now... but I found it to be emotianoally damaging
2007-02-04 03:36:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I been physically punished before for 30-40 minutes(with a belt).It was abusive,uneccesary,and made NO difference in my behavior(perhaps just made it worse)it DID cause me to resent my parent and in turn made more of a communication problem with my parent than there was beforehand.
2007-02-04 05:10:29 · answer #4 · answered by Direktor 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
AHHH, ya??? I think you'd better find a different rout. You'll lose your children if you try that here in the states. There is nothing wrong with spanking, but it can't leave a mark. What you described, would most likely do more then leave a mark.
2007-02-04 03:37:57 · answer #5 · answered by olschoolmom 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think the biggest mistake I've seen parents making lately is assuming that what their parents did worked, when i see parents lying to their children acting rude and then yelling at their children for being too loud.
perhaps the solution isnt to punish "bad" behavior but prevent it before it happens. its as easy as just paying attention to what your kids are doing and you can pretty much figure out what they're going to do.
2007-02-04 03:40:41 · answer #6 · answered by David M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that would work in this society these days!Nor would it work on the next generation. Things get so out of hand when it comes to discipline these days. A good smack on the butt or hand will suffice these days!
2007-02-04 12:03:56 · answer #7 · answered by ♥xvioletx1882♥ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Reese wrote:
"but we all turn out to be ok people we are all college graduate, "
Whatever college that was, they need their accreditation taken away.
2007-02-04 07:27:01 · answer #8 · answered by kelly24592 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That's rather disturbing. Using a tool to beat a kid is illegal anyway.
2007-02-04 07:08:52 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg,,, that might just work just from the total humiliation factor! lol
2007-02-04 03:34:26 · answer #10 · answered by jarellsmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋