had my kid in june of last year while i was in jail(my 1st time white collar) i got realeased a week later and was living with the father and his parents for about a month. him and i werent getting along so i moved out. he moved out about a month later leaving my lil girl with his parents. i was still going through my trial so me and the grandmother desided it was best to let her stay there until i was done with everything just incase i had to finish my time. i did have to go back but im home now on house arrest just so i can be with her, but now her grandma doesnt want to give her back to me and is refussing me visitation. when i asked when i could see her she said she would go get custody and set up visitations. i never gave up my right and i want my kid but i dont know how to get her back. im also wondering if she brings her for a visit can i not just give her back even though shes been there since birth?her with me also but when i took the cops they didnt do anything. what do i do
2007-02-03 19:04:14 · 6 answers · asked by lucky 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
look i know it doesnt make me sound good but i was in jail for credit fraud, i let her father get me into it and i know it was wrong. it was my first and LAST time in jail. i live with my roomate and her grandparents so i dont work i help take care of them because they are disabled and they have agreed to support me and my baby who is 7 months btw and her name is cecelia.me and her grandmother were cool up until a few days after christmas. me and her dad wanted to see her and they said it wasnt a good time. he almost broke thier door down so they called they cops. now they pay him half his paycheck not to go into work and somehow this is all my fault when i was the one tring to calm him down. his parents drink every night and are two face its not a good place for my baby
2007-02-03 19:42:15 · update #1
If you have not signed over your rights to the woman, if you can get her to let you see her in your home once she brings the baby to you, you do not have to give her back and the only way she can get custody is to hire a lawyer and go to court to get her, it is very hard to take a child from the mother unless you are just a horrible person and have put the child in harms way, remember sh and has to leave the baby with you and then you do not have to give her back, this is why she does not have to give her back because the father left the baby with her, and the cops can do nothing about it. I would sugar coat that woman till she left the baby in my home and then tell her to get a lawyer if she wants her back,but you must be willing to do everything for the baby and keep your record clean, the babies environment must be clean ,safe and plenty of food. I hate that you two can not compromise because this woman has done a world of favors for you( your baby could be in CPS if not for her)and could end up being your best friend. Remember you put yourself and this position and you have to get yourself out. I know what I am talking about I have daughter 4 of them have put their children and them self in bad situations. Good luck.
2007-02-03 19:40:57 · answer #1 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you go to jail for? The cops just want whats best for your baby.
If Grandma is not wanting you to have visitation, just report it to child protective services.
Face it Grandma will get her day, when it comes between her and the Lord someday, cause we all will be judged.
And call the state police.
I hope that this helps
2007-02-04 03:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by AARON BLACK 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, take responsibility for what you have done. Quit blaming the dad for "getting you into it".
Secondly, if you never had your rights terminated, just go get your kid. If a court placed her with trhe grandparents then you are going to have a much bigger battle getting her back.
2007-02-04 11:08:20 · answer #3 · answered by J D 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is the baby.
it will probably go to court.
if you are a suitable mum and can care for the baby and love it courts wont say no. a child is best off with its mum than its grandma. you just need to make sure you can give this baby everything. and maybe not call her kid, im sure she has a name
2007-02-04 03:17:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat the old fools with a bat, their bones are brittle, they will break easy, I mean it is your right to take your kid back and mess up the rest of their life. Why leave them with their grandparents where they might learn to be productive members of society.
2007-02-04 03:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Nick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer, and if you can't afford one, go to legal aid.
2007-02-04 08:43:46 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋