What can i do to get him to answer my phone calls?

Question

ok i have liked this guy for about five years now. I never knew how much I have I really liked him; until just a few weeks ago. He knows that i like him. I wrote him a note telling him how i feel. i thought he felt the same about me. But Lately he hasn't been answer my phone calls. I try not calling him; but i wind up call him anyway. It is so hard; because i like him so much and now i am scared that he doesn't like me the same way back. And if he doesn't want to be with me i don't know what i will do; because he is the first guy i have EVER opened my heart up to. And that has been the hardest thing to do; because i usually try not to do that with people; because my mother was never for me as a mother figure. she has let me down my whole life and hurt me in ways that no one can ever fix. But she never has hurt me physicaly just emotionaly and mentaly. So i don't let people in; because i am afraid that they will hurt me just like she did. And him not want to be w/ me proves that to me!

I forgot to say that he has liked me for as long if not longer than i have liked him. And we have always been alot more than friends and he has told me before how much he likes me and he is going through alot of stressful things right now so is it the stress of his other problem or is it me?

Answer 1

hmmm... well if you've waited five years you can wait a little longer. I know what you mean when you say it's so hard not to call!! I guess it's a matter of discipline, or trying to focus on something else.

even though I have "learned" again and again not to call, I still do. I don't really know what to say, but if you want him to answer your calls you have to not call for awhile, or never.

Answer 2

Honey, if you really do feel that much for this guy, YOU MUST STOP CALLING HIM!!! he may have very well have liked you, but you're calling him often probably embarrasses him in front of his friends and it doesn't ever give him a chance to be the "hunter", another words, he can't chase you at all because you are in his face. I do realize this is very hard, but if you really aren't able to not call him, I would seriously suggest you get some help. Go to your counselor at school or just let your Mother know that you feel you need some professional help understanding your life or whatever. I'm not trying to be mean, just realistic and if you think about it I think you will agree. Good luck, you know you do have the rest of your life ahead of you. You honestly don't know that much about boys or men until your out of school and in the real world. Trust me, I'm a grandmother and I've been where you are.

Answer 3

Yeah girl he would be calling you or at least not avoiding your phone calls if he was even slightly interested. I'm sorry to say that, especially since it sounds like you've got some personal issues with trusting others and whatnot.

Don't take this as another example that proves your theory about your mom and people. Unfortunately part of life is getting hurt and rejected, even if it's your own family that does it. Focus on mending your feelings and eventually you'll feel comfortable with moving on emotionally with a guy way better than this dude your talking about now.

Answer 4

so , you have opened your heart to him , and thus far he has not responded ? am i correct here ?
first of all .if he truly liked you ? you would know it .do not panic and let him alone , either he is embarrassed ? or ? he does not share your feelings ..........
first think you must do : is stop calling him ! no more calls , respect yourself and do not chase him , i do not want to hurt your feelings here nor lack respect toward you :-)
be cool .........there is nothing wrong with you telling him your feelings .but ? he is into you as much as your are into him ?
for you to find out ? let him be .........do NOT call him again
when one gives an open heart to another ...one is either grateful ........or resentful .....that my be the reason he is not responding yet ?
give him time and if he does not call you back ; you will have your answer .
it is not the end of the world if he rejects you ...........? !
you are taking little steps in the domain of relationships and you may be disappointed a time or two ..you will grow stronger and learn not to share your feelings as quick or become more patient and wait , for the other to do it first , in order not to be hurt , since you seem very sensitive ,it is ok ..........someone will love you FOR YOU
he may not be the right one yet ............
trust yourself , and be good to yourself .............:-)

Answer 5

Males do not think as females. Point blank. They do not think about this stuff in detail. They do not obssess over it. If you wear your heart on your sleeve you will get hurt. Look towards your inner strength and not to others for approval. If he does not answer your calls, stop calling him. Think about it this way. The person you would cry over would make sure you never cried. Simple. Grab some inner strength and go forward with your life. There are TOO many more people to meet and get to know. This guy is not the only one in the sea.

Answer 6

while i grew to become into an eejit and did not save up with my costs, I many times skipped over any telephone calls as I hate speaking to individuals approximately how I might desire to have been to blame. They make you sense like a wee crumb!!! i think of which you're in a distinctive subject. in case you do not opt to talk to a undeniable chap, you would be extra sensible to respond to one time and only tell him which you're otherwise engaged and don't choose him to touch you interior the destiny. it would desire to look annoying to you, even nevertheless it is going to knock this on the pinnacle!!!

Answer 7

ok usually, when a guy likes a girl, he calls her the whole time....maybe 3 times he calls while she only has called him once.....so in my experience, guys don't like girls calling them allllll the time, they need their space and when the girl calls the whole time they get distant, meanwhile if the girl stops calling for a while, u will see he will call her often......that's just how it works....but hun in your case i doubt that he likes you in first place! i think u should move on, and maybe work on the hard feelings ur mother has left you with.....there is alot more nice guys out there, find someone that likes you and gives u what you deserve :)

goodluck...

Answer 8

that doesnt prove he's like your mother. if he's not answering you it only proves that he hasnt answered you for whatever reason and that is hurting your feelings. how to get him to answer you, i dont know. maybe he had a father that he learned from not to answer women or run from them when they showed their feelings. guess you could decide on a time limit in which you can be patient with the silence. then just move on. just remember, he's not ur mom. peace

Answer 9

I think you need to move on . Sounds like he doest want to talk to you. maybe you need to open up more. Life is to short . Don,t ever write a note to a guy. Thats suck.

Answer 10

You sound like you are panicking! It makes you sound desperate. Just try not calling him for awhile. If you keep calling him you'll probably scare him away.