Should I leave? What to do?

Question

I'm sick of my parents telling me what to do with my life. I just turned 18 in December and i'm still going to high school, and have pretty average grades. Hell, they won't even let me out of the house for more than 1 or 2 days out of the week besides school. I had a job for a year and was forced to quit cuz of them. Everytime I want to goto a concert or hangout with friends, 90% of the time, its a no and I can't even stay out till midnite and the reason always is directed towards one thing. My average grades, and the fact that they think i'm a failure. They don't talk to me about anything at home and all they do is buy stuff for me to try and compensate for love but its made me really depressed being around them. When i'm elsewhere, I seem to feel happy, but i can't help feeling so low when I'm around them. It makes me feel anxious, stressed, and frustrated cuz they're also obsessive compulsive.

Answer 1

Trust me it has someone to do with conflicting hormones or something,My dad makes me mad enough to chew bricks sometimes but runnig isn't the answer tell them waht they're causing you to consider and how insecure and unhappy they're making you feel and if they dont change,you're 18!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

You SHOULD be worried about school and not partying. Your parents want you to make something of yourself so they push school as the should. Get going, get yourself together and get to college. Don't be stupid by moving out to wherever to get a hoser job being a cashier someplace so you can prove to your parents that you can make it on your own. Prove to yourself and to your parents that you can kick butt in school, go on to college and graduate with a degree. Everything else should be secondary to you right now. Also, if you start getting awesome grades I'm sure a concert or two may get a yes answer from your parents. It is OK to be smart. Not all girls have to be stupid in todays world do they. The better you do in school, the better the college you can go to. The better you do in college the better the job you can get and then you can really live it up because then you can really afford to live on your own and take care of yourself. Trying to move out onto your friends parents sofa isn't a good life plan to avoid the parents that are just trying to get you to realize what you should be doing to make the most of your life. Get in the game! You are too smart to be selling yourself so short in life.

Answer 3

First finish school.
In the mean time find something that they do that is nice .
Having some one putting food on the table that you did not work for and giving you a free place to live is great. When you get out in the world you will see how much it really meant to you ,Right now you have nothing to compare it to .
.Enjoy it while you have it ,some day far in the future I hope ,You might need a baby sitter :)

Answer 4

no one can stop you from leaving, but ask youself this question first: do you think you can handle it out there by yourself? i'm no expert on these matters, but i can't say that i've never had thoughts like that, either. what i can say is this: just try to understand your folks. maybe they have a good reason to treat you the way they do. maybe you can try to talk to them about it. no shouting or anything coz that might make things worse. i understand how you feel, believe me, coz i've had just about the same experience, and so have a lot of other teens, i'm sure. just sit down and work it out. don't be in such a rush to be independent. maybe your parents are just being overporotective because they worry too much. prove to them that you can take care of yourself well enough, but not at the expense of not following their rules and the like... good luck!

Answer 5

I know parents are a pain in the butt, but I don't think you should leave. From what you wrote, I don't think you're a failure. :o) Cheer up.

Thinking of your parent's perspective, I think they just want to see you succeed and might just cutt off your ties with things that might hold you back. My grades went downhill when I hung out with my friends non-stop. I feel similar to what you're feeling, but honestly -- there will be truckloads of things to deal with if you leave. I think you should someone to talk to about this -- and the best people would probably be your parents. But it'll probably be hard.

Overall, don't leave.

Answer 6

dont be so discouraged at your parents for careing for you and wanting to keep you safe and protected. this is normal. of course they may be a little over protective in your view, but never the less it is all done with the best of intentions for you whom they love.
so yeah, if you are really tired of being on lock down and want to run wild then get a job and prepare yourself to move out. WARNING!!!!! it wont be that easy once you are on your own, but everyone should try to fly one day. that is the goal. but try not to move out with such negative feelings towards your parents.
stay focused. what is it that you are really seeking.
anyways good luck and love your parents cause they are only here temporary. they too shall pass and they love you. so begin your journey cause you want to, not cause you are sick of them loveing you. :)

Answer 7

i know how you feel and i did what you thinking about what your going to do but that isnt the answer but your family might brack you down or emmbersing you or just making you straight up mad but the anser is that they are the one who you going to be at the end of the day .

Answer 8

parents are so flawed. just remember that and work on it. but at least yours try to show you they love you.
if i were u the next time my mother buys me something i'd just talk to her...very honest, but at the same time don't let her feel she lost your respect.
see what happens after you let it all out...

Answer 9

Get yourself another full time job save your money and get a place of your own.