there is a book out... I know about!
The New Strong-Willed Child: Birth Through Adolescence
by James Dobson ...
But, I would like more opinions.
My daughter is eight and always has to have the last word.
Always talks back.. and definately feels hurt when she doesn't get her way!
2007-02-03 17:58:57 · 8 answers · asked by Michael - OKC 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Don't let her have the last word. Keep at her. She has to learn that she can't have her way. Feeling hurt because she doesn't get her way is called pouting. Let her pout! After she has been corrected, wait until she shows that she can behave and not pout, then go to her to reassure her that she is loved and you do this because you love her. If you didn't, you wouldn't waste your time and energy on her. Give it to her straight. You mentioned a book by James Dobson, use the Bible. God says that a person who is not corrected is a, to put it nicely, a fatherless child. Use your beliefs to back up what you are doing. Strong will isn't bad, she just needs to learn to accept punishment and correction.
2007-02-04 02:18:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of it depends on the parent's personality. If the parent is not strong willed, it makes it very difficult. Often strong willed chidren like to make choices, this often solves the problem. When they feel they have power, they settle down. Make the choices similar, but let the child feel like they are making a choice. WE are having fruit with lunch, would you like an apple or a pear ? Stick with those 2 only. Don't let the child go choosing on their own, then you are going in the wrong direction.
2007-02-04 01:32:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
((((Big hugs)))
I know what you are going through.My 8 year old does the same thing.Yells screams most of the time acts like a big baby when she don't get her way.Everytime i tell her to get started on her homework she screams"IN A MINUTE" Everytime you try to talk to her she covers her ears and screams"Blah blah blah"When you tell her to quit talking back she says "Im just saying" trying to get the last word. An yet when shes at school or at someone elses house shes an angel. I have started just sending her to her room till her fit is over. I tell her the living room is my space and shes not allowed to throw fits in it .that works for a while and then Ive tried to make her stand in a corner. Oh boy what a mistake "My legs hurt I cant stand here".I just want you to know you are not alone. I am going through the same thing. Good luck to you!
2007-02-03 21:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
With clear rules and boundaries and stating what the consequences are for breaking the rules and following through with the punishment. You must be consistent. You have to be a parent first.
I don't know why you brought up the book unless it's your way of advertising for "Dr." Dobson. I have no respect for the man.
2007-02-03 18:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by thefinalresult 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Be more strong willed than her.No means no and do not give in.The thing is she will not get her way when she is grown.
2007-02-03 18:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by Jim C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have a preschoooler so it's a little different. However, it's the same....CONSEQUENCES! Take things away, time-outs, and a reward chart.
2007-02-03 21:36:45 · answer #6 · answered by avalonlee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
close the door and go old school on that child.the world had a lot less problems when we were aloud to punish. we grew up with respect
2007-02-03 19:28:28 · answer #7 · answered by shawn m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
she's 8, she will deal with having to not get her own way.'
2007-02-03 18:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by LadyCatherine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋