What do the dorky guys get?

Question

I'm 5'9", weigh 160lb, I actually run, and try to keep a good appearance (if you look good you feel good). I'm involved in intramural sports, I act as liaison to prospective students, etc. But that doesnt change who I am. I'm a dorky guy who hasnt had a girlfriend ever. I try to talk to girls but I get nowhere. This has been going on pretty much all my life. I actually go out with people who are pretty good, something about me puts them off. My friends dont know, but I'm just bummed out and on weekends I usually just play video games.

FYI:
I'm actually finishing up a PHD, I'm 29. Never get past the first date.

Answer 1

You are a smart guy. Observe the behavior of some guys who have dates. See how they act, their body language, the types of things they talk about, their tone of voice. You can copy them, emulate them, and see if you can pretend you are not a dorky guy. After a while, you might find that you aren't acting anymore, and there is a new and improved less dorky you!
Also, I know it's been said before, but there are so many single girls out there who wish they had a date. You are in the drivers seat. There might be a beautiful yet dorky girl waiting for you to find her!

Answer 2

The adage that opposites attract is a falsehood. Relationships are better when your partner is like yourself in many ways. If you're a dorky guy, look for dorky girls. As a PhD student, you probably come across a lot of intellectual chicks with dork tendencies. They may not be the best lookers, but nothing is achieved without sacrifice. I too consider myself somewhat of a dork and a homebody and my best relationship was with my first girlfriend in high school , who was also a geek and homebody. We had several study dates that turned into make out/sex sessions and could play video games together until 2 am. Although, she did leave me a jock football player. Still, the time we had together was nice and worth remembering.

Answer 3

Well..A. Women don't like nice guys. Once you get your PHD and start making the money. They will be all over you like white on rice. But make sure you get a prenuptial ...and don't have any kids. Till your married....but get a good lawyer. Women like men who give them a challenge. Something to complain about to there friends, but not bad enough to leave you for. Hence the reason so many women like the "BAD BOYS" but end up getting hurt. It's that thrill. And don't let them fool you. They all say they want a good man...yadda yadda yadda...but when they have one right in front of there face. They will take the tattoo wife beater over you any day till you start making that money.

Answer 4

wow that is pretty uhm.....odd i would say lol
i guess it might be ur shyness that is putting ppl off like is there alot of silent moments on ur first date? cuz if there is the "significant " other will think, "hum.......maybe he is not interested in me cuz he is soooooooo quiet. " so i guess if u change that it might help
also, perhaps u might need to be a lil bit more romantic on ur dates it might help too like don't lavish them with gifts and stuff but simply be very sweet and kinda boyish charm type thing .....cuz sometimes form what i know PHD ppl are too serious and the intimidate others
good luck

Answer 5

Hmm... is this because you're too 'picky' when it comes to girls?

Or maybe, you go out with girls, based on appearance.. and come to find out, they have an absolutely dull personality? (This has happened to me, plenty of times).

Now, I'm not saying to settle down with the first semi-acceptable girl that you come across. I respect the fact that you have standards set for yourself. But, you need to understand.. This is "Yahoo Q & A". We're not personal therapists, or miracle workers. We're normal people with problems, too. All I can suggest is, to stand back and take a closer look at your situation. Maybe you'll find something out about yourself.

Good luck, hopes this helps.

Answer 6

consistent with probability there's a miles less probability they cheat on you and that they are going to be genuine to you. majority of the nice and comfortable adult adult males have many girlfriends and you'd be a loss of risk-free practices. i like dorky women too :D *somewhat, not being sarcastic !! * ^^ the female i like is rather cuteeee. haha yet she already has a bf :(

Answer 7

Being a PhD I assume your intelligent.
Do your dates get bored? Are you talking to them or at them.
Keep the conversations light no deep thinking theories.

Women like to have a fun time and are probably not interested in quantum physics.
Take up dancing (yes you heard me dancing)

Answer 8

Hey man I'm single too, so don't worry. There is nothing wrong for being single all your life.
I have had some girlfriends who have dumped me and I have had some that I had dumped them, and I am not going to explain reasons why we dumped one another.

And never push your lady friends aside, cause they may be wanting to go out with you.

I hope that you are not prejudice, cause that may be the reason why.

Answer 9

Looks aren't everything. You have to be able to hold a girl in a conversation that is captivating. That's the key. If your personality shines through, there is nothing stopping you from finding the perfect match. Just loosen up a bit (not too much though. . .that just doesn't work out either).

Answer 10

It's because you exude an attitude of neediness. You exude an attitude of neediness because you need a healthy relationship. It doesn't make any sense, but I have similar problems and I think we're both just basically screwed, but only in a metaphorical sense.