i think it is. but my friends say im retarded. the guy already wants to marry me. we've been going out for a year. i love him so much and i would do most things for him. the only thing i wont do is have sex. and my friends say that i dont really love him because i dont want to have sex with him. are they right?
2007-02-03 17:54:06 · 25 answers · asked by summer :] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm going to go with no. You are so young - I know it seems very real and important right now but trust me - you have so much more growing to do. You won't even be the same person in a year.
2007-02-03 17:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by salsadancingtiffany 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you may care for this guy but true love at 13 ? No way !! Most adults can't even handle it and that's the truth . Please don't let your fiends tell you it's all about sex .... they are too young to have any idea what it's all about and are not giving you advice based on experience because they don't have any. Remember , this is about your life.What you do now can and will have an effect forever. What if you got pregnant ? Can you imagine having a child depend on you for everything? Every minute of every day !! You have zero freedom and few choices left in your life. I don't know how old your friend is but I'd guess he's pretty young and would eventually bolt at the responsibility of a child .Is this a chance you want to take with your life? Relationships are hard and take much personal sacrifice to make them work. You are so young ....... take your time , explore your options , learn a little more so you know what those options might be .Please think long and hard before acting in this situation ..... you stand to lose so much !!
2007-02-03 18:12:17 · answer #2 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is entirely possible that you love this boy. But (didn't you just know there was going to be a "but"?) you are only 13. Don't get me wrong, 13 is a wonderful age. It's just that you are still growing mentally and you'll change every year. You at 13 loves TJ at 13, okay, but will who you will become at 14 love who TJ will be at 14? And then 15, 16? Who can say? You will both be very different people by then. Right now though, you love him. And it's wonderful. Savor it while you can. You will never be in love at 13 again in your life. Treasure every moment.
As far as having sex with this boy; it's not that you don't love him; it's that you're not ready, and you know it.
2007-02-03 18:06:30 · answer #3 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wrong, your friends are 13 of course they are wrong. As for being in love at an early age it's not completely imposable years ago I'm talking the 50's most people were married at 16 but most people didn't graduate, there was a war going on, and life expectancy was lower. Don't get in a hurry and I hate to burst your bubble but you are going to have many loves between here and marriage. If your still convinced of true love then that's fine but you don't have to have sex to prove it. In fact, if this guy really loves you it shouldn't matter he should be willing to wait for you. Good Luck Girl.
2007-02-03 18:03:14 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friends definitely aren't right when they say it's not love because you don't want to have sex with him. I suppose love is possible at 13. Rare, but possible. Don't get your hopes up too high, but don't doubt it either. You're not retarded for thinking it's true love. Stay with the guy for as long as you believe you truly love him. Don't let your friends be the reason you and him would ever break up.
2007-02-03 17:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is possible for you to love them to a certain degree. It seems the older we get the more capable we are of loving someone, and as you get older you love deeper. You will understand this as you get older. I think its great that you don't have sex with him, especially at such a young age. I know everyone has different opinions, but I strongly believe that sex should wait until after you are married. By not having sex with him, it definately doesn't mean that you don't love him, infact, I think it means just the opposite. Good luck in life, and take care. :)
2007-02-03 18:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each moment you exist exposes you to more truths about yourself and your surrounding world. Is true love possible at 13? Perhaps. Is it possible at all? You will feel differently about this when you're 20. I don't claim to have all the answers, but neither should anyone else. You are in constant evolution. In regard to sex and love, they're two concepts as different as jelly and bricks. Sex is an act. Whether or not it reflects your love is up to you. Rape doesn't reflect love, for example.
2007-02-03 18:00:56 · answer #7 · answered by tercellulite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It can be possible,who knows. Only time will tell. I agree that is great that you are holding off on sex. You guys are both young and as time progresses people tend to change. My In-Laws met when they were 13, got married at 18, and 28 years later are still happily married so it can happen:)
2007-02-03 18:02:07 · answer #8 · answered by jade_143 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Completely possible to be in love, completely sensible to hold back on sex. Wanting someone just for sex is not love, it is lust. It can come with love, but is not an indicator of it. Your friends sound like the jerks at my school who go around asking people if they wax their privates or touch themselves for practice. Figure out what you and your guy need, not to what other people think you need. Good luck in true love! :)
2007-02-03 18:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by adanarama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in case you are able to fall in love even as your 16, 20, 30, etc, then i do not see why you are able to't fall in love once you're 13. Age is only a kind, after all. yet, i imagine 13 year olds (do not take offence to this, it really is for all 13 year olds) are somewhat naive and, like you, they get infatuated, yet they're particular this is love (i understand from adventure). this is more effective sturdy for someone youthful to inform the version between love and infatuation. ~Nicole.xx
2016-10-17 05:08:58 · answer #10 · answered by hoch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR FRIEND ARE RETARDED ASSES WHO SHOULD BE SHOT, NO, WAIT, THAT'S AN INSULT TO RETARDED PEOPLE. Your too young to know what true love is, especially if your only 13, and even more so if you've only been going out for a year. Go out with him for another four year's, if he pressure's you for something sexually, it's not meant to be, but if he excepts it to when you turn 18, he's probably a keeper, or, he just might be cheating on you, ether one.
2007-02-03 18:05:01 · answer #11 · answered by anthonys152000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋