Do men get attached to women they have sex with? I've been FWB off and on with this guy for about 6 years... recently we have been getting together again, about once a week on average. Last time I saw him, he was telling me how much he loves me, and how I'm his 'dream girl'. He was talking about how in some ways he wishes we had been together 'exclusively' from 6 years ago, but how we both needed to experience some life before converging paths again... he was also saying he wants to make a point of seeing me a lot more, and how i'm his 'girlfriend'.
I'm not sure if he actually means all of this though, or if he just thinks he is being romantic for the moment. How common is it for a guy to fall for his FWB? I'm not particularly attentive to him, and I don't really go out of my way for him, so i'm not sure why he is feeling so attached to me. The sex is very very good, so maybe he is just attached to the sex?
2007-02-03 17:49:43 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I told him- he doesn't need to soften me up at all! We have a good agreeement and I don't need to hear the sweet talk. he knows that. Which is why I am confused by his behavior.
I like our situation. I don't have time for a regular boyfriend, and we have a great agreement. But I don't have time for all of the emotional stuff he is bringing to the table.
2007-02-03 18:01:07 · update #1
I don't have to read the rest of your question to tell you that guys just don't get attached to women for having sex AT ALL. NONE.
Even being married, what I feel for sex, my husband doesn't. He can turn it on and off...all men are like that.
So whatever that guy is saying to you, it's to warm you up to him for the next time he comes knocking on your door.
Don't give yourself up so easily. Have some respect for yourself and your body. You deserve better than that.
I read your comment later...
After 6 years, the guy could be feeling some regrets or his conscience is telling him that using you for sex is wrong so he has to reason that what he doing is okay if he just "treats" you on a more real level than just a booty call. He's probably doing it for himself more than for you, he knows you don't need it, but he's probably feeling pretty empty and hollowed...being an FWB can be exhausting if there's no personal satisfaction.
2007-02-03 17:54:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i might could say the lady. in many cases they have extra ability for emotional attachment, to that end leaving them with thoughts for the FWB. in my opinion, i'm a guy yet i'm form of gentle and emotional (ie: girly) and that i'm the related one. besides the incontrovertible fact that the only FWB's i've got ever had have been females that I had thoughts for besides, so i'm no longer a hundred% specific.
2016-10-01 09:50:47 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No guys don't fall in love just because you have sex w/ them. Guys will have sex w/ you if you let them and he probably thinks by saying what he thinks you want to hear he"ll keep getting it. If you are OK just being friends w/ benefits tell him your not expecting anything and if you want more stop giving away the milk for free and see how long he keeps coming around.
2007-02-03 17:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men will get attached to a woman, a lot like women get attached to men, but there may be a different level for a man. It sounds like he wants more then you do.
2007-02-03 17:56:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it very normal to get attached to someone that you are with
after 6 years it possible, but it also could be the sex, because
if he want more then why has he made a effort to be more then
fwb, also how do you feel about him as well. are you looking for
more. maybe you need to really talk about what going on.,
2007-02-03 17:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋