Girlfriend whants some time apart ???? what does it mean?

Question

I had a fight with my girlfriend because we were spending to much time togheter telling me that im controling but i didnt want it to seem that way ... i just love spending time with her and we are dating for only 2and half months and im not in that place where i jsut need time apart .... I asked her... Do you still want to make this relationship to work? She said " i dont know what i want" and then i asked her-Are we on a break and she said " i dont know what are we on i just need some time to myself to figure what i want" She says that she still loves me ( but i dont know if she knows that for a fact or is she just thinking that ).......... i hope i get positive answers :)) cause i love her a lot and this waiting thing eats me inside and its killing me :(

I had a fight with my girlfriend because we were spending to much time togheter telling me that im controling but i didnt want it to seem that way ... i just love spending time with her and we are dating for only 2and half months and im not in that place where i jsut need time apart .... I asked her... Do you still want to make this relationship to work? She said " i dont know what i want" and then i asked her-Are we on a break and she said " i dont know what are we on i just need some time to myself to figure what i want" She says that she still loves me ( but i dont know if she knows that for a fact or is she just thinking that ).......... i hope i get positive answers :)) cause i love her a lot and this waiting thing eats me inside and its killing me :(

I would like to know if a guy has been in this situation and what happen ..... and girls if u ever told a guy that u need time and what happen

Answer 1

Give her the space she needs. Get in touch with her now and then to see how she is doing. But surely, give her some space. I think she is feeling a lil suffocated. If you both decide to be together, make sure, you continue to give her some space. I know how it is with some of us, we just love hard. Perhaps, she is not at that exact intensity with you. Or maybe her style of loving is different. When she has calmed down, talk to her if she ready to talk....and u both can discuss calmly, what u both can do to make the relation more smoother. But right now, give her that space. She seems stressed.

Answer 2

When someone tells you they need time, sweetie 9 times out of 10 it is their way of getting out of the relationship. They don't want to fight so this is their way to get out without making the other person upset. They make you think that there is a chance when deep inside you know that there isn't. I'm sorry, I know you were hoping for positve results but I speak from experience, except it was him that needed the "time". I never saw him again.

Answer 3

Think of the whole "I need some time apart" thing like exploratory surgery. She likes you, so she doesn't want to cut you completely loose. But she wonders if she may be able to find someone else better. If your relationship is like a guy on the operating table, she wants to cut him open to see what's wrong, and she wants to do that by having some time to herself to think and comparing you to other guys. Why? That all depends on what she wants. Perhaps the sex isn't good enough with you, or maybe she wants a better provider, or maybe you wants someone to understand her better, or it could be that she has some sort of masochistic fantasy that she isn't comfortable sharing with you. Who knows?

In short, the time apart things means that she likes you but she still hopes to find someone better. And if she can't find better, she'll settle for you.

Answer 4

They say absence makes the heart grow fonder
But not in all cases, Some time apart Usually
means she wants to date other people, to see
if you are what she really wants.