when do you know your in love?...what do you do when someone tells you they love you?
my boyfriend tells me loves me..but i cant say it back because i dont know if thats what im feeling. does anyone know what real love is suppost to feel like? can anyone help me?..i want to tell him i love him too, but not if its not real. what should i do?
2007-02-03 17:30:53 · 14 answers · asked by sally s 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Please don't take the advice of everyone who's saying that you're supposed to be "feeling butterflies" or he's supposed to seem perfect to you if you love him. That phase isn't called love. It could be a crush or infatuation or anything else that isn't love. Love is very hard to define, but I would probably say that it's when you can get so angry with someone because you care about them enough to. Love is when you see a person exactly as they are, with all their flaws, since everyone has flaws, but you accept the person anyway. It's when you put them before yourself, and you know that if you take away anything physical that you do with the person, or anything material they happen to give you, you would still care about them. If this is how you feel about your boyfriend, I think it's safe to say you love him. Good luck deciding.
2007-02-03 17:54:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you must know what Love is, The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth. Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-6,7). Next, How do you find True love like that of a Soul Mate? Think about my five biblical principles for finding your soul mate: Ask yourself:
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? He is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? He understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29
To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process.God Bless!
2007-02-04 01:37:24 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know you are in love when:
you asked yourself, self, can I see my life in the future without him/her in it? If you know you couldn't, you might be in love.
If you want to ensure that his/her life would be as full as you believe yours is as a result of being together, you could be in love.
If you know that he/she can be trusted, that he/she is loyal and supportive of you and any decisions you will make in the future, you could be in love.
And finally, if you accept him/her flaws and all. If you have concluded that even if "you can't change him" you would still love him, you are probably in love.
Love fills you up, it will give you the power to be what your insecurities have always taken from you and your partner in turn gets that from you.
Until you are ready to tell your "boyfriend" you love him, you could tell him that "you love being with him and that he is very important to you"
If "you are not ready to commit to being in love" with your boyfriend, tell him. It is something you want to be honest about because the consequences of not being true to yourself hurts not only your boyfriend but yourself in the end.
2007-02-04 01:54:39 · answer #3 · answered by Mangomum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in front of the person u love,ur heart beats faster.In front of a person u love,winter seems like a spring.
If u look into the eyes of the one u love,u blush.
In front of the one u love,u tend to get shy.
U can't look straight into the eyes of the one u love.
When the one u love is crying,u cry with him.
The feeling of love starts from the eye.
But if u try to close ur eyes,love turns into a drop
of tear & remains in ur heart forever.....
2007-02-04 01:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Nimbu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you love spending time with him more than anybody else? Do you miss him when he's not around? The biggest thing for me is knowing that i can be myself and totally comfortable around my girlfriend. If you feel those things you're probably in love.
2007-02-04 01:38:24 · answer #5 · answered by kingjustinpants 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love has different meanings for everybody, even between couples, and that's just fine. imagine yourself saying it to your boyfriend. If it feels ok, then say it to his face. If it doesn't feel so right, then maybe you should wait.
2007-02-04 01:37:32 · answer #6 · answered by i wish i knew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is wanting the other person to be happy.
2007-02-04 01:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love is something that cannot be describled or prehaps something people thinks it was complicated but actually it wasn't. We are not you, we don't know how you thinks and feel, the best way is to follow your heart.
2007-02-04 01:35:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
love is the closest thing we have to magic. we know it when we know it. if some one tell u they love u, u have to consider if they really mean it. don't say it if u will not mean it
2007-02-04 01:48:25 · answer #9 · answered by sailermoon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you think of him in every breathing second?
do you get "butterflies when you see him even if you have been going out with him for months?
do you miss him when he is not with you?
would you die or give your life for him if something happened?
2007-02-04 01:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by ☼♫☆☺♡♥☺☆♫☼ 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋