why am i still in luv with the a jerk?

Question

i was going out with a guy
i thought he luved me like i did to him
but wen we went on christmas break and came back
he broke up with me the meanes way he just ignored me
he didnt even have the guts to tell its over
and the next day i saw him holding hands witha new girl
i cryed for so manny days
a & i still do
i dont wanna luv somebody who is such a jerck
but i cant help it
i miss him so much
even though he was a jerk
its been about 2 months
and he is the only thing on my mind anymore
my grades got so bad cuz hes all i think bout in class
why do i still luv him

Answer 1

You know, the same thing happened to me. Just tell yourself that you deserve much better than an idiot like him...It worked for me!
Good Luck! :-D

Answer 2

Ok...let's think about this. Are you still thinking about him because you love him, or because you're in disbelief that he could treat you so badly? Sounds to me like you're stuck on him because he dumped you in a crappy way, not because you love him. And even if you did love him, it's obvious he doesn't love you at all. I'd even go as far as to say that he doesn't even care about you if he didn't even have the balls to tell you anything and just went and grabbed a new girl.

I'm not saying you're wrong for being upset, that's perfectly alright. Letting your grades suffer, however, is not allright. If your grades are suffering, pretty soon other areas of your life will start to suffer and then you could end up with some serious psychological problems. And, also, it will mean that he has control over your life. He's a jerk, like you said, and he doesn't deserve to have the kind of control and influence that he currently has over you.

So, now you have a choice. You can either sit around wasting your tears and your time, like you're doing now, and letting your grades and eventually everything else suffer......or you can decide that he's not worth it and you're going to pick yourself up and move on to someone who appreciates you. So which one are you going to pick?

I hope I was helpful. I wish you the best. :)

Answer 3

The reason why you still love him is because you just do and love does not go away that easy especially if it is real love. He is just a very big jerk. And I think that you should talk to him to see what had happen to the relationship because you need to know so you can have some kind of closer. Don't try to get back with him because if he is going to blow you off like that.Then you deserve someone better that is going to care for you the same way you care about them. Good Luck, And remember you never look for love let love find you.

Answer 4

Perhaps you are too young to be in love. And you haven't yet learned how to handle rejection and the break up of a relationship.

True love has to be mutual. Or else it's not love anymore but an obsession or an addiction that harms you.

One of the ways to break an addiction is to use a substitute that redirects your feelings and behavior and prevents you from harming yourself.

Smokers who are trying to give up sometimes use nicotine patches or chewing gum spiked with nicotine in order to stop smoking.

Perhaps you can do something similar to break your love addiction. Find another guy to go out on a date with. Find another boyfriend. And your feelings for the one you are in love with now will disappear over time.

Answer 5

You never got closure. He never actually told you why he chose to end the relationship and when that happens it's difficult to move on because you are left to try to figure out what you did wrong. But do you really want to know why he ended it so abruptly and without explanation? Having someone you care about tell you what they didn't like about you is painful to hear. Also it's not necessary because what he didn't like is not your problem it's his problem, and those quirks may be what the next man finds so endearing about you! Just know he wasn't the one for you especially since he didn't treat you with the respect you deserve, and believe me girl you deserve to be treated with respect! So forget him and focus on what a wonderful person you are and how lucky your next boyfriend will be to have a girl like you.

Answer 6

I will tell you exactly why. Its because he dumped you and it hurt your pride. It is not really that you love him, but you are humiliated and in your mind you cant put it to rest. I completely understand. You have to train your mind to forget about him even though its very hard to do. consentrate on school and go out with your friends. go out with other guys. The reason you are hurt is because you love yourself and this guy damaged your self esteem. I feel for you but you have to move on. Every time you think of him remember that he is not good enough for you. I promise you from the bottom of my heart that you will get over him and find someone much better that will treat you good.

Answer 7

I don't think it's love that's hurting you.
I think that because of the way he rejected you, you're hurting. I think you may be confusing the "love" that you feel, with hurt.
Let it go and move on sweetie. There are plenty more guys where he came from. If he broke up with you that way, think about what he's going to do with his new gf. Feel lucky that you found out in the early stages of your relationship.
He's not worth the tears you're losing. Don't let it control your life and your grades.
Cheer up.

Answer 8

U can't let go of him because he had a special place in ur heart and still does.U need to get over this guy.There are other fish in the sea.Good Luck:-)

Answer 9

At your age I know that things like this can be really difficult, but you have to move on. Try and occupy yourself by doing other things. Find something to do that you really enjoy.

Answer 10

Women are naturally attracted to assholes. Ya, Ill admit it. With an asshole, you never know whats going to happen next, they are dominant, and its a real emotional see-saw. Its like crack. Myself Ive messed with a few minds, not intentionaly, but ya. Theres your answer.