I have been communicating online with a guy for three months.
he lives 200 miles away in Boston.
we are supposed to finally meet at the end of this month.
at first he said he'd come visit me, then he said his work is crazy and maybe I could come see him.
Im not going to come see him, but will tell him he's welcome to visit me.
thing is is that he couldve driven to see me tonight, Saturday.
he told me he'd be too tired because of working all day saturday.
well we have IMd or talked every friday/saturday night for 3 months.
now he's not around at all and its almost 1:30 am.
Last week he started to ask more frequently for full bodied pics. now Im thinking he was comparing me to someone
near where he lives and must be out on a date ?
we have had the best conversations, but i feel like he may have been leading me on.
why would he spend so many hours getting to know me if he wasnt truly interested ?
And we're not that young, Im 30, he's 34.
Also I checked out his background
2007-02-03 17:27:18 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
with his approval. He came up as a 'real' person. One thing is though he never told me that he broke off an engagement last year when the wedding was already paid for (found this out online thur googling)
Should he have told me ?
2007-02-03 17:28:48 · update #1
Run...... don't ever meet people online.....
2007-02-03 17:33:04 · answer #1 · answered by girlperson 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ABSOLUTELY DO NOT GET INTO A SITUATION WITH THIS GUY ALONE! Sometimes things come up and it is what it is but you can NEVER be too careful with your own safety and well being. I met my current boyfriend of 8 years online and I came to where he lives with absolutely no care in the world for my safety. That was 8 years ago. Now with an ever increasing internet predator population roaming the net, you should be more careful. DO NOT MEET HIM IN PRIVATE! Meet him in a public place with at least one friend watching from a safe distance. This guy could turn out to be totally ok but you don't want to take that chance in this day and age. Your life and well being is at stake don't chance it.
2007-02-04 01:39:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The is always going to be skeletons in a person closet.
You have done a very good job of digging that one up.
As far as your feelings and thinking about why and what he's up to, you might be on the right track with this as well.
Be weary of a guy that doesn't come out and start things off on the right foot by telling the truth. This is a very good sign of other bad things.
Take care but, follow your mind on this one.
Good Luck
2007-02-04 01:34:19 · answer #3 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would spend more time talking to him, If your questioning weather to trust him or not, you probably should know the answer already. NO(you shouldn't have to second guess). If his work is that demanding do you want to be second to work or be number one? I would go and find someone closer, remain friends, and see what comes of it. Did you ask him why he broke the engagement off? If you have decided together to be exclusive that's one thing, but I wouldn't be chasing after someone I only talked to twice a week 200 miles away...
2007-02-04 01:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by Mindy A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably scared! Most people think it's just fine to flirt online but when it comes to meeting that person you flirt with you freak out. Some people think, 'what if they aren't that person?!?' Can you blame anyone? I think it would be scary. I talked to a guy online for a while and even on the phone but when he's like "come see me!" I'm like AHH! I didn't know how to react and ended up breaking his heart. I felt terrible but don't get too attached to him because the Internet can be misleading.
2007-02-04 01:32:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kailie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never NEVER trust anyone online. How do you really know anyone or anything about this individual? Second of all there is no reason for you to believe that he is not involved with someone eles and not bored. I have know people that have been married doing the same things that are now divorced as their mate was cheating due to bordom. Thirdly and MOST importantly, please please be careful. Follow your gut feeling. Your are obviously having alot of intrepadation and this individual may be more harm to you than good. Please follow that gut and move on and what ever you do do NOT give them any means to locate you personally no matter what they have tried to convince you of. Sound like you deserve much better.
2007-02-04 01:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by jetratkat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run... he's not worth your time. I have talked to many guys online and some have done the same thing. Good conversation, about to meet them and it's like they disappear or their behavior changes. You don't want some flaky guy like that. If you talk to someone online, they should be consistant. After talking online, try talking on the phone to see how he really sounds. If your just iming you cant his reaction or any emotion.
2007-02-04 01:41:30 · answer #7 · answered by Jackie C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I didn't even get past the second sentence...and I can already tell you to RUN!! 200 miles away..only know him from online...come on. This guy is just looking for some A$$. Don't trust people on the internet.
2007-02-04 01:32:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your instinct is right... he's comparing you with others and if he's hesitant to meet you in person when you know he's had the opportunity ????? Welllllllllllllllllllllllll ...... sounds like a red flag to me.He probably has many contacts and just looking to play. Guard your heart and safety well if you choose to meet this guy. Personally, I'd dump him !!!
2007-02-04 01:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by uncle louie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The engagment thing is important and he should have told you. As girls we tend to get paranoid ALOT! but don't think its you, he probably doesn't feel like he's in your league or is ashamed of how he looks after seeing your pic. Relax but don't trust him so easily....Good Luck!!
2007-02-04 01:33:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Breaking off a wedding isn't your business, but this guy is not willing to put much effort into building a relationship.
2007-02-04 01:31:02 · answer #11 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋