I'm a dorky guy who hasnt had a girlfriend ever. I just mainly concentrate on getting good grades but I wonder if there's someone out there for me. I try to talk to girls but I get nowhere. One weekends I usually just play video games.
Will I ever meet a girl who likes me for who I am? From experience what's does the future hold for a dorky guy?
I know there's someone for everyone, but so far I havent found her, and I dont have many chances of doing so. People dont realize that doesnt do any good and actually makes it worse, what if she's halfway across the world and has no idea you exist?
2007-02-03 17:24:50 · 7 answers · asked by wonderwhy2100 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm actually finishing up a PHD, I'm 29.
2007-02-03 17:32:28 · update #1
Is there any place where "dorky" people like you can hang out in your town? Because, most likely, there will be a few geekettes there, too. That's how my boyfriend met me. We both hung out in the nerd section of our college mall where there was a large majority of WOW and Magic players and a few girls, like me, who couldn't stand jocks/preps/*******. There aren't very many of us geeky girls but I'm sure you'll run across a few if you put yourself out there.
Plus, don't be shy about making friends with these girls. And if one seems to like talking with you and hanging out with you, she probably likes you so you should ask her out. Good luck!
2007-02-03 17:36:04 · answer #1 · answered by Flutterburger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DON'T WORRY!!!!
I would reccommend joining some clubs, taking some classes that interest you, and expanding your horizons. There are a lot of girls out there who are looking for a nerd (i am one), but you need to be able to be found, and then have interests besides video games. Maybe there are some other things that you have always wanted to do, or something that expands what you already know how to do or love to do. You will find a girl, don't worry. If you get out a bit you will develop your people skills which will enable to talk to the girl when you meet her, and if you are doing things that you like to do, then you are narrowing down girls to ones that you will actually like and that have the same interests as you.
Keep up the good grades, and get out and explore!
2007-02-04 01:34:36 · answer #2 · answered by i wish i knew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you are too serious and focused on finding 'the one' woman... in reality, there are many women that you'd probably be happy with... you just need to put yourself in the position of nabbing one. In fact, it would be better for you to try dating as many different women as possible right now, just for the experience, rather than trying to search for exactly one. If you're in school then you should be attending as many school functions and gatherings as you have time for, where women with similar interests will be.
Second, you should also be working on your self-image by hitting the weights, whitening your teeth, new clothes, etc. Now, you may argue that this is 'changing' who you are. It's not. It's self-improvement and it will improve your confidence around women. If you have a friend or relative who is good with women, by all means use him as a mentor. It will help immensely.
You do not have to go to bars, clubs etc if you are a dork and don't like those venues. However, you do need to take the above steps to feel confident about yourself and available to chicks.
2007-02-04 01:43:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about it - High School sucks for us dorks so just grin and bear it and study. When you get to university things will change. Trust me.
If you are stressed about right now, play sports or something on the weekends - go hiking, rock climbing, whatever - you will meet new people and might find someone. You can still play video games sometimes (I'm 30 and still do) but try and get out there and try new things.
2007-02-04 01:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by blahblahblah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT knock up and marry the first chick that you screw. That will eliminate all other opportunities that will come your way. You will eventually grow out of your dorkines and chicks will just be throwing themselves at you.
All you have to do is "hang out" with chicks these days and they will give it to you, no marriage required.
Oh, and by the sound of it (good grades), you will eventually become successfull and confident. This will attract women to you like flies on shite.
2007-02-04 01:33:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about it. u will get one but u should try talking to girls more to get your confidence higher and keep doing what u are doing in school. good luck
2007-02-04 01:30:00 · answer #6 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.... unless you make a move now then it might be too late... girls like smart people once they are out of highschool
2007-02-04 01:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by Dont get Infected 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋