I have guy friends who think Im good enough to fool around with but wont ask me to go anywhere with them. I know they go out alot because they post pictures all over myspace. even when I ask them they say they cant go. Why do guys do this & whats wrong with me?
2007-02-03 17:22:28 · 14 answers · asked by do_U_kno_? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just for the record I DONT want a relationship with any of them I just want to have a dinner companion or someone to take to a concert. A friend with benefits.
2007-02-03 17:46:49 · update #1
Maybe because you're stupid enough to let him. Why should he pay when he has the cow for free?
2007-02-03 17:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you give yourself to them to easily they don't take you seriously. As a person you mean as much to them as a basketball--fun to play with but you wouldn't take it to the movies.
If you want men to take you seriously and actually get to know and like you as a person then you have to say "no" until they get to respect you as a person. Make sure that you actually have a relationship with this person before you have sex with him. Date a while BEFORE you jump into bed.
An even better answer would be to wait until he loves you and is serious about you. Make him see you as a worthy and worthwhile person. Also develop some self respect. If you don't respect yourself and you don't think that your body should only be given to someone who has earned the right to have it, why should they?
Why should they want to be seen with you in public if everyone knows that you can be had easily and cheaply.
2007-02-03 17:38:18 · answer #2 · answered by Ellen J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let them fool around with your first doy! The only reason guys take girls out is to sleep with them eventually, unless it is a situation where the guy truely wants to spend time with them but not in your case. You have to make the pigs wait and remember you are worth more then just someone to fool around with!
2007-02-03 17:34:49 · answer #3 · answered by Jackie R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
perhaps he's attempting to really be a chum and thinks you're not to any extent further waiting. My personal rule is -meet a virgin, turn and run like hell- If he develop into fearful about you attempting to take advantage of him for funds less than California regulation, i do not imagine he'd even percentage a inn room with you, regardless. i comprehend i does no longer.
2016-11-25 00:01:28 · answer #4 · answered by morehart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've been fooling around with them before making any sort of commitment, you're probably giving them the image that all you want is sex and that you're easy. Stop putting yourself out there like that and they might gain a litle bit of respect for you.
2007-02-03 17:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by aceswyf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel bad for you. what you need to do is stop talking to those jerks..just let them go to hell. they're not your friends. how can you even think of calling them your friends? they're just taking advantage of your goodness. what you need is a real companion.
dont make friends with jocks..make friends with the underdogs...they arent as bad as you think. some of them are really good at heart, trust me. at the same time, they should be able, fit and confident. change your friend circle first.
dont give yourself away so easily dear.
2007-02-03 18:14:20 · answer #6 · answered by drno 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're ugly but probably have a great rack. They just use you for sex, that's all. I know girls like that, I would probably sleep with because they have big boobies but I dont care to take them out and spend money if they sleep with me for free.
2007-02-03 17:27:45 · answer #7 · answered by wonderwhy2100 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't mean to seem harsh, I really feel for you. You can't blame these guys, you are letting them put it in ya. Stop being so easy. It's simple they are not taking you out because they know they don't have too.
2007-02-03 18:17:40 · answer #8 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are using you. First you date a guy for a long time - then you sleep with him when you are in a committed relationship.
2007-02-03 17:43:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Because you let them.
There's nothing "wrong" with you. You just have to learn to respect yourself before they are ever going to. If you don't believe me, just try it and you'll see.
2007-02-03 17:29:06 · answer #10 · answered by jewel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋