This girl has liked me now for a long time. And I know she still does... but I don't reciprocate those feelings for her I'm seeing her as a friend... And she's an awsome person that I don't want to lose either so I don't want to blatantly blow her off.
I don't know how to tell her I'm not interested in a relationship with her. And I don't really want to say that I don't want a relationship at this time.... because I actually do. I like her and her personality is great but I don't see a compatibility in between us two. I don't know. Like we have alot of the same interests.... but I don't share the same physical attraction she does. I can't just straight up tell her something like that so what do I say? She's asking me to give her a chance but I know that once we start dating.... I won't be able to get out easily...
I need some serious advice on this and any help is much appreciated.
2007-02-03 17:19:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i was that girl. I really like my now boyfriend for a year. and told him then he contemplated it for a couple months and finally decided that we should date. he was also afraid of the same things that you are. What you have to do, since you two are good friends, is you have to give her a chance. if it really does not work out dating, then you'll just have to break it off and if you truely are that good of friends then you'll be able to go back to just being friends. She'll feel it too, it the compatibility is not there. just take it all delicately but do'nt get yourself into something that you do'nt think you'll be able to get out of.
2007-02-03 17:26:54 · answer #1 · answered by mustangsarah2 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think honesty is the best policy. You can try to be as gentle about it as possible, but just let her know that her friendship means a lot to you but you don't want to date. Maybe let her know that if it came to an end, you'd lose a great friend and you don't want to see that happen. If it's a strong friendship the two of you share, then you will both be OK in the end. I have a friend like that whose male. He wanted more but it was me instead of him. For awhile we didn't see each other and then he called and we started doing things together and now I can invite him over for dinner and we do things together and he knows it's just friends. It's so much more relaxed between us now. Best wishes to you both.
2007-02-04 01:31:14 · answer #2 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u have to tell her that u see her more as a friend at this point in time and since the friendship between u two is so important to u, u don't want to ruin that by going into a relationship just yet with her cuz u can tell her that if the relationship don't work out u guys might become emenies which is something u don't want just tell her that and if she is understanding she will know what u are talking about and the gist that u don't want to be with her romantically lol but if she turns into this beast and mean person then u know that she is not what u thought she was lol
good luck
2007-02-04 01:25:16 · answer #3 · answered by confused 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you dont feel it then you just dont BUT DONT give in to "just give it a chance" Sit here down & lay it out on the table tell her how you feel & make it clear that nothing more can come of it. If she is truly your friend then she will understand & appriciate your honesty & continue being your friend. If she doesnt then it proves how close minded & selfish she is. I dont understand how she still wants more from someone who doesnt.
2007-02-04 01:30:16 · answer #4 · answered by do_U_kno_? 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are not feeling her in a sexual way than DO NOT CROSS THE LINE. This happen to me one and I lost my best friend forever. The best thing to do is to tell her that you respect her as freind and back off for a while to let the information sink in...
2007-02-04 01:29:58 · answer #5 · answered by choc.drop 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest,in a non-hurtful way.Something like,'I really want to still be friends with you,but beyond that I really don't feel we are compatible.'
Good luck.
2007-02-04 01:24:05 · answer #6 · answered by MaryBeth 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So the only incompatability is you don't like her looks. If it's really that big an obsticle, do her a favor and move on.
2007-02-04 01:25:37 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey,... follow your gut feeling- learn to say: "NO!" assertively. Just say you are in love with somebody else- period.
2007-02-04 01:31:20 · answer #8 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋