age difference?

Question

ok, is it weird for a 18 year old girl to go out with a 28 year old boy? we have great chemistry, but the fact that hes so much older than me kinda makes me feel like im doing somthing wrong. is it ok, or is it kind of looked down upon by society for two people to be together with such a big age difference.

Answer 1

Look, many people you meet and know will say its wrong, and thats ok. You love him and thats all that matters, right? You said you guys had a great chemistry, so dont let anyone take that from you. Happy Valentines Day!!!!♥♥

Answer 2

No, you're 18, so there's nothing wrong with it. And in general society does look down upon it, but who cares what society thinks.
I'm 19 and with a guy who'll be 25 in less than two months (we're like a 5 and a half year age difference), so it's not quite as big as an age difference as you, but when I started dating him when I was 18 and he was 23 (almost 24 at the time), I had people I knew tell me it was too big of a difference, but I ignored it because I also have great chemistry in my relationship. And I'm glad I ignored it, since I've been with him for over a year and everything has been really great with him and we're now engaged.

Answer 3

Screw society. They don't own you. Live your own life as long as you don't intentionally and maliciously destroy another person's happiness.

But I don't think your real question is about society. You referred to him as a boy. He is actually a 28 year old man. I don't think a 28 year old woman would have called him a boy.

Perhaps you feel hesitant because of YOUR age, not because of his age or because of society. Look, don't let it bother you.

After you read all the advice everyone will give you here, just sit down think about his age. If it still bothers you at all, then don't go out with him, because something inside you is telling you not to.

But if his age has nothing to do with it anymore, then go for it. You never know. Sometimes the best things are the things we have questions about.

Answer 4

Many people fall in lovee with big age differences! Take Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes for example, he is 42 and she is 28! If you guys work well together, I suggest you give it a shot. But, if you always feel as if you are doing something wrong, you shouldn't stay with the relationship because you don't want to marry the guy and not be comfortable around him! Think about it, then make your decision! Good luck and God bless you.

Answer 5

What society thinks doesnt matter. If you like him I see nothing wrong with it. The way society sees it.... Its not really love... its a girl or boy just liking the fact they can have someone older... or they think ones a gold digger. Girls mature much faster than guys so the way i see it by the time a guy is 28 or whatever age hes mature enough for you.

Answer 6

In most cases a man a couple years or older usually will have a different agenda than that of a younger woman like yourself! Wouldn't you like to be with a man your own age that will be all the things you want, with the same agenda,so the two of you could just have fun being young? Than be messing with a much older man with only one agenda, to be what he wants you to be with repercussions because of the age difference? Think about this, its harder doing things with a man that is a couple years older because he as already turned 21 and he wants to do things like go drinking but your just 18! Do you think he is going to wait? Or change these plans just so, he can hang out with you? Consider these questions to test the right man more your age.Ask yourself:
1. Does he love you for who you are (inside first than out)? The Bible says: *“Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil, but rejoices with the truth.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-6
2. Does he honor you? Will he do things just to make you happy? Will he try some of the things you are interested in or maybe shares some of the same interests and hobbies? The Bible says:
* “Be devoted to one another in brotherly love. Honor one another above yourselves.” Romans 12:10
3. Cherishes your body, mind and soul? Doesn't go to far on these things until your ready? The Bible says: * “Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet Spirit, which is of great worth in God’s sight.” 1 Peter 3:3-4
4. You trust him to the fullest? he is your best friend and you are his? The Bible Says: * “ Love always protects, always trusts, always hopes always perseveres.” 1 Corinthians 13:7
5. You communicate well? he understands you like he could be your twin? The Bible says: * “ Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful, that it may benefit those who listen.” Ephesians 4:29

To Sum it up: Stick to 1. Love 2. Honor 3. Cherish 4. Trust 5. Communication and I promise if your relationship is based on these things you will know what its like to find true love! And Yes! I have used my principles myself and I am convinced I have found my soul mate! But to find her I also used these same principles to weed out my soul mate from the relationships that just didn't work. In addition, letting God and Jesus Christ lead your heart, mind, body and soul also aid in the weeding process. But, you know that also by waiting there might be a chance longer down the road when you have discovered a little more about your life than just high school! Because you never know what you might want to be after school? College? Army? You see if he is the one by waiting and seeing if your lives will cross paths somewhere down the road. Because you see the angel I married was a junior when I was a freshman! May that bring a little hope for you but my advice is not to pursue it now! God Bless!

Answer 7

it not weird, but as time go on,you will see that the age different
Will be come more of a factor to you. because you are just
starting your life and he already basically been where you are
trying to go.so that will be the the issues with dating someone
that so much older then you are.

Answer 8

Yeah to a point he is too old & it may become a problem later , u need to find a person a little bit younger so u know they weill be on your level

Answer 9

your age difference if fine. many couples have large age differences and their relationships last for a while. make sure you two are on the same path tho. towards the future and alll, enjoy life too, your still young

Answer 10

normally i would say no age does not matter. but if you are still referring to yourself as a girl and a full grown man as a boy I would say in this case yes the age difference is to much.