what would you do if your guy?

Question

said that he won't ever feel satisfied with you unless you allow him to put you over his knee and let him spank you from time to time?

Answer 1

Let him do it... But that's just me.

Answer 2

Some people need to mix it up every once in a while. Nothing wrong with that. I think it would hurt my feelings if he said he couldn't be satisfied with out it. Thats the issue that I would want to talk more about. If its a serious relationship, and you love him, is a little spanking really that big a deal?

Answer 3

He sounds like a freak. If you are not into that type of thing than dont even start it. Because soon he will be board with the spanking and want to try a new trick.

Answer 4

Personally, I might put up with a little of it. But, I am not in to pain and if he wants to hurt you then I would say; “NO WAY, and if you feel that way about our relationship then there is the door AND I NEVER WANT TO SEE YOU AGAIN!”

Spanking, while not uncommon, is not ever ones idea of fun, especially if it is hard. If he wants to spank you hard then I wouldn't agree to it and I would dump him. But, it can be part of a partner’s sexual adventures. NO MATTER WHAT HE SAYS, he wants a sexual thrill out of this and if you are not ready for sex then tell him so and make that as plain as you foot in his face if he tries it.

If you are a little adventurous then you might let him do it PROVIDED, you have a code word that immediately ends it. Pick a word like pizza, or airplane. It should be a word not related to anything you are doing and not one that could be confused with anything else. It is also important to a use a word that he knows isn't just you play acting or playing the game, or just being a girl who is asking for it or any of those other excuses that abusers use. Once you say the keyword then the spanking is over, he has to release you and he can't touch you until you tell him that he can. Then you tell him that if he doesn't honor the code word then you will never see him again, and if you do then you will call the police and get a restraining order against him. You have to make it clear to him that when you want him to stop he ALWAYS stops. In a submissive/dominate relationship the submissive person is the one in control.

In addition if he agrees to this then he must also agree to help you realize your fantasies. Even if that means you want to have sex with two guys at once. If he wants something from you then you HAVE to get something from him. Even if it just means a night of cuddling and conversation with his zipper firmly locked in the closed position. If he wants to take control away from you and abuse your trust then he HAS to agree to let you have that same power over him, anything else is not fair and dangerous. He has to know that if he tries to punish you, injure you, or hurt you when you don’t want it then he is going to get a full measure of the same in return. If he goes beyond the bounds that you set then he is through!

The spanking he has in mind can be a mild one to sexually arouse him or he could be planning on going too far. However, the ONLY reason he is asking you if he can spank you is to get sexual pleasure from it. If your relationship has not reached the point where you want to have intercourse then you have to tell him that. Spanking is a fetish. He may want to just do it innocently at first, but he is leading to a something that is sexual for him. No matter what he says to the contrary when he spanks you he wants a sexual thrill from it PERIOD. Now some men (the really bent ones) can get enough sexual satisfaction from the spanking alone. You don’t want to be with a damaged individual like that.

If he is an abuser then it is far more likely that he will just haul off and hit you, rather than ask your permission or try to gently convince you to let him spank you. So you need to ask him, “Just WHAT does this spanking really mean to you, and why should I allow it?” If the answer is ANYTHING except sexual arousal then he is either lying to you or to himself, and you don’t want to be with a man like that.

This is a VERY crucial point in the relationship and if you feel the slightest fear then you need to tell him to move along to another woman and end the relationship right then and there! Spanking can be done mildly and as part of sexual play. Anything else is too dangerous. He wants to do this very much or he wouldn’t have made it an ultimatum. He could be testing you or he could be serious. If he is testing you then you don’t want to play that game so again you should dump him. If he is serious then you need to find out why.

It is hard to say what he is trying to do or plans to do based on this glimpse, so I will sum it up with this: If you want to try, then protect yourself, if you don’t want to do it or if you feel some fear then the relationship is doomed, no “if,” “and,” “buts,” or “maybes” about it—DONE. So in most cases I would have to say NO, don’t do it. In your place I might try it, but then I like a little bondage (not the brutal kind; no injuries or abuse). I might try it as a novelty, but what ever I did I would protect myself first, second and third.

Answer 5

I would tell him that while he was at it he should kiss by *ss goodbye because I would be out of there so fast. Spanking is hitting, and there ain't no body ever going to hit me. Lose the loser.

Answer 6

Tell him that you won't feel truly satisfied until you find a normal boyfriend. Then go out and find one.

Answer 7

Try it once or twice, you might well find you like it. Tell him to go easy on you to start with, and only use his hand - and agree a safe word you can use that means 'Stop NOW' if it's getting more than you can take.

And, favour for favour, get yourself something you really like - he goes down on you, or whatever - in return.....

Answer 8

Don't ever do anything in a relationship that makes you uncomfortable. You could always try it once to see if you like it though!!

Answer 9

If it's not Your pleasure, then tell him that you're not a kid any more to receive spanks from any body!
If it's your pleasure, tell him!!!

Answer 10

Why not try it once - you never know, you might even enjoy it. If not, figure out if you love him enough to put up with it now and then - if you can't, dump him.

Answer 11

Well if you aren't into that type of thing, dump him. That is outrageous. He must have some nerve saying that.