I'm 20 and my girlfriend is 18. We have been together for a little over 2 years now and we love each other very much. I want to add that for an entire year before we started going out, we were best friends. Early in the relationship we would have sex about 3 or 4 times a week and she seemed to enjoy it, and initiated it about half of the time. For the last year though, I'm lucky to have sex with her once a week. Now, it's been a month, and we've had sex ONE time. We see each other about 5 days a week. We go to movies once in a while, go out to dinner twice a month. Watch tv shows we love together, go for walks occassionally, play pool, board games. We're an active couple and do things together. The problem is she's never in the mood anymore and always get's upset with me if god forbid I say something about it and express my frustration. What the hell is going on? I'm 100 percent sure she's not cheating on me. We're open about everything and are very faithful to each other. I'm upset...
2007-02-03 17:11:42 · 17 answers · asked by Jonnywish486 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Is she very stressed out? Sometimes being stressed will do it. Also if she has pain with her periods or when she has sex, it could make her not want it, since she associates it with pain. If neither of these are the case, maybe it needs to be a little more romantic. Maybe there isnt enough forplay to put her in the mood. Try to explain to her in a way that isnt personally attacking her or making her feel guilty about it in any way. For example, ask her if it is something you arent doing right or if there is something wrong. Good luck.
2007-02-03 17:24:41 · answer #1 · answered by Mrs Baker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of couples go through that. When you first get together everything is hot and heavy and then it just dies down after a while. (Mostly on the females side) I say it's normal, but maybe she also isn't getting enough out of the sex. Make sure you're there for her too and not just for yourself.
Me and my ex went through the same thing.
Talk to her and see what's up. Only she has the answer.
2007-02-03 17:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought to just ask her? Be extremely careful how you ask her, but ask her.
Don't ask in the bedroom. Talk to her somewhere that is private, but there is absolutely no expectation of sex.
Start off the same way that you did with your note ... that you love her, that she is your best friend ...
It could be as simple as school, work and other pressures are making her soooo tired, that she is too wiped out to play.
Possibly she thinks you are more interested in sex than in her.
Possibly she wants the relationship to go towards something more formal and more permanent ... like marriage.
Ask for an honest response, and be prepared to get it.
Honestly, good luck.
2007-02-03 17:49:02 · answer #3 · answered by ejp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The could be several reasons....one could be the type of birth control she's using my wife went from the pill to the shot...the shot is once every 3 months the downside was it killed her sex drive we talked about it and she went back to the pill. The major problem in your case is you 2 are suppose to be best friends you should be able to talk about everything especially sex. If she isn't willing to talk about it that shows a lack of concern for both you and your relationship. She is going to have to talk about it and try to understand where each other is coming from. The lack of communication kills alot of relationships and if it doesn't get better your relationship will eventually fizzle out who wants a partner you can't talk too......Good Luck.....
2007-02-03 17:27:49 · answer #4 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow. well you need to be open about it. ask her if something is up? mayb you two have reached the status married people reach after several years of marraige, sex isn't the only thing either. try to find other ways to enjoy those pleasures. try to do the stuff you did when you first started going out, the cute stuff. also respect her decisions thats always important.
2007-02-03 17:19:14 · answer #5 · answered by loverly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SO IF U R 100% sure that she is not cheating u must be near her 24/7. I'm pretty sure if she is cheating that she will not tell u. That is some of the fun part of cheating (Being Sneaky and Lying about it!). Believe me I should know. I'm an ex-heartbreaker.
2007-02-03 17:18:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really know your girl, but the best thing to do is to call her up and tell her you want to have dinner and explain to her that you are WORRIED (for her sake, she might feel more open to discuss if she thinks the reason you are asking her is because you care and not just the fact that you want to have sex) and just let her talk and listen.
2007-02-03 17:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by jrizzle77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to make the move your self do thing to her you havent done i mean if your the typicall guy " laydown have sex when your over thats it" then its not really hot in bed get her by surprize and role play a little get her into you ( make 30 minutes all about her and then have you 20 or 30 min for you ( if you know what i mean ) its not a secret that woman have multiple orgasms so give that to her and then get your share hope this helps
2007-02-03 17:20:07 · answer #8 · answered by luby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well what is going on is that she is not in the mood. Woman go through stages like this. Eventually it will be she wants it all the time again and then back down to next to nothing. You need to respect her wishes and leave her be about it. She will be ready to do more when she is ready.
2007-02-03 17:18:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to her! The key in great relationships is communication! Talk to her about how the relationship is moving and gradually move up! Try it, you never now what will come out of it unless you do! Good luck and God bless you and your girlfriend, may the best come from your relationship!
2007-02-03 17:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by loving live:) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋