my gf & i are engaged and a couple days ago i left my house. and now shes all mad at me i had no idea i had to inform people when im walking in or out of my own house. i just felt like getting up and going to visit my friend i had know idea that i would have to tell her where im going.
i dont see what the hell i did wrong i was just gone for a couple days.(6)
im not used to people asking me things and im not used to people caring where the hell i go.
everyone i know knows that i can take care of myself and my friends know i dissapear alot.
2007-02-03 17:00:19 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, firstly six is not a couple of days!
Secondly, you've made a commitment to this person - ask yourself how you'd feel if she upped and left for 6 days without telling you. You'd probably go to the police.
Look, if you've proposed to her, you must love her right? Then one of the common courtesies you can show her is to let her know where you are when you dissapear. You don't need to ask permission, just tell her so she won't worry about you, because even though you say you've never had anyone care where you were before - NOW YOU DO.
2007-02-03 17:06:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you live together. I hope I understand this right.
If she is at your house, she is considered a guest and a very significant other. I don't think she is trying to be possessive although I really don't know that.
I think she is right..it's just common courtesy in nicely communicating you want to visit a friend and give her a time frame as to when you might be back. Would you want her to do the same for you ?
Sounds like you are STUCK on it being you OWN home.
That doesn't matter...you must still be curtious to her and any other guest you might have.
Just be courtious, don't feel like she has a leash on you.
I don't think that's the case.
Just my opinion. Hope this helps.
2007-02-03 17:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by flyinghawk0727 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude, i think u should have at least told her where you were going. 6 days is alot. she was worried about u. she could have thought u were cheating on her, which i don't think you were. You don't ask her 4 permission 2 leave the house, you just tell her n she'll b ok. She also could have thought something terrible could have happened 2 u. Anything bad can happen 2 ppl these days. Your fiance cares about you and you should be lucky 2 have someone that's very caring.
2007-02-03 17:15:03 · answer #3 · answered by emilytobey@sbcglobal.net 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Getting engaged is not something to take lightly it is the beginning of the commitment. How would you feel if she just up and went missing for 6 days. You should feel really lucky if she is still engaged to you it doesn't sound like you are ready for the true relationship that it takes to have a successful marriage.
she has a right to be angry at you I know I am angry at you (not really but I can understand her frustration) and I am not even engaged to you....
good luck
2007-02-03 17:06:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sati 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but you were wrong here. Turn it around. If she was absent for a couple of days, wouldn't you worry? How was she to know that nothing happened to you? It's not that you have to report, but common courtesy would tell you to at least tell her. You're a couple now, not an only anymore. Isn't that what you wanted? If you don't then don't get married.
2007-02-03 17:04:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are going to get married, this is something you are going to need to discuss with your future wife, who will want to know not only where you are going but how to contact you, who you are with and when you will be back ... and you had better be phoning her every day as well. If this doesn't appeal, better you establish the ground rules now before you tie the knot. If you think I am exaggerating, ask any married guy you know for the inside scoop.
2007-02-03 17:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Bethany 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shoudl realise that ur not the only person in your life and that many care for you. its just like when you were younger and you wanted to go to a friends house, dont u let ur mom know first??
if you feel really uncomfy acting this way by letting her know, than your probably not mature yet enough to take on this relationship, no offense
2007-02-03 17:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, know that you are planning on commiting your life with another, disappearing could be worrysome.
Even though she knows you can take care of yourself, she will still be worried about you.
And disappearing for almost a week without saying a word might give her cause to think that you are cheating. (Don't get me wrong, I'm not accusing you of cheating.)
2007-02-03 17:05:08 · answer #8 · answered by Krissy K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jon jon you shouldn't be mad that she cares about you she just loves you and got worried,6 days is a long time to be gone without telling your fiance were you at.Don't be mad,be glad that you have someone who cares.
2007-02-03 17:06:16 · answer #9 · answered by Angel wings 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the problem is that you are with someone else so you just cant
leave and disapper for days at time. men with girlfriends dont
do such things, single men do, i would be upset as well. you
need to decide what you really want. maybe this is a way to
say you dont want to be in this relationship. it about respect
2007-02-03 17:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋