I've been dating this guy for awhile now. He's crazy about me and very sweet. He's also intelligent, caring, responsible, helpful, generally a good person, has a good career future set out for himself, and lots of other things that I like in guys. The only thing is, he can be pretty boring. He likes to do a lot of things, but when it comes to talking, he's just not very good at it. Don't get my wrong, we can get into conversations about meaningful issues, but other than that... he always responds with a laugh or some other short generic response that doesn't add anything to the conversation. It really gets to me sometimes. Is this worth breaking up with someone for? How big of a deal is this? And do you think eventually he'll pick up some of my habbits and be more interesting and fun? Is there anyway I can hint without hurting his feelings, and is he even capable of changing that? ...
2007-02-03 16:57:17 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He sounds like he brings you much joy and happiness. I don't understand your dilemma unless it's a smell problem.
A magazine, Psychology Today Oct 2005 issue, says that compatibility is based off how you accept the man's smell. Interestingly, the birth control (BC) will influence how you pick your man. See, when you're on the BC your body believes it’s pregnant. When women are in their pregnant state, they pick men who smell like their family (dad & brothers) so that they will feel secure and protected. Women who are not pregnant select men who don't smell like their family so that they can reproduce. This is to prevent incest.
In the long run if you're on the BC pill eventually, you'll get tired of a man because he's just too much like your family; and we're programed to leave our families. The study suggests that part of the high divorce rate was attributed to this. So, if you're on the BC, you may want to get off, abstain from sex for at least a month (2 months is recommended), and see if his smell grosses you out, or interests you more.
2007-02-03 17:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Giggly Giraffe 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Well ive been in a relationship with my girlfreind for a year and communicating and conversations are a very inportant thing. If he goes off into some short answer ask him more questions make him do the talking. Dont break up with him if he dosent talk alot maby he is shy or you two havent found a interesting topic to talk about. Best of luck.
2007-02-03 17:04:54 · answer #2 · answered by baseballer#12 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't change someone, so that is probably just how he is. You have to decide how important that is to you. If you need someone who can hold intelligent conversations with you for you to be happy in your relationship, then maybe you do need to find someone else.
2007-02-03 17:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't break up with him because of it, just talk to him about it. Tell him that you wish he would talk more, and tell him that it bothers you when he doesn't.
2007-02-03 17:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by Jess 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-17 08:58:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are already married.
2007-02-03 17:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋