well...im hookin up with this guy....which is fine. i couldnt be happier.
but were starting to touch each other....i dont mind it. i love it. i feel totally safe with this guy n i rly love him. but when he touches me i still jump.
ive been sexually abused by 4 different men at various ages. i think this mite b related to the problem. ive tried saying to myself that its ok, this guy wont hurt me but im still jumpy.
what should i do?
2007-02-03 16:54:18 · 7 answers · asked by *lil miss* 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
im 18 and hes 25. could it be coz of the age even tho i love n trust him heaps?
2007-02-03 17:41:58 · update #1
maybe you have PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder)
this PTSD is always common especially that you are SS -abuse
i think the attitude that you are showing may mask your deeper emotional conflict that maybe at the present, you can't still resolve it. Your fear might due to the experience you have before that always hook up everytime similar experince happen
All you have to do is to let go of yuor hesitations.... I know that this is too difficult, and you may need a support system. It is just psychological and our mind is the most powerful stuff in the world
practice to forget the past.........
2007-02-03 17:07:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is hard not to jump. Try telling him about this fear that has been ingrained into you. That way he can be emotionally supportive. Take it really slow and have him let you be the one to be in charge. Try taking his hand and introducing his hand to your body. Acknowledge the problem within yourself and tell yourself that it is ok, your going to take it slow, and you can call it off at any time. Good luck, you'll get over this in time.
2007-02-04 00:59:43 · answer #2 · answered by inquirygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was raped, and when i got close to men i just freaked out even though i new they wouldnt hurt me..
At the moment im working with a psch about it. She thiks talking about what happend to me will eveuntury go numb and help me over fear etc.
mabe talk about the experiace u have had in past over and over even though it pianful
2007-02-04 01:44:27 · answer #3 · answered by bladetroubles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not by any means go further than what you are comfortable with.But,I do think he should know why you are jumpy.The way you explained how you feel about him seems to be the way he feels about you.I do know KNOW how you feel as far as your situation and am sorry you went thru that.Ask him to show patience but that you do want to keep seeing him.YOU WILL BE BLESSED.
2007-02-04 01:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by inyrfcgul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have some therapy to help you work through the trauma of your past abuses.
This is too much trauma for you to deal with on your own.
2007-02-04 00:58:30 · answer #5 · answered by diannegoodwin@sbcglobal.net 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk therapy, hun! It does wonders for the soul. Then you can have a happy and healthy sex life w/ no worries.
2007-02-04 01:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by Aimee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you invite to sexually abuse them?
2007-02-04 01:34:36 · answer #7 · answered by pankaj s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋