hey all,
me and Laura both feel ready to become parents and we are financially stable but I am wondering how she will feel while trying to get pregnant because she has been raped twice by her ex boyfriend who is now in prison....she says she is over it but having talked to other rape victims this may just be her not wanting me to be upset......
anyway does anyone have any idea as to whether she will pull back while we are.........or not even though its me her fianc'e..
thanks for everyones input.
Mitch
2007-02-03 16:51:29 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I agree with Moira77. if you think you are ready for parenthood, why don't you get married to start a family. i mean, the first step is marriage, then the baby in the baby carriage. if she were to have difficulty . . . with you, then i think parenthood is not the thing just yet. why don't you show her how committed you are to her first and then see if she can handle . . . the rest. start small, work up to what you want most. good luck Mitch!
2007-02-03 17:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by Jugglingmidget06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
truly, and that i really do not recommend to come back for the length of as impolite- merely providing my opinion, that you do not ought to take. yet no, i don't have self belief so. If time is an argument, and also you already know he's 'the only,' then perchance you ought to bump up the marriage, then get pregnant. i'm only a traditionalist (and likewise a Christian). i fairly have self belief that parenthood (or sex at desirous about that count number) is thoroughly meant for marriage.
2016-11-02 06:43:58 · answer #2 · answered by dewulf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly I think you're putting the cart before the horse. SInce you guys aren't married yet how about you work on that and work on increasing your intimcy before you try to become parents. I think you should give her a nice wedding and have some time as a married couple before you try to have a baby. Plus, it may take her some time to feel ok with sex with you, so work on that before you bring a child into the relationship.
2007-02-03 16:59:16 · answer #3 · answered by moira77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep reminding her about the rape and make her think about it, then possibly she will develop sex problems even if she doesn't have any problems now.
I suggest that you don't try to fix something that's not broken. Or else you will break it.
2007-02-03 17:03:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you'll know what she's feeling by her body language. She has no reason to lie to u, stop If you feel she's uncomfortable. Reassure her that u are paitent and that u understand and that she can tell u about her fears
2007-02-03 17:01:40 · answer #5 · answered by Mah10 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋