How does everyone feel about guys that are not single going to strip clubs?Is it ok? How do you feel about it? If you wouldnt like for him to go how do you get him to understand?
2007-02-03 16:37:35 · 21 answers · asked by cutelittlecoconut 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I go with my husband, and we usually take a few friends with us. It's fun.
2007-02-03 16:42:26 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty secure so if my guy wanted to go to a strip club with his buddies, I probably wouldn't care if it were a one time deal or once in a great while. Strip clubs are pretty sleazy, and any guy interested in a girl like me isn't going to find them very appealing anyway. If my guy started making a habit of it, I'd know he wasn't really the guy for me.
If I didn't want him to go, I'd tell him straight up that I didn't like it and didn't want him to go, and if I had other, specific feelings about it I'd tell him about those feelings too. Then he can make his decisions - and I can make mine if he continues to behave in a way that I don't like.
2007-02-04 00:45:51 · answer #2 · answered by heart o' gold 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think its ok for them to go t o strip clubs as long as they are just going to watch, the only way i wouldnt want my man going is if he spent more money there than he did at home.
2007-02-04 00:41:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Single or married - the results of the environment are the same.
Do you really think that women will respect a man who goes to see naked women they do not even know and many times will offer money to or exchange sex and whatever else with?!
Lusting after someone other than your intended or wife is the same as cheating for the action is in your heart and mind - same as being there!
2007-02-04 00:43:52 · answer #4 · answered by Marsha 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is okay for guys who are single to go to strip clubs either. The sex industry exploits women who are poor, have low self-esteems, have drug addictions, and/or have been sexually abused. Strip clubs commonly try to push the bounds with promotions like "barely-legal night", meaning that they would get children to strip for you if it was legal, but this is the closest that they can come. They promote unhealthy relationships between women and men. The very few women out there who strip and are not in one of the above situations are in fact contributing to the exploitation, and should also be blamed. It is not ethical to financially support this industry.
As to guys in relationships: why would it be okay for a guy to pay for a sexual experience with another woman (intercourse or not, a lapdance IS a sexual experience) and not okay for him to have a sexual experience with someone who doesn't charge? It would be offensive for him to make out with a co-worker, it is also offensive for him to pay a stranger to shake her breasts in his face.
I would explain how I felt. Sure, strip clubs are appealing to guys, but if they are ethical they should be able to see beyond just the sexual appeal to the destructive nature of the industry.
2007-02-04 00:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by M L 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
that is an insult to your wife or girlfriend if they go to a strip club to see another woman naked when you have a treasure at home that has eyes for only you. basically strip clubs are for guys that are single and need a quick fix and to get rid of extra money if thats you get single.
2007-02-04 00:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by kaybee 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't mind, but I'd also be asking myself why he needs to go out to look at girls and not be satisfied with my own striptease? lol
However, my last boyfriend liked to go out with his buddies and just drink and have girls dancing. He was never the type to bring a girl home from a bar before we met, or after. He would go out just for a good time and not for a hookup. So it depends on the guy and his motives for going.
I wouldn't want him to get a lapdance. Unless it was his bachelor party and his friends bought it for him or something. Cause I would want to go to a male strip club for women to oogle if I was having my bachelorette party. That'd be fun!
2007-02-04 00:41:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tiffany 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't see anything wrong with it. My hubby went with a friend from work and before he left,I stopped at the bank while I was out and got him some 1 dollar bills! He's only gone once since we've been married (4 years) but I think if you trust each other,it doesn't matter.
2007-02-04 00:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Terri R 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Attached men do go to strip clubs - they often need to feel "part of the group", and all their friends are going.........
It would be better for your relationship if he didn't.
2007-02-04 00:41:42 · answer #9 · answered by rage997_666 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My sister is one of the happiest people i know and she dosn't mind her and her husband going to a strip club every once and a while. Its not like he is going to go run off with a striper. Just go with him when he goes so he can be thinking of u every second he is there. Just ask him if you could come with him when he goes or try and explain that it bothers u seeing naked women.
2007-02-04 00:42:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i personally have experience in this area/ my husband goes to strip clubs maybe 2 times a year with his other married friends and they just hang out and drink. he always calls me first and tells me he is going and i just tell him be good and he always is. i trust him and he is very respectful of me because he says that if ever i dont want him to go he wont . but i dont really see a problem with it . we love each other and our marriage is based on trust.
2007-02-04 00:42:56 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋