2007-02-03 16:28:05 · 24 answers · asked by KudoKid 1 in Pets ➔ Dogs
Stop what you are doing right now. Go and talk to someone about this. You feel vulnerable and because your puppy is vulnerable, you want to hurt her. Don't even think of hurting someone you love so much. If you perpetuate the cycle of hatred you will be no better than your folks. There's a way you can get help, all you have to do is ask. Talk to a councilor at school, or to the police. Just don't do something you will regret for the rest of your life.
2007-02-03 16:32:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
I think people are being a little hard on you and it does sound like you are asking for help. Sometimes when peoples' lives make them feel vulnerable or afraid a part of us can shut off. Perhaps your puppy represents to you a feeling of love or vulnerability and maybe you just want to be tough and unfeeling when your parents fight and this comes out as aggression at the thing that makes you feel soft and loving. Many students I've worked with have gone through so much with their parents that they've continually shut down all the soft, vulnerable parts in their hearts and brains in order to survive. They stop feeling or empathizing for others because it hurts too much. Try not to go that route. Realize that some day you will be away from your parents living the life you choose. Who do you want to be when you get there? An abuser or a survivor of a tough situation? Kids sometimes feel really angry or the need to lash out when actually inside they really feel very scared and out of control of their situation. I know it is super hard but try to acknowledge your fear and then do what you need to to keep both you (and your puppy) safe. The support phone lines are a good idea. Friends and family can help if you are able to talk with them. Another idea is to use a journal every time you feel the need to hurt someone and write down all the anger or fear you are feeling in that moment. Get it out as much as possible with words. Crying is okay too when you are scared. If you find yourself wanting to hurt other things than just your pup or during other times that your parents are fighting means that you need to access some help and that is okay. You did the right thing to ask for help when you new something wasn't right in your thinking and that is very brave. Try talking to your school counselor. If they are good, they can provide a lot of help, strategies, and ideas. Hang in there, I know it is hard when your parents fight. Remember: their fighting is not your fault. Our family had lots of issues but I always focused on the fact that someday I would be free to create my own home. I sure hope a loving, safe pup is a part of your future home. Best wishes in working out this issue. Keep looking for support. If you do end up hurting your pup, you will really end up hurting your own psychi a million times more.
2007-02-04 02:17:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You really should get some help. It is not that innocent puppy's fault that your parents are fighting. My advice give the puppy to someone who is mature enough to take care of it. Maybe you should also tell your parents about what you are thinking. You really need to get help. People that hurt animals grow up to be people that hurt other people. get some help before it is too late.
2007-02-04 01:16:54 · answer #3 · answered by deb 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Abusing an animal is a crime, I can only hope your parents stop fighting or someone catches you hurting the poor puppy so that it will be taken away from you because you shouldn't have an animal in the first place. Furthermore please talk to someone about this anger you have before you grow up to be a criminal and start hurting people as well as animals.
2007-02-04 00:35:30 · answer #4 · answered by Robert 1 · 4⤊ 0⤋
you need to talk to someone about this like a aunt or a cousin or anyone you trust , its because you are upset with the way the adults around you are acting, its not the puppy making you angry so try to remember that and ask your parents to not argue in front of you or where you can hear them , may God be with you
2007-02-04 00:37:39 · answer #5 · answered by mom of 4 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because you are angry that your folks are fighting and you need to let your feelings out somewhere.
DON'T TAKE YOUR ANGER OUT ON THE PUPPY.
Call a crisis hotline and talk to them. Or talk to your parents about how their fighting is making you feel. Perhaps the whole family would benefit with family counseling and anger management.
Meanwhile, punch a pillow or a mattress. Let something soft and inanimate be a lightning rod for your anger.
**EDIT** Here are some possible hotlines (links will take you to numbers) for you to call.
http://www.allaboutcounseling.com/crisis_hotlines.htm
http://www.kidscrisis.com/stress.html This page gives you a number to call as well as some info about stress, things that cause stress, and how to handle that stress.
Good luck!
2007-02-04 00:37:08 · answer #6 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 9⤊ 0⤋
All that puppy will ever ask of you is love. If you hurt him then you are meaner than your parents are. (At least they are fighting with someone that can fight back).
2007-02-04 05:35:34 · answer #7 · answered by shendley04 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well since your question is " why do you want to" I'll assume that you didn't start abusing your puppy yet,why do you even have a puppy, that is like having a child, your puppy is depending on you to take care of him/her and you want to abuse it? Well if you do one day decide to take out your frustration on your dog, I hope it is a Pitbull and it turn on your a** later!!!!!
2007-02-04 00:42:10 · answer #8 · answered by JamaicanVixen 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
well, number one if you can't sit your parents down and tell them what your feeling,you need to find another way to realease your anger. number two ,if you cant think of another way to handle the problem then you don't deserve a dog, or any pet for that matter.
2007-02-04 00:38:42 · answer #9 · answered by matt s 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow, come on it can't be that bad that u wanna do that.. theres got to be other things to do, you should talk to a proffesional about it, it might help you, it's like the negative energy from them is pushed onto you and you just need to find a way to channel it
2007-02-04 00:39:09 · answer #10 · answered by riah 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋