I had my shirt on , but I had slept over his house and taken off my bra underneath. Well I was in his room in the morninglaying on his bed while he was at his computer and I was playing with my bra in ym hand and his mom didn't knock, and she just walked in. She saw me on the bed and was embarassed so i trie dto put the bra to the side and she goes"oh sorry I didn't know you were here"
Now I am SO embarassed. SO much so, I told my bf I can't stay over his house that way anymore, because I don't want his parents to think I am unladylike, because I am a lady. I told him at the beginning I didin't think it was right to be over his house at night, but he said his parents don't care, and I know they don't, but I want to be seen as a decent girl . He said he understood and that I was right that it may be inappropriate ,but I think he is kind of offended that I said i don't want to sleep over there anymore.
Am i right? What do I do to remedy this embarassment?
2007-02-03 16:27:39 · 28 answers · asked by coochie1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we're not kids, i'm 21 and he's 22
2007-02-03 16:28:19 · update #1
btw we didn't even have sex. I just took it off to sleep.
2007-02-03 16:31:32 · update #2
Ignore it and move on. It sounds like his mom already did, otherwise she would have jumped down your throat about it.
2007-02-03 16:30:44 · answer #1 · answered by aqx99 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
First of all KUDOS for being smart, responsible, mature 16 yr. olds. You sound like you are commited to one another, and very much in love. I am amazed that you two have remained virgins after dating for 3 yrs. I am very proud of you guys! Second of all if you have been dating this guy for 3 years, you and his mom must have some sort of relationship right? She isn't stupid. She realizes what is probably happening between you two. She walked into something that wasn't a huge surprise to her. Therefore lessening the blow it would have caused her had it been with anyone else. If she isn't acting weird I think it's safe to say that it didn't really bother her. If she was buggin about it you would sure know by now right? As for your embarassment ( and i'm sure theres alot of it to go around...poor girl) maybe you need to clear the air with her. Tell her your sorry, let her know that you didn't mean any disrespect to her or her family. And flat out ask her if she is mad at you about it. Respect her wishes if she tells you that she doesn't want it happening again. Don't get confrontational about anything, just clear the air with her. The sooner the better by the way. You don't need to be walking on egg shells around her for any longer than you have to. Communication is the key to solving this one.
2016-05-24 01:40:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're 21 & 22, there's nothing unladylike even if you did have sex. Sex is not only for married couples, this is 2007, you're not a hussy if you don't wait until your honeymoon anymore. I wouldn't worry about it.
2007-02-05 15:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sheriam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry not being rude but if you sleep over on your BF house , then your BF parent might be not think you are decent woman.
Even if you give them explanation that you and your BF did not do anything still they might be think you are not right woman.. so the best way let him sleep over at your house if that is okey with your parent.
so don't sleep over on your BF house ,if you still want they respect you, except the relationship between you and his mother are very close.. then it is different story..
2007-02-03 16:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by sylvaniaS 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm going to attempt to answer this question even though I'm not 100% certain what the problem is. To me it seems like a bra is a non-issue. The real problem is that his mom walks into his room w/o knocking. She's probably more embarrassed than you considering that she exposed to you the fact that she can't respect someone else's privacy.
2007-02-03 16:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by aaron.lattin 2 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Personally I think it is disrespectful for you to sleep over your boyfriends parents house. Even if he saids that they don't care it's obvious that the mother does just by her reaction. Some times the parents say they don't care to please the child. I think you made the right decision. The parents shouldn't ever be uncomfortable in their own house. Respect their home.
2007-02-03 16:47:44 · answer #6 · answered by mia w 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
At 21-22, I think you can stop caring. Explain to his mother. She will be impressed with you. She probably does not think girls in this day and age care about this sort of thing - and that you might as well have had a vibrator in your hand.
2007-02-03 16:30:23 · answer #7 · answered by rage997_666 2 · 12⤊ 0⤋
I think his mom has an idea of what went on. Kind of weird to have sex (err, "sleep over" as you call it) in your bf's house with his parents there, isn't it?
2007-02-03 16:35:52 · answer #8 · answered by Chuck J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow you shouldn't feel guilty at all because the fact that you're truly embarassed and care what they think is very "ladylike" of you and you might just wana qickly appologize and explain to the mother and I'm sure she'll understand.
2007-02-03 16:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by :) 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You sleep with it off..I think she should understand that..
If she confronts you or anything just tell her that and you were either putting it on, or just waiting for him and trying to entertain yourself.
Just apologize for giving the wrong impresson.(I'm sorry if this is a bad answer, I'm a guy after all..:P)
2007-02-03 16:31:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋