The thing is I'm afraid of being rejected plus we are friends and I don't want to mess up that connection with her. I just get the feeling that it won't never go back the way it was before. She keeps on saying I'm a sweet guy and she is a very sweet girl. Its just that I don't want to hurt her if I get rejected by her and I don't want to ignore her because of that. So what can I do to keep that part from happening?
2007-02-03 16:26:11 · 11 answers · asked by Berties 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you are rejected by her, it is going to be natural to want to avoid her and avoid that pain. The only person who can make that NOT happen is you. You are taking a big risk by telling her your feelings, but there could be big rewards. It sounds like you kind of feel like she doesn't share your feelings. If that is the case, you may want to hold off for a little bit. Maybe see where her head is at involving guys. Maybe you can get a clue into how she is feeling about you beyond friendship.
2007-02-03 16:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on what the other person thinks, really. You can't control it. I had a crush on a girl once, and she rejected me... but we're still friends, and I don't sense any awkwardness between us.
It all depends on the person. There will always be the chance of something going wrong, you just can't control it. This may not be the answer you were looking for, but really, there is nothing you can do.
2007-02-03 16:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by theVisionary 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely if you are friends and you have feelings for her, then she probably feels the same way for you. Most girls are like that anyways: they have feelings for their guy friend but they never say anything because 1) They don't want to mess things up and 2) they are afraid of rejection. S if you like her then she probably feels the same way about you so go for it and good luck! Hpe this helps!!
Ambi
2007-02-03 16:30:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell you from an experience, don`t get to serious, just let eachother grow, biuld your friendship, Always keep intouch, a female usaully
will let a guy know what they are feeling first. so take your time,
maybe go out , but don`t call it a "date" that is some times over whelming, just enjoy eachother for a while.
then if you you are atracted to her still, take another small step, ask her out on that date. if you get rejected so what,move on. .
don`t be afraid to atleast try, if you never try you will never know.
2007-02-03 16:46:41 · answer #4 · answered by katana b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly women are weird when it comes to questions like this. maybe u can hypothetically ask her the question like pretend that its not about u. see how she reacts but honestly most women will value your friendship too much to want to take that chance and loose you as a friend just for a relationship that may or may not work. u know her so u have to analize her yourself
2007-02-03 16:30:31 · answer #5 · answered by Desire` 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I WANT TO TELL HER MY FEELINGS......JK seriously you could present it to her hypothetically in 3rd person 1st then gird your loins and say "I think I have feeling for you". The thing is if she don't see you like that you should not change the friendship. I am sure she like you alot maybe she is waiting for you to take the 1st step. IT AINT EASY
2007-02-03 16:31:41 · answer #6 · answered by Carlos 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will never be able to restore your friendship. If you are really great friends, it is infinitely more important to maintain your friendship than to start dating. If you are just passing friends, you ought not pursue her simply because you aren't close enough.
2007-02-03 16:30:48 · answer #7 · answered by tercellulite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can either sit back and for the rest of your life hide and it then later one regret and and wonder what would have happen or you can take a chance and ask her out, you wont die either way.............but the first way will be a stressful way to go about the problem
2007-02-03 16:30:20 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm....after got rejected, you still can talk to her, just being normal like nothing happening. If she doesn't like you, at least you know and don't keep your hope up......... ( ya, i hate that, when girls are giving a false hope )
2007-02-03 16:31:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and tell her. Nothing ventured nothing gained. If she has no feelings for you would you want a relationship with her? So it turns out, you have nothing to lose.
2007-02-03 16:28:09 · answer #10 · answered by walter_b_marvin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋