How do I make myself like men more, and not to dismiss them in social situation.?

Question

I am a 40 year old female professional in the dating market. My friends had always told me that I had that 'little girl' quality which I must not lose. But I think I have finally lost it. I used to be able to look at guys with bright eyes and enthusiams. Now in social situation where I am supposed to meet guys, I find myself talking to the women, and dismissing the guys as just another guy. I know that this is because I had felt hurt in previous relationships in which I was disappointed in the guys. I don't hate guys and I do have good male friends. I know there are good guys out there, but I just can't make myself behave the 'right way', that is being friendly to the guys(strangers) in social situation. And I also don't see the guys that I meet as potential dates/husbands/white knight/protector etc anymore. They are just another guy. I know that in the past, guys got crazy about me because I was crazy about them. With my current attitude, I am destined to spinsterhood. Please help.

Answer 1

I have the same problem.
I can tell you, not only did i get hurt by a' man" also a woman.
so, This is what i am doing, not thinking about "what" that person can do for me, or what i can do for that person. i think when i am standing in front of somebody, i tell myself don`t think about those questions, not easy, at all. when i started doing that to men i realised that i was bye sexual. right i am just taking that break from relationships or even the thought, Let yourself heal. question are you bye? if not i still suggest you take that time out to 'heal."