so apparently everyone thinks im immature for feeling like number 2 in my boyfriends life after telling me that he might have a child. well feeling that way is not a reflection of being immature it a sign that i realize that a child is more important than pretty much anything that i do. so for all the mothers yea i am to young im 19 and he is 27 so excuse me if im having a hard time dealing.
2007-02-03 15:47:52 · 7 answers · asked by kaybee 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
its not being immature, its reality. but what you have to realize just because he may have a child doesnt mean there isnt room for you. the love for a child and for a women are two different kinds of love. it may take a little while to sort things out, but if you two really want to make it work, it can be done. good luck.
2007-02-03 15:52:57 · answer #1 · answered by jjsoccer_18 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
19 is old enough to know that children come before girlfriends. I was 18 when I was dating my then boyfriend now husband whom was 26 he had a one year old and I never expected to come first. The love you have for your child can never be replaced with what you feel for someone else that is common sense. Why do you feel the need to compete? You are a grown woman why not act like it? Do not act childish to move the attention from the child to you. Im sure even you can see thats a short road. No man with a child is looking to date a, well child. If you can not see that maybe this is not the relationship for you. Maybe the most you can handle at 19 is some loser guy getting wasted at college. Who knows? Best wishes!
2007-02-03 23:57:05 · answer #2 · answered by J&A 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, I think you're too young to even date. When people have children, the children are completely dependent upon them. Therefore, they should always come first. But you have to ask yourself, how many times do you think having to choose would actually be a problem. And since he apparently doesn't know for sure if he has a child, he just thinks he might, I don't see what you are so upset about.
2007-02-04 00:35:36 · answer #3 · answered by truthseeker221 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Where's the question? Yes, 19 is too young for 27. I can understand why you feel that way. There is so much that happens in your 20s and he's experienced a lot more that you are still looking forward to.
Good luck, I hope it all works out.
2007-02-03 23:52:35 · answer #4 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sad. I knew a girl that got mad because her boyfriend had a picture of his baby first, in his wallet!
You should take it as a good thing that a man loves his child like that. Sadly enough, there are alot of men out there that could care less about their kids. You should hold on to a man that loves his child, and know that he is capable of loving you that way too.
Jealousy is an ugly thing.
2007-02-03 23:54:25 · answer #5 · answered by BlueAngel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
personally i'd have a really hard time dealing with the changes. any woman would i'm a naturally jealous person, so it would bring back all kinds of baby-mama-drama worries for me. i'd worry that she wants him back and such. it doesnt matter what age- it's never good to have something like that come up. he's putting you second because he is probably trying to deal with it himself- but if he doesnt change back to normal eventually then yea there might be a problem there.
2007-02-03 23:57:00 · answer #6 · answered by michelle342 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His child should be 1st. You are not immature you are a jealous brat!
2007-02-04 20:57:54 · answer #7 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋