My close friend meets girls and then with-in 1 week of knowing them they start dating then after about 2-4 weeks he breaks up with them even if nothing is wrong in the relationship.. and another thing there is this girl that he has liked for as long as i have known him but she only likes him as friends. She has told him already she only likes him as friends but i think he breaks up with these girls because of her thinkning maybe he will have a chance with her but she only uses cause she knows he likes her a lot..
so my question .....?
should i tell him to grow up and accept the fact that she doesn't like him in a gf/bf kind of way and is using him
and....
he needs to stop breaking up with these girls for no reason or just don't even start dating them in the first place...
2007-02-03 15:46:57 · 13 answers · asked by girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should really not say anything. He should learn on his own, If you feel that strong about this whole thing then suggests something . you can`t change a persons thinking they have to change or learn themselves. but, I think that its good you realise this yourself.
2007-02-03 15:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by katana b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes all a good friend can do is stand by and watch the same destructive behavior occur again and again. But a good friend would communicate what she/he sees and wonders about in an honest and compassionate way. I would tell him "it seems" like she's just using you for the dates...she's already told you she just wants to be friends... Next time he wants to go out with her, maybe he should suggest (in advance) separate checks. Or have you considered that he may like you?and all these other girls are just a way to let you know that no matter who he dates ... they are not the one he really wants? ?Maybe You... only you know the kind of relationship you have with him. Just be an honest good friend. If he chooses to continue the behavior that is his choice.
2007-02-03 15:55:43 · answer #2 · answered by pamela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought in order to break up with someone there had to be a relationship. It sounds to me like he is "dating" which is exactly what he should be doing.[[ he breaks up with these girls because of her thinking maybe he will have a chance with her but she only uses cause she knows he likes her a lot.. ]] I found this to make little sense. If she is using him then I would think it is SHE who needs to stop yanking his chain and grow up, not the other way around.
2007-02-03 15:57:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not in a "relationship" with these girls- he's DATING them. He's not using anyone- he's only seen them for 14 days. That's what dating is. The girls are stupid if they think 14 days = something real or meaningful. His love life is not your business.
2007-02-03 15:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him that the girl he is obsessing about does not care what he does and explain to him that what he is doing is not only wrong but hurtful. Are you sure he even likes women? He is not hurting anyone but the girls he breaks up with, and you need to warn each and every one of them what he is going to do to them. He's the kind of guy that makes all men look bad. I would not even be his friend period. It makes you look bad by associating with him, like your part of it.
2007-02-03 15:51:59 · answer #5 · answered by disco lemonade 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, actually depends on how old he is. If we are talking some high school boy or some college guy who is too young to settle down... why not date around. By the way, i think you are jealous... if you are into the boy why don't you just tell him? :o)
2007-02-03 15:56:01 · answer #6 · answered by AMoRous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your close friend sounds like a jerk. Why are you so intent on turning this sleeze into a good person. You chicks always like to think that you can change a man with you well-intended intervention. Find a new friend.
2007-02-03 15:50:59 · answer #7 · answered by Senor Pig 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
He sounds very immature and needs to be honest with himself. I would not worry about this... Watch from afar! It sounds like you are a little bit too concerned!!! Good luck!!
2007-02-03 15:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by Bobby 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to quit being such a loser. If he treated the girl he likes the way he treats the other girls (like crap), she would be go crazy for him. When will men learn the secret???!!!
2007-02-03 15:54:30 · answer #9 · answered by jomama 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
maybe hes just scared. or hes not over someone so hes afraid to move on. or maybe hes just looking for someone perfect. or he could be a player lol
2007-02-03 15:51:31 · answer #10 · answered by NONAME 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋