To all of you - how do you find happiness? How do you change your ways of negativity into something positive?

Question

I am feeling a bit low these days - with no real trigger. I would like to hear all of your thoughts!

Answer 1

Go to 'First Light' in my Blog Roll:

--scroll down Left Margin at
http://360.yahoo.com/ki_te_moana

If you get that right, it will do more and better for you than all other good things combined.

But there are some who won't get by the first three lines, I know.

Nevertheless, this is my BEST answer.

Blessed are those who can READ and THINK, and properly weigh their experience.

In work, the greatest happiness is working with people you like.

SAMe supplement may help a bit with depression, also exercise, also forgetting about oneself in the effort to improve some things in the world.

Knowing your destiny -- to arrive one day at The Center of All Realities, and knowing that you worked hard and deserve to be there.

Being true to yourself.

Understanding the TRUTH, growing in TRUTH and LIGHT.

Being a child of light.

Feeling a sense of oneness with the angels for real.

Meeting a kindred spirit.

Helping.

Answer 2

I' ve been in the mental health profession for years, and I can tell you that there is no good answer for that. My personal belief - happiness is a temporary state that is easily affected by a number of factors, including environmental, social, physical, etc. I don't necessarily believe in all of the "postive thinking" literature either, because some people just end up deluding themselves only to find dissappointment later. For me (and others I know) I have found that seeking contentment in life is the more realistic goal and least stressful. Unfortunately, some of the research out there indicates that those who have the most money are indeed happier. I would guess that those with more money are able to distract themselves from the harsh realities of life by spending much of their time (and money) getting daily massages, taking monthly spa vacations, and figuring out where they will purchase their next million dollar home. In this case, happiness is an absence of pain brought on by temporary distraction and satiation. Contentment for me includes satisfaction with my marriage, work, finances, leisure time, and overall health. In addition, the more I can give to others the better I feel about myself - but the giving is genuninely delivered and not for the sole purpose of self-fulfillment.

Answer 3

All it really takes for me is to turn on the television or read the newspaper. With so many horrific things happening around us, I can easily be happy and grateful for what I have, even when I'm in the worst of moods. It's always easier to focus on the negative aspects of our life, and overlook all the amazing and wonderful things we are blessed with. I guess if you really want to break it down, make a list of all of the things that make you happy, or good qualities that you have. That should liven your spirits and give your self confidence a boost.

Answer 4

I sometimes hear that said too. That people can't change. (Mostly I hear it on HOUSE, M.D. You know? The tv show?) And in a way, that's right. But I DID change. And that's because I spent 5 years in a conscious school. And I was INCREDIBLY lucky to have found one. It's not as if they advertise their existence. I look back on those years with fondness. This is the irony of life. Because real change is ANYTHING but pleasant. It was one of the most difficult periods of my life. Because there was no standing still. But the friendships I had in that school were like nothing I had ever experienced in my life. The depth, the genuineness...people in ordinary life have no idea, not a CLUE what they are missing. And the friendships weren't even the purpose of the school. They were a necessary conjunction to it. You couldn't HAVE those friendships if you didn't do DIFFICULT PSYCHOLOGICAL work on yourself, every single day. And you couldn't do the work if you didn't have that friendship. You found yourself there and little by little, you made it your own. What you called "false persona", it's interesting that you used that phrase because we had a definite phrase for that. It's called FALSE PERSONALITY. Its not simply our imaginary picture of ourselves. Its that but its more than that because our false personality is operating almost 100% of the time. In school, we had to struggle against this and we did that by trying to REMEMBER OURSELVES. A specific psychological "exercise" that is one's way of witnessing their life as it happens. To ALWAYS be present to the moment. You do this and you can even find yourself falling asleep (that is, self-remembering begins to fade) and you brign yourself back to awareness and it starts to fade again. It's a constant struggle, to KEEP YOUR LAMPS LIT. this book explains it a bit more:

Answer 5

I help people that need someone to care about them. I make
visits to old people's homes and visit sick children in the hospital,
reading to them, and playing simple games. Check with your
local volunteer organizations and ask them what you can do.
Use your talents to teach others what you know. This is a
great way to stay positive and the feedback's very rewarding.
Your local SPCA Wildlife center is a wonderful place to
volunteer also...I do it whenever I'm in the doldrums...just
being around the animals is very life enhancing.

Answer 6

i think that the best way is to change your way of thinking. Instead of always focusing your energy on the negatives in life, think about everything you have to be thankful for. What you should do is write a list of all the good things in life (big and small.) I have tried this before and it worked for me.

Answer 7

Look i don't know how can you find happiness, but try to use your
negativity and think about something that you like to do and do it.

Answer 8

You find happiness by not looking for it... just try to be content with your life and see all the things in it that are already wonderful... and when things seem bad, just remind yourself of all the other people out there that have it much worse.

hope this helps! ;)

Answer 9

Outstanding question. You need something to work for: a challenge, a passion, a self-improvement. You also need something to hope for, and someone to love.

Answer 10

Just think of all the good things you have going 4 you and always think of what would be worst and be gratefull:) always look on the bright side of things:P