I have not been on a date in almost 3 years and i don't know what to do.I am plus sized but not Gross.........i have been told i am quite pretty, but men do not ask me out.I have tried talking to them but no luck.I see others who are overweight and they have someone but why can't I?? I am beginning to get really depressed and feel like i will always be alone.Please help..what can i do?? Please no mean answers..thanks
2007-02-03 15:46:21 · 13 answers · asked by sugar_n_spice 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be upfront from the get-go. there are alot of guys that like bigger women, and then there are the jerks that degrade them. Most of the time its the hefty guys that make the jokes. I myself am like you and been dateless for awhile. so i know the depressed thing all to well. but just hang in there and rely on friends. they always seem to know whats going on and when they are needed the most. And lastly quit looking, relax a bit, let some guy come find you. im sure it will happen or thats what i keep hoping. lol good luck
2007-02-03 15:52:07 · answer #1 · answered by d_sharde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are conscious of your weight. This being the case, it will always reflect in your self-esteem and confidence. Some women who are plus sized don't see it as a negative and this frees them up to relationships. So, as hard as it is to do... you need to find a method that works for you that will bring your weight to a level where you feel more comfortable.
The most attractive women are the women who are comfortable with who they are. You sound like a good person. Don't allow depression to take root in you. Be pro-active. Change what you don't like about yourself. The relationship will naturally follow.
You may not realize it, but you are probably subconsciously sabotaging yourself in your desire to have a relationship. So, pull yourself up by those boot straps, and make a concerted effort to lose 15 pounds over the next three months. I know you can do it!
Then go buy a new outfit to reward yourself!!!
2007-02-03 16:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by diane_b_33594 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you being overweight is the problem and you want your situation to change go to the gym and work out and a bonus, there are men there. I am petite and do not have a man, I get compliments all the time and still do not have a man, sure sometimes I get depressed but I am even more depressesd when I am with someone and it 's not right so cheer up go work out, it will make you feel better. :) but I do not think your weight is the problem sometimes it just takes longer finding that right one, he is out there....like everyone tells me.... BE PATIENT.
2007-02-03 15:56:32 · answer #3 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure what you're doing in order to be asked out on dates in the first place, but I think maybe you should get yourself out there more. I'm not talking about bars and clubs, but out with friends and through different activities.
I am learning how to play golf, and it's 100% men out there, and I've been asked out at the driving range a number of times. You don't need to try this per se, but your chances of being asked on a date are improved if you put yourself into environments where there are lots of guys. I talk to guys everywhere, at bookstores, at HMV, at the service station. Seriously. And it's not like I am trying to date all of them, but it's good to talk to new people and get new perspectives, and obviously, the more people you talk to, the more chance you have of being asked out. I have been asked out 3 times at the service station! lol
Also - guys aren't going to ask out someone who they think will say no, so when you're chatting with a guy; smile, laugh at his jokes and make it clear that you are open to dating him. Guys don't want to get shut down, so making things clearer for them can help a lot. Maybe you could ask them out.
You can also make your friends aware that you would like to start dating more. Not in a desperate way at all, but just so it raises the idea in their consciousness. Your friends might have great male friends to introduce you to or bring single guys out next time they see you.
I really don't think that you're single because you have a fuller figure. That is ridiculous. I am sure that there are plenty of guys out there who would love to date you. Men don't just come knocking at your door, you have to put yourself out there more and I am confident that your calendar will quickly fill up.
2007-02-03 15:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Snow White 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I'm not plus sized but I'm not normal. and there's this guy, named mike, and i really like him but i don;t know if he likes me because i think I'm fat. But i don't think that he is a guy that cares about looks. Oh well. Plus I'm not even sure if he knows anything about me other than that i play the flute and sit in front of him (we are in only band class together). I'm so sad. I want a boyfriend.
Maybe we should make like a club. Of like people unable to get dates and call it PUGD.
2007-02-03 15:52:32 · answer #5 · answered by GirlyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Similar situation here...only im fit, sweet to EVERYONE regardless of anything at all & said to be very pretty...SO why do I only get asked out by guys im not attracted to? Hope u find a way 2 deal with this hun...cuz unfortunately this is a depressing world...with not only crimes but heartbreak too......good luck
2007-02-03 16:00:49 · answer #6 · answered by shaylea29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give up. There are plenty of caring, compassionate guys out there that like big women. It's all about find the right one, just like it is for anyone else. Good things come when you least expect it. You will find someone. They are out there. I know from experience.
2007-02-03 15:56:44 · answer #7 · answered by sweetgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-02 06:37:17 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you live in a small town?big city? try net dating...hang in there, their is someone for everyone! You sound very nice, don't get down!
2007-02-03 15:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by onottopilot 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would go out with you. I like a girls that are a lil chunky just more to love :-)
2007-02-03 15:53:27 · answer #10 · answered by gordonr83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋