My husband and his brother flies to Florida to visit my dad and my side of the family....While they were there my family decides to tell stories of things I did in my past (like 30 years ago) because they think its so funny.. So they tell stories of my wild days, my x-boyfriends, etc and telling all these things in front of my husbands brother.. Things that is none of his business.. Then after the visit the brother says to me..wow... your family told me all about your past and repeats everything back to me because he is so shocked and I am sure planning on going back and telling everyone the stuff he knows about me.... Frankly, I was ticked at my family because they did not have to say all that stuff in front of my brother in law.. My family said I am being too sensitive and it was stories and laughs to pass the time away. I feel I did not have to be the subject of it all. I just wondered how you would feel in the same situation... Am I being too sensitive?
2007-02-03 15:46:17 · 9 answers · asked by Lea 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No you're not. It's completely innappropriate. Your family probably knows you well enough to know you would be uncomfortable with them sharing stories like that. Some people don't like the mistakes they've made in the past to be brought up. I know I don't.
2007-02-03 17:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by redhead77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey! If it were me I would be a little upset and I don't think it was right for your family to talk about you when you weren't there especially to your husband and his brother. I mean it's cool if it was just having him there for a visit and getting to know him or whatever fine. As well if the stories that were told were personal to you, dam straight I would be talking to the family and asking them why they would say such a thing. Everyone has a past but life goes on and if it were my family I'd tell them a thing or two and they would have wished they kept my business to themselves because that is total disrespect. Whatever your family said to your husband and his brother I really hope that your husband is a real man and doesn't think about anything they had to say, because you are the person he fell in love with not that person that you were in your past. I hope things stay cool with you and your husband also I hope that his brother doesn't repeat any of the stories I have no idea what they might be but whatever the case that's your personal business and it should have remained that way.
Take care.
2007-02-04 00:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are being too sensitive. I mean really even your brother-N-Law is family now and having fun talking about your past life is new and interesting to your families new guest. You are the one thing everyone there had in common, so lighten up a little and next time they will find something or someone else to laugh at. Laughing at and talking about family for the fun of it is normal and I have been on your end and the teasing end. Your brother-N-Law may see you as a real person with a real family and an individual now, not just (my brothers wife). I think you are making way too much of this;
Tracylyn S
2007-02-03 23:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by Tracylyn S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened 30 years ago and they didn't reveal too much, then I'd say you are being a little too sensitive. I must say that I still laugh about my wild days of 25+ years ago. It just shows your BIL how far you have come and that you are human. He probably has plenty of little secrets too about his former wild days. Don't fret, just laugh it off. Your not the same person now that you were then, and he should realize that and appreciate it.
2007-02-03 23:55:48 · answer #4 · answered by TPhi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are families for if not to embarrass you. I think you are being too sensitive, but I would also nicely tell them you were a little embarrassed and hope they respect you enough to keep those stories to themselves.but if not I'd try to laugh with them and not let something like that cause tension between you and your family.
2007-02-03 23:54:08 · answer #5 · answered by Petra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's the truth, dont let it bother you. Your husband didnt seen to be concerned. Youth is a time when one does foolish things. Perhaps you need to speak with your in-laws and get some dirt on your BIL's wild & crazy youth.
2007-02-04 00:22:30 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest and open with your family and tell them that you are deeply offended by their revelations about you.If it happens again then you can reveal something about them.Families do this type of stuff all the time which is not very nice I know,.
2007-02-04 00:14:47 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah I really think you are. I know there are things that I have done that weren't the greatest but they are me! That is why I am the person that I am today. And I don't care WHO knows what I have done in the past. Good or bad!
2007-02-03 23:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by TayLynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I bet my family would do the same thing...that was WAY inappropriate and absolutely not their place to say that. people are supposed to trust their family, you cant trust a person if they tell other people your inner most secrets
2007-02-04 00:58:55 · answer #9 · answered by Jenna M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋