Serious questions for the ladies only please on advice about relationships? My question is what the best approach to take if a guy is sincerely interested winning a girl's heart and affection, and is not into playing games? It just seems really tough to do these days if a guy is soft-hearted and even a little shy, but believes in being kind, respectful, and a gentleman to girls. I have tried this repeatedly with girls and have had very little success, since they either end up just wanting to be friends, or tend not to be attracted to this general personality type, which I would define as my own. If not these, what kinds of things or qualities are girls looking for in a guy for the purpose of working toward a serious relationship or more?
2007-02-03 15:36:16 · 24 answers · asked by 011 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
be honest
give her attention
call when you say you're going to call
NO STALKING!
2007-02-03 15:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Sharp Marble 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, I'm a dude, but what most of these girls are telling is how to be a friend to a girl. When you are a gentleman, you are boring. I made the exact same mistakes as you and was so frustrated why I couldn't even get a girl to dance with me.
1. Be cocky and funny. By funny I don't mean joke funny, I mean make fun of what she does or says. But don't be mean about it, be playful.
2. Be relaxed and playful.
3. Be confident, and just a little arrogant.
4. Be unpredicable
5. Don't give her everything she wants, at least at the time she wants it. Like if she asks you to buy her a gold ring. Don't buy it for her at that time. Surprise her with it two weeks later.
And the most important: Don't ask women for advice about other women. At least your average women. They don't even know what they want, much less what other women want.
2007-02-03 16:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Greg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well a lot of girls are diffrent but yeah your on the right page! They do look for kind,respectful and gentlemens,but we also dont want a boring guy!
First of all a lot of girls like funny and confident guys. Funny is good because it means your not boring. Confident is also good because it shows your not the type to be pushed around. When the girl is feeling down try to be supportive and try not to give her that much advise because if you do it makes her just think of you as the "friend",nothing more than that. Lastly fight for her girls love it when you do that! If she says no then try again who knows maybe she will see that you can be more than just a friend.
2007-02-03 15:51:26 · answer #3 · answered by hotlatina1232001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow, you wouldn't happen to have a twin brother or a cute older brother would you? wow...that is so sweet. Well, it seems like you are already half-way to winning a girl's heart. Make sure you show her how soft-hearted and kind you are. And to win a girl's heart is pretty much the same for every girl: Every girl wants to be treated like a princess. Every girl wants a guy who listens to her and cares about more than how "hot" she is, but her inner beauty. And if the girl you like doesn't care about these things, then RUN as fast as u can because she's gonna stomp all over your heart.
2007-02-03 15:42:48 · answer #4 · answered by laangel464 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ill tell you i have the same problem with guys ill say it simple girls want you to be honest and upfront if you wont a girl to like you be sweet to her talk to her alot maybe ask her if she'd like to call you if so you made it to a new level talk about interesting stuff not school then all the sudden out of no where tell her you think she's pretty (befor doing so make sure she's singls) she'll probably say "what" this means she's shy but interstead you tell her again i think you pretty she says thank you and you ask her out somewhere maybe an upcoming dance or to the bowling ally with some friends or skating ring or just let her pick
2007-02-03 15:43:09 · answer #5 · answered by m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are the "friend" type. If you just talk but not flirt, you'll go too far beyond the "just friends" line. Believe it or not, if you want to win someone's heart you have to strategize a little bit. Don't look at it as if you're playing a game. Be the hard-to-get. That's my advice. Good luck.
2007-02-03 15:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Eden 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if there is a girl in particualr that you are trying to win, then invite you and her and some friends that you can be yourself around out on a group date. dont tell her its a date though. just get to know her a little more. when you talk to her, look at her in the EYES, and actualyl pay attention to what she's saying. make conversation with her off of what she is saying and she'll love it, believe me she will notice. when your with her, open the door for her and i dont mean wlak in front of her push the door open and hold it i mean get to the side, open the door and let her walk through it. if that goes well than just talk to her more. the key to winning a girls heart is by getting to know her. if she realizes that you actualyl CARE about what shes saying, then she'll give you more respect and will WANT to talk to you. so build off of what she is saying. dont make her do all the tlaking, but dont be self absorbed. i know im 13 and i mite not know much, but i believe that this will work! good luck!
2007-02-03 15:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be yourself, i hate when guys try to be something they're not. Be honest about things, take it slow, it takes time to really get to know a person, and be careful with the jealousy thing, another thing don't make any empty promisses, that just makes guys look like a**h*les. Also, try to find someone who has alot in common with you, example: religion, beliefs, goals. I mean if your an outgoing guy would be nice to find one whos optimist and has goals. Anyways, good luck.
2007-02-03 15:50:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try striking up a conversation that's personal to them. Ask about stuff they're interested in. Maybe your just talking to the wrong girls. Good luck
2007-02-03 15:40:17 · answer #9 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be nice and kind to them, and you will eventually find the right one, Tease them every once and a while, but not about what they look like. Try to go out of your comfort zone for them, and that will be showing that you truly care, and they will notice. Also, do good deeds for them. If you are having dinner at her house, wash the dishes, . also, don't treat us like objects, or call us hot, say beautiful instead!!! I hope that you find the right one for you!!
2007-02-03 15:41:26 · answer #10 · answered by rissa.rocks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep on being yourself! The right girl will come along who appreciates these qualities. Don't ever compromise being who you are! My husband has these qualities and we have the best marriage ever. I would'nt trade him for anything in the world. Some luckey woman will come into your life at the right time.
2007-02-03 15:48:19 · answer #11 · answered by seven-11 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋