I hear single women have outnumbered married women for the 1st time in US history. What do u think about that?

Question

Quite a major demographic trend, with everyone choosing to marry later in life or not marry at all? Are you one of those singles?
How do you feel about it?

Answer 1

Well . . . I heard on the radio that they started counting women at the age of 15 and followed them until death. Women live something like 8 years longer than men on average. So don't let those statistics mislead you. I've also read that married people are healthier and happier than people who are not married (yes, there is some research to that effect). This is like that flawed statistic that said that women make 75% of what men make. What they don't account for is the difference in the actual amount of work (part time vs full time), experience, and risks men take to start their own businesses. Whenever you see a statistic in the media, be very careful because it is almost always some sort of political propaganda. Sometimes the conclusions are compelling, and sometimes (very often) they are not. Good night!

Answer 2

I think women are just getting wiser. We're more independent and self sufficient now than women of previous generations. Consequently, we have more choices. Marriage is not necessarily a "goal" anymore (well, except for those who are all caught up in having "their day", i.e. a huge wedding), rather it is an "option" to be considered when/if the right man comes along. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don't. The odds are not in our favor, that's for sure. But if they don't, that's fine too. We're capable of having a happy life whether marriage is in our cards or not. Premarital sex is not taboo as it was 50 years ago, so that's not causing a mad dash to the alter anymore either. And, having kids can be accomplished via alternative methods (sperm donors, mutual agreements, etc) so even that is not a factor -- at least for the less traditional women. Women are less likely to make a rash decision about marriage simply because she feels a T-minus countdown on her biological clock.

The point is, women have more options today than they did years ago. And we're learning, from our friends' miserable marriages and expensive divorce and custody battles, just how important it is to choose wisely when/if considering marriage.

Sure, I felt envious of all of my friends when we were in our early 20's and they were all having big, beautiful weddings ... and then babies. But as I watch their ugly separations and bitter divorce and custody battles, I'm actually GRATEFUL that I turned down 2 propositions for marriage and spared myself the possibility of having to go through all of that. They were good men, but each was just looking for someone (keyword > "someone") to marry -- they wanted a wife.

Do I still hope that I will meet a really great guy? Absolutely. But it has nothing to do with a wedding, or a gown, or even a ring. It's about wanting to be loved by another, sharing your life with someone who makes you want to be a better person. Someone genuine who inspires you. Someone you envy and wish you were more like them. Someone you can talk to and laugh with. Someone with character. And unfortunately, those essential qualities are not easy to find.

Answer 3

I am single by divorce 3 yrs ago. I know a lot of single women all ages and we all pretty much agree that its a mans smorgasbord out there. If you are single and get into no strings relationships it is not so bad,,,,but if you are looking for someone to have a monogamous long lasting relationship with it can be quite difficult.
Men are so happy. For years they have been told that they could'nt "have their cake and eat it too". NOw they dont have to buy a whole cake...they can just take a taste from all the variety available to them.
Good men dont last long out there.....they get snatched up......
Sometimes there is a fine line between independent and alone....Its still a mans world in so many ways and lots of men are intimidated by womens independence and avoid strong women...who need & want love too!!!!
I am wrestling with the whole issue as we speak!
That is what I think...

Answer 4

I am one of those singles...for now. I am engaged though, so I guess I am off to the other side of the fence.

I did choose to marry later in life. It wasn't about career or wanting to wait until I was financially stable. I didn't have certain goals that I wanted to achieve before marriage. I just wanted to marry the right guy for me. I wanted to be in love with the man I marry. Maybe as a child of divorce, I take those vows extra seriously and did not care to make them unless I was really sure I could keep them. I know now I am with the love of my life, and the time is right. Not because of time, but because I am with the man I could not be without.

Answer 5

Salam Really I think not only in the US that women out numbering men 4 to 1 but also in mostly countries in his world In my country Indonesia female to male ration is 5 to 1 Based on hadith the one sign of nearing the end of this world the ratio will be 6 to 1 so now the end of this world is nearing

Answer 6

I am 29 y/o and single and I would like to get married one day but not right now, I want to finish school first but I don't even have a BF so that is far off.

Answer 7

I think that it is better this way honestly. People are waiting until later in life to settle down. They actually take the time and decide what they want in life as opposed to jumping in too soon and ending up in a hasty divorce.
Women have started to realize we don't need a man to be complete. Men are there because we want them, not need them.
People need to figure out who they are alone, before they find out who they are with someone else.

Answer 8

Well, women either mostly choose the wrong kinds of guys early in life, which puts them off later in life, or don't realize the guys right in front of their eyes.

Answer 9

Im not sure if im going to be one...im not thinking about marriage but i do have a boyfriend....i think that women have became very independent on men ...after all marriage is just an insurance if you ever get divorce..

Answer 10

I am one of them (OK, I'm Canadian, but who cares?), and I'm loving this trend. More and more women are finally realizing that marriage is optional, and are choosing to live for themselves instead. I'm one of the staunchest supporters of singlehood out there, and this is, of course, a huge boon for the movement.