2007-02-03 15:04:08 · 15 answers · asked by m 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think the best way to find love is not to look for it, you always meet someone when you least expect it but I also believe that I personally need to at least leave my house so he can find me :)
2007-02-03 15:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by *sexy mocha* 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe "love" ever finds anybody. Love is a mutual feeling shared between two people that has to be initiated, worked at and nurtured. It's like hoping to win the lottery, but never buying a lottery ticket. Any relationship I have been involved in has taken effort on my part. You need to break out of your comfort bubble and be proactive if you ever expect anything to happen - whether you are a man or a woman. Several other things to think about as well... 1) treat yourself like you care (proper grooming, diet, exercise, decent clothing). You can't expect somebody else to care more about you than you do. 2) treat everybody with respect and dignity - nothing turns off a potential mate than rudeness. 3) consider yourself - your body, personality, age, intelligence, humor, interests, etc. Don't expect anything above and beyond that. Many people set their expectations too high and wonder why they can't find "the perfect match." The perfect match is somebody similar to you. 4) don't be overbearing. Trying to MAKE it happen scares people off. It sounds like a contradiction, but relax and be yourself, but on the other hand be assertive. It takes some practice (and you'll mess up a lot before you get it right) and self confidence but the more you get yourself out there and do what you need to do, the better you are at it. I hate to make the comparison, but it's a lot like trying to get a job. Think of it that way and think of every date as a job interview.
So if a partner is what you're hoping to find, start looking - and doing what you need to do. Chances of "love" finding YOU are about as slim as winning the lottery - with no lottery ticket.
2007-02-03 23:27:41 · answer #2 · answered by Dean D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all reality, Love is something that you have to at least put yourself out there for. Sometimes you have to do something for yourself, get all dressed up, make yourself look hot! if you do this, you will have more self confidence and will everyone else will definitely see this. if you want yourself, others will want you too.
2007-02-03 23:11:35 · answer #3 · answered by Kelye R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you have no one it is common to believe they won't come into your life. You have to write down what type of person you want to meet, and then you meditate on that for a while.
You will see that what you end up with is much more than you could ever have imagined. Also..it happens when you aren't thinking about it.
2007-02-03 23:09:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that love is part fate, part controllable.
There are certain people that you meet, and if you take the chance of getting to know them better, who knows....they could be the one you have been waiting for all these years.
Love has not found me yet, but I hope it does.
2007-02-03 23:10:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ravenna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
90% is that you really have to go out there and explore it yourself, if you don't even open up i doubt you can find any...being alitle shy is okay but at least you have to socialize alittle and probably 10% really i think it lower...taht love will find you...
2007-02-03 23:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by schoolgrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, my boyfreind is incredibly shy and afraid to rush me, we've dated for over a month and havent held hands yet. So, technically you dont have to get over being shy, but you do have to get over it enough to ask the girl out. But if your too shy and the girl is impatient, then you might have issues, luckily for my bf, i'm patient.
2007-02-03 23:08:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love will find you, but you have to be open to it. You also have to be in the right place at the right time.
2007-02-03 23:07:22 · answer #8 · answered by mellijenk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be confident in yourself and your abilities.
Then you need to seek a lady who is looking for your qualities.
I was shy for many years, mostly because I wasn't confident in who I was. Now I am married with two kids and I LOVE IT! My kids continually want to be with me.
2007-02-03 23:09:34 · answer #9 · answered by n9wff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say God helps those who help themselves.
Well, I certainly believe in the more proactive approach.
But sometimes, things fall in our laps too. But I'd never give up trying when I really want something in my life. Opportunities are everywhere. Sometimes, unless we open the doors ourselves, we lose the chance of benefiting from what lies behind them.
2007-02-03 23:08:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋