After i broke up with my boyfriend and he started dating my best friend, I started cutting myself. I finaly just told him what i was doing to myself and he went off on me. I really dont want to live in this world if I cant have him and I know thats nto right because I'm a straight a student, popular, skinny, etc...all the things "guys want" so they say..but still what do I do because everything that he does makes me want to die even more but I want to keep talking to him beacuse I love him...even though he loves her. Thanks in advance.
2007-02-03 14:48:40 · 21 answers · asked by Jayme 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
PLUS he picked up his new girlfriend right in front of me and twirled her around when he hugged her...cuz thats what he used to do to me. He knew it would make me mad and I heard him say HAHAAHA shes pissed and my real bff said thats not nice and he said oh well she deserves it. Now he denies seeing me right then when that happend.=[
2007-02-03 14:53:07 · update #1
and again the cuts weren't majorly serious just scratches that left scars
2007-02-03 14:54:39 · update #2
One............Do you realize how many guys are out there, Your life is not worth ending over some stupid guy. I'm guessing you are young. I had a cousen who killed herself, It was so emotionaley hard on the family. Do you want to put your family through that. You need to forget about this good for nothing guy, hes worthless if he makes you feel this way, and forget your "best friend" shes not a friend. You should go talk to a counselor. There is so much to life, to see and to do, many guys out there would prob love to date you, but whos going to want to fall in love with someone who thinks that death ends it all. Well honey, it may end it for you but why would you want that. Believe me it's not worth it. open your eyes up, look at yourself, who cares what he thinks, hes just one of the many guys out there. You will have your heart broken more than once, which means you are capable of loving more than once. I've had my shares of heartbreaks and i thought the same way you are. But i'm happily married now and wouldn't trade it for nothing. He's moved on, now you need to move on, sorry so blunt but sucide is not the answer..............................
2007-02-03 14:59:00 · answer #1 · answered by wondering 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are worth way more than a guy. Please don't do this for him. If someone can't appreciate you, the way you want and deserve, then it's okay because there will be someone else that will. You have a lot ahead of you, I'm sure. Just don't do something that you will regret when you look back on it. Pray, even if you're not religious or spiritual. Make yourself a happy person. Time goes by so fast, even though it might not feel like it when you're having bad moments, like these. But it goes really, really fast and when you're older, you'd wish you had enjoyed this time and kept yourself happy with a guy that would love you and be sweet. He's not ever going to be the only guy.
I'll pray for you.
2007-02-03 22:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
First of all, this"friend" he's dating now may not even be that, let alone your "best friend"...did she ask you how you'd feel before she started dating him? Secondly, please don't cut yourself anymore!!! NO guy is worth mutilating your body for. Finally, if no guy is worth mutilating your body for, then there's no way in hell any guy is worth dying over! What I recommend is focusing on other friends. Get one or a couple of your girlfriends to go out one night a week, or if you can, take a vacation in the spring or summer. This definately helps take your mind off of guys! Trust me, I've done it before! And always remember...there are other fish in the sea!!! If you need more help, please see a professional.
2007-02-03 23:11:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anita Blake 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can believe this: Men who are abusers, emotionally, physically, mentally or all three, choose their "victims" (girlfriends) wisely. They can spot prey as easily as an eagle does. They have an uncanny ability to find women who are perfect "targets." If you find yourself feeling worse about yourself since you've been with him, I can guarantee that he's the source of the problem. They're so good at it they have you thinking that you're wrong all the time, until you're suicidal. I got the distinct impression that you're in love with one of these guys.
Look at the situation you're in - this turkey took out your best FRIEND after you? And she WENT with him? You're surrounded by turds and you're letting them flush you down.
They're winning. Don't let them. Every cut is them saying HA HA. Screw that. You're much better off without those two cancers in your life.
2007-02-03 23:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about it Jayme, do you really want to spend the rest of your life a a person who obviously has no respect for other people feelings that they would immediately date your best friend. What kind of a person gets between best friends like that. I think in time you will realize this and agree that you are better off without him. The pain you feel now is temporary, suicide is permanent.
2007-02-03 22:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by MARCUS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What in the world are you thinking? You would do this over a guy who is not interested in you? You need help. Think what your doing. There are pleanty to guys out there who would be a hundred times better. You think they would want someone with scars all over them? Not. Have you ever heard of a boy doing that because his girl dumped him? Get your head on stright girl. No guy is worth that.
2007-02-03 22:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by thmsnbrgll 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jayme,
I may not know you personally but after reading your anecdote it sounds like you are not loving yourself as much as you should. You have a purpose in life. It may not seem like anything in your young age with so much popularity swarming around you, but think what would happen if you hurt yourself to death. You would make your family very sad and they may become depressed. You would be buried in a grave and become a nobody. You'll be in the school newspaper, and they'll say that you may have had a mental illness to blame it on.
i would advise you to throw anything away that reminds you of this guy. if he gave you a ring throw it away! try not to think of him or your old best friend, (ive been hurt this way too)...instead help yourself! when your on your feet again and living the best way you can they'll look at your and be surprised better yet they may even be jealous or something. so treat yourself and forget about that idiot, he's immature and you are a bit too, but its like he's a spoiled boy that gets his way. do yourself a favor and dont talk to them as friends anymore. instead seek out help from a trusted adult.
sorry for shoving that soul mate stuff earlier but i kind of think that you suffer a form of depression. i have bipolar, and this happened at around the time i was popular in school too. then a crisis hit me when i had a psychotic episode..i went to a hospital like lindsey lohan, and it was not fun at all.
my point is you may suffer from mood swings, and you cant seem to control your emotions so you let it get the best of you and cut yourself a bit. So i really advise you to talk to your mom or to a health counselor so that you dont hurt yourself anymore
Hope for the best...
God bless!
2007-02-03 22:59:17 · answer #7 · answered by TruthSeeker 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now, you are the one who broke up with him. You must have had your reasons on breaking up with him. So you should not have the feeling of killing yourself. Yeah, if he really cared about you, he should have waited a while before going out with someone else. Now if you love him, why did you break up with him?? Don't sweat losing this guy, there are more guys out there that will be lucky to have you if you really wanted a decent guy that won't hurt you. Dont kill yourself because of your first love.
2007-02-03 23:05:36 · answer #8 · answered by traveling_soldier6784 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know it feels really sucky and depressing. it really does. you should cry and let some of your feelings out. and after that, just avoid him for a really long while. try to wipe him out of your memories, and focus on other things. do not let a guy ruin your life for you. you've got a lot to live for; this is just an obstacle that you have to dodge and continue your way. also, dont show how much it bothers you when he does things like that.
remember: "nobody can make you inferior without your consent." ---Eleanor Roosevelt.
2007-02-04 00:10:51 · answer #9 · answered by Wendy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fall in love with another guy. For you I think it's the only "cure"... Or if it gets worst go see a therapist... Only if it gets worst than that. But I think that you should move on and forget about him. It's hard because he's dating your best friend. I know how it feels. It'll only get better when you move on.
2007-02-03 22:53:16 · answer #10 · answered by Eden 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋