Since it's obvious that life will never improve for me, should I just give up altogether?

Question

Even my own parents are starting to turn on me and I cannot take it anymore. I'm on the verge of leaving everything behind: a family that doesn't love me, no friends, no girlfriend, no job, no money, no life, no nothing. I have nothing. Absolutely nothing. Psychologically, I am one big mess. Because of this, it is hard for me to function like a "normal" human being (whatever that means). All my life I was lied to and I have had enough of everything, including my dysfunctional family.

Answer 1

believe it or not life gets a lot better just hang on there

Answer 2

We could play the "worst-day-ever-game," but I'm too busy trying to clean up all the fun stuff in my life.

As inhumane as this sounds, I think you have the wrong perspective on this. I don't blame you, either. But, think of it this way. You have nothing. Your slate is clean. At this point, you can do whatever you want with it. I mean, can you imagine if you had a really horrible job, or friends, and an abusive girlfirend? It would be far worse. Having nothing is infinitely better than having really bad. That way, you have to first get rid of bad, then try to cope. Think of this as a blessing: You've been given the opportunity to start afresh. I'd love that.

And, trust me, you never know what'll happen tomorrow. I mean, unless your psychic or something, then go ahead. But, some how I don't buy it.

And I've never met a "functional" human. I wonder if they exist???

But I bet you, on some level, your family does love you. Even if it may not be obvious, or even imaginable. Or, I know there is someone out there who does love you. If nothing else, you have to keep going for their sake.

Anyway, the advice: take this as an opportunity to find what you really want out of life, and then go for it.

Oh, and one other thing. While the love and support of others is wonderful, remember this: Eventually, it's you who has to do it (whatever it may be). In the end, it's the way everyone has to do it.

Answer 3

I can totally relate. I can't believe I believed those who claimed they were my friends or family. The man I love just tells me one thing and does another - He'll say he's coming back and then I won't hear from him for days or weeks. It seems like every time I put trust and love into someone they just throw it back in my face and tear me down. I'm a good person who used to have a huge, caring, loving, giving, trusting heart - but now I feel like I can never believe what I was told. I give and give until I can give no more - the love and care has been sucked right out of me.

It seems like such a great idea - to turn into a cold-hearted, non-caring person. But even if I were to become a totally uncaring b*tch - I'd probably still end up being hurt, lied to, mislead, talked down to, yelled at, etc.

Sometimes I wonder what it would be like to just.. die - leave this world and not have to exist with such hatred, hipocrisy, deceiving --- pain. I'm already dead inside - and what good is life when a part of you has died?

People will tell you to keep your head up, go to a doctor and 'talk' about your feelings, and other things --- I've done all of those things and it hasn't made anything better.

Do what your heart is telling you.
If you want to just let it go, let it go.
Look to a Higher Power or "God" for guidance or reassurance.
I know this world is hard to take..
The dreams in which I'm dying are the best I've ever had.

Answer 4

Break the mold. You have a dysfunctional family because their beliefs were not rooted in the Bible. You say you have nothing, but to me it appears that you have more than you honor. You have not given God credit for what you have. I don't hear you complaining about your health. Apparently you have your health. Grading what you have written, I would say you have that you are intelligent. You can use punctuation and spell your words right. So apparently you are intelligent. I think you are just acting like a big sissy. Why don't you grow a pair and use what you've got? My family is a bunch of shucks, so I can relate to how you feel about that. The sooner I realized that I didn't need them, the better off I was. Get a job. Do something for yourself. Respect your parents, but start doing things for yourself. The best thing for you to do is to get a job, no matter what is it. I don't care if it is minimum wage. Do something. And, find an Independent, Fundemental, Baptist Church, or a Bible Church. Make sure they are King James and go regularly, even when you feel like crap. I promise you that this is of the worlds best advice. Work and go be in the house of the Lord. Do these two things, and try to do the best job you can at everything you do in life, and you'll will find purpose and reason to things. You might even find yourself a nice girlfriend in church. You don't have to take your troubles to all these worldly idiots who know nothing, cuz that's what you'll get. Nothing. You ought to be thankful that I saw you question. Becuase I know what I am talking about. Maybe this is fate. Maybe this is God calling you out of the world, and he is using me, and possible other nouns, to get you to pay attention. Take these things to the Lord and see what he can do with your life when give it to him.

Stay fresh brother.

Don't forget what I said and fallow through.

Answer 5

You can't give up now, you've just gone through the worst of it and it can only get better from here.
If you need to leave everything behind, pick-up and move out of your families life for a while, why not? That is your right of passage, its your life, make it happen. If your family is truely dysfunctional, you need to get away from them anyway.
It's a tough task ahead, but just take it in baby steps, don't overwhelm yourself with every detail of what you need to do. Break it down into digestable pieces and pick away slowly, be patient, have hope and keep dreaming. From my experience, its the dreams that have made my life possible. You can see it and now you just need to make it a reality.

Answer 6

Absolutely not! It sounds like you are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Trust me things may not be great now, but it gets better as you get older (especially after moving out of your parents house). Also, if you are having feelings like this, talk to a doctor. Personally, I don't suffer from depression, but I do have OCD and anxiety issues. Currently, I am on medication and doing great. It might be something to consider. Like I said before, talk to a doctor.
PS There is no such thing as a functional family. All families are a little crazy but you have to try to see the good in everyone (even the ones who tick you off). Hope that wasn't too cheesy.

Answer 7

Perhaps you could start over. Maybe join the peace corp or something. Take the focus and pressure off of yourself. And just try to serve others for a few years. Accumulate some good karma, see a new part of the world, and meet some good people who all have it a lot worse off tha we do. It will serve t put your problems and life in perspective. You'll learn some new skills and probably have a lot better chance getting a good job when you get back.

Answer 8

It is difficult living life by others standards and having others fail you because they can't live up to your own... then there's the failing of not living up to your own standards... this sound familiar? it is what normal living is... we all go through problems and high expectations and we are all let down by others some point in our lives, you are not alone friend, and it sounds like you might just be a sensitive soul who needs help in coping with this. It doesn't make you any different or any less normal than any one else. Life sometimes is hard and it seems like there is no end to the pain. You are not responsible for your family's disfunction and it may seem like they do not love you, but they do.
It is hard making friends and it sounds like there are issues you may need to work on for your own self before you concentrate on a girlfriend. Life is hard with no job and no money and you may need to sit down and do some long hard figuring at what you want to do, carreer or job wise... Ask yourself what you like to do, what are your interests, that may help narrow the field for job hunting, and on the girlfriend front too! When you are ready, you may find that your hobbies will help attract the girl of your dreams! Common goals and interests are a strong foundation to build any relationship on... perhaps getting out and doing things that interest you, may show you that sometimes you have to take the initiative,sometimes life doesn't come to you, you have to go and search it out, discover and enjoy it...
You have alot going for you, you just can't recognize it right now... if you need to talk, please use my email...
Stay strong, and please stick around...

Answer 9

You need to talk to someone...go to an urgent care, or a nurse you may know...talk to someone...No life is worth ending by suicidal means. There is always someone worse of than you, you must try to think this way, just so you know this is absolutely true...It is time for you to make some changes if this is the way you are truly feeling...I really can not offer you much because I have no idea how old you are or anything else to go by, but I really hope you can get up the strength to consult some type of help....Good luck

Answer 10

Well since you have decided that life will never improve for you, then YES you should just give up. A person can only make changes when they WANT the changes there. TOO many times in life people blame others for their own faults, start putting some blame on YOURSELF, then start making changes. If you don't take the steps necessary to make the changes, then you deserve everything that life hands you.

Answer 11

HELL NO, I want you to read something someone wrote once that really made me think, please read it.

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool,
To weep is to risk being called sentimental.
To reach out to another is to risk involvement.
To expose feelings is to risk showing your true self.
To place your ideas and your dreams before the crowd
is to risk being called naive.
To love is to risk not being loved in return.
To live is to risk dying.
To hope is to risk despair,
To try is to risk failure.
But risks must be taken, because the greatest risk in life is to
risk nothing.
The person who risks nothing, does nothing, has nothing, is
nothing, and becomes nothing.
He may avoid suffering and sorrow, but he simply cannot learn,
feel, change, grow or love.
Chained by his certitude, he is a slave; he has forfeited his
freedom.
Only the person who risks is truly free.

Leo Buscaglia, Writer

Life is hard, and it's unfair, that's why only those who can go one living without giving up no matter how hard things get can truly be called strong. Since you asked for help, it show that your strong and that you can make it, that you want to make it. I know there are people out there that you care about, no matter what you tell yourself, if there wern't then you wouldn't be human. Do you truly believe that there are people who wouldn't miss you if you were gone, are you truly selfish enough to put them through so much pain? Talking to someone will help, despite what you believe, talk to someone who you trust. Try taking the greatest risk anyone can take, take a leap of faith and and try not to give up on life, because you only get one.