Ladies what would you do if you went out with a guy that you really liked but later on he told you he had had cancer but was afraid to tell you cuz he was afraid of your reaction?
2007-02-03 14:37:17 · 36 answers · asked by my spill canvas 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would understand why he hadn't told me before. I would tell him I love him, then hold him in my arms. I would want to do whatever I could for him. I would stay with him, so he doesn't have to fight this battle alone, and because I love him.
I have a friend who has had cancer, and even though he's in remission now, I can't help worrying about him. I tell him every chance I get that I love him. If the guy you talked about is yourself, I would do the same for you if we were friends.
2007-02-03 14:59:11 · answer #1 · answered by postcardtrader 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch... That would be a tough one. I can understand wanting to wait awhile before springing that on a girl. I would say a couple of months would be acceptable time frame to wait. Although I'd be heartbroken to find out it wouldn't make me stop dating the guy. I'd say tell her when you are ready, just explain to her that you were afraid to tell her and didn't quite know how. But you feel like opening up your feelings to her now. I'm sure she'll understand. Take care, and you're in my prayers.
2007-02-03 14:46:54 · answer #2 · answered by Destiny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on how i like this guy. If I am already in love, i would stay in love and be with him all the way. But if it's just a mera infatuation, i would just remain as friends. Either way, I don't think you should leave someone, as a lover or a friend, just because he has cancer.
2007-02-03 14:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by chardonnayormerlot 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say you shouldn't be afraid of how others will react. You should stay strong in how you feel and talk calmly when telling someone something like this. Always ask yourself..what's the worst that could happen?.. and be willing to risk that.
2007-02-03 14:41:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I liked him well enough to go out with him before I knew he had cancer, I'd still go out with him after I found out. It'd be a pretty shallow person to drop a guy for a reason such as that.
2007-02-03 14:42:07 · answer #5 · answered by Sandi Beach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is the cancer in remission? If i really care for the guy i would want to ask questions about what type and the treatment and when it was and the chances of recurrence. If i really loved him, i might cry. Wow, to really know i guess i would have to be IN that situation. i would not abandon him, that's for sure!
2007-02-03 14:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by fair blue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain. I am a widowed man due to breast cancer that my late wife suffered from. I know that I stuck with her to the end and while I have rebounded with a new love, I will never forget her
she was definitely the best friend I will ever have. stay with your man and let him know you are there for him.
2007-02-03 14:47:12 · answer #7 · answered by George G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be upset that he hadn't told me earlier, then if the first few dates had gone well, go out with him again. If I really liked him cancer shouldn't really matter.
2007-02-03 14:40:58 · answer #8 · answered by raven44012 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd think that was sweet...and since I truely liked him, i'd want to stay by his side...I'd be sad, but not becuz he had cancer...i'd be sad to know that i knew him too late...
I'd appreciate every single moment we have together and be happy cuz...who else appreciates every second you have with your loved one? No matter how long you live with him?
2007-02-03 14:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by rhea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that depends on how much I care about him at that point... if I wasn't sure about my feelings already I would probably break it off, but if I was seriously into him & the relationship then I'd stay... though I would be concerned that it took so long to tell me.
2007-02-03 14:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by zmj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋