What should I do about my bf?

Question

I have this bf..and before he would talk to me all the time and he'd tell me he loved me and all this other gushy stuff.
but now, he barely talks to me, and he doesn't really seem like he's trying either. and if he does, he doesn't sound like he wants to talk to me.
sometimes, i feel like i'm the only one making the effort in the relationship :(
so what should i do?

Answer 1

let him know how you feel, do not bottle your feelings, because they may end up coming out the wrong way. So tell him now, if he still acts the same then maybe its time for you to move on. Why stay in a relationship if you are not happy, and the person you're with doesn't care?

Answer 2

If you havent talked to him yet then do so. If you have and he hasnt changed or even seem to care get the hell out now and trust me because you, I and the rest of the world know that people dont change unless they want to so. If you decide to stay because you "love" him then yo will end up being in a relationship that you give 110% and he dosent and I will tell you why he is not showing like he cares.
1.you do everthing why should he
2.He is having his cake and eating it to.
3.He is comfortable now and does not have to try.
4.He may not care about you
5.Do Not let him get used to you giving your all cause for sure he wont change.

What you need to do is move on, if you want to give it one more try then only put 50% into the relationship and I will guaruntee you he will pull his weigh. EX: if you call 10 times a day only call once etc. I know this sounds silly but when the relationship comes easy they dont have the desire for it so play hard to get and you will be in control. Everyone loves a challenge and do you know why... it's because you have to work at it...Let him work on you, you need to keep him on his toes.
good luck

ps dont nag they hate that be firm strong and independant, it's attractive to them b/c they know you wont have to cling off them and you will feel like a better person.

If you dont make a change now you will be stuck in this rut for a long time and it will get harder to get out of it

wish you all the best

Answer 3

Ask him straight up if he wants the relationship. If he says yes, tell he needs to show it, if he says no, well I guess you will have your answer. Personally it sounds to me like the answer will be .no. If that be the case, take strength from tears and let go. Only thing worse than sadness for 1 day is for two days.

Answer 4

something is wrong and what can make a guy act like that is another girl so you need to come out and ask him .the truth will hurt but you need to know if you have to move on . may be he wants to break up with you and do not know how so he is looking for you to do it . just ask him what s up ,and move on there are many fishes in the sea meaning many men out there may be better than what you have now

Answer 5

omg, that is like sooo scaryy how much that resembles my last relationship, wow, well that is exactly what happened to him and me, but then since he never tlked to me, it turned out that he wanted to break up, and thats what happened , we broke up, i hadnt tlked to him in about a month or so, and then when i did he broke up with me, it sucked, so i kno that tha is not helping, but this might, if i could have changed something, it would have been relizing that i could move on, but i mean , i loved him like soo much , and it was hard, but if i had relized that earlier, like the fact of other guys out there, i would have broken up, as much as i didnt want to , and mayb thats not ur case, but mayb, try as hard as u possibly can to get a hold of him, and tell him how u feel, and explain why u feel that why and what he has done to make you feel that way, but dont be clingy cuz thats how i was and it wasnt good, but definitly...best of luck to u!!! i kno how u feel!!

Answer 6

It looks as if he may have lost interest.
Sit him down and ask him point blank what is wrong. If he refuses to communicate, break it off the relationship. Communication is one of the most important, if not the most important, part of a relationship.

Answer 7

from the sound of it, maybe he doenst really love you anymore. maybe its just his way of telling you that he really doesnt want the relationship to go on any farther. ask him what he wants and if he says that he still wants to be with you then tell him that he better make an effort. if he says he doesnt or he seems confused then forget about him,.

Answer 8

I hate to bring this thought up, but do you think he may be cheating on you? I would definately talk to him about how you feel. Don't bring up the cheating. If he seems like he is not interested in how you feel...maybe do some detective work see if he is cheating. I am not saying to go stalk him and track his every move..but maybe if he says he is going out withi his friends...check up on it. Maybe call cheaters.

Answer 9

gurl u need 2 try it 1 more time and if it doesnt work then move on.by saying moving on i mean forget trying 2 make it work.do the samething he is doing.once u do that then he going 2 see that u r not caring and he might turn around and if he doesnt then breakup wit him and pick someone who loves u 4real.

Answer 10

SHOW HIM THE DOOR!
obviously he as found someone else and dont have the guts to tell you so he is trying to avoid you thinkin you might get the picture.
but dump him before he does it and please dont call him act as if you dont give a s*it and maybe he will be the one doing the chasing and then it would be too late as you wont be interested anymore. just give him a dose of his own medicine