my sister is 14years old and mentally retarded! I don't feel sorry for her because my mom tries hard with her

Question

I am 11 years old now why do I got to seem like the big sister? She very violent and suffer from mental retardation and 3mental illness?

Answer 1

Her condition requires more attention than you do, being that you are well and she is not. Just love your sister and the two of you do things together.

Answer 2

Oh...sweetie. Don't be upset about it. It's not anyone's fault that she's like that. She may have a mental capacity that is much younger than how old she is. That may never change. I have a neighbor who's 20 year old daughter will never be mentally over the age of 5, her friends constantly outgrow her and it makes her very sad.

Have you explained to your mother how you feel? Don't feel sorry for yourself either. Just stay strong okay? Remember, you will probably get to experience more things in your life than your sister will be able to, this experience that you are having right now is ONLY for right now. Just be good to your mother and your sister, go ahead and be the big sister, it's okay.

Answer 3

while it seems reasonable and normal that you may have some feelings of resentment towards your sister because she probably receives the most attention...you are cold-hearted indeed if you can honestly say you don't feel sorry for her....she never asked or chose to be born this way, you need to aquire some empathy and be thankful you even have a sister.....I know you're young, but she's still your family, and even if she suffers from illness mentally, she sure doesn't need you being so apethetic....if she's violent with you then talk with your mom about it, there has to be alternative medicinal ways to be able to deal with her, just don't throw in the towel, some day you will be an adult and you'll wish you never felt this way.....

Answer 4

First of all it is hard going through all the changes you are at your age and to have a sister with special needs on top of that is hard to handle.

Speak to your Mother about you getting help with a counselor or therapist. It needs to be someone you can say anything to and not be judged. Friends and family do not count for this. I do not think you are cold hearted I just think you need someone you can vent to.

My oldest half brother is retarded and his younger brother had to take care of him and their younger sister for many years. It was hard on him then, he is glad now that he was able to help his mother when she needed it. He says the worst part was not being able to be a child, he made sure they got to be one. They are now 55, 53 and 51 he started when they were 7, 5 and 3.

Answer 5

you want to study some popularity. perchance in case you idea-about it as him being sick yet unable to get well. If he has the mentallity of a 10 year previous then play video games with him that a 10 year previous ought to savour. construct a bond with him do not shun him away. The more suitable the bond the a lot less you'll sense ashamed of him. He can no longer help the way he's and resides the acceptable existence that he can. help and help him and also you'll have a more suitable kinfolk for it.

Answer 6

I do not think is a matter of acting like the big sister but as the supported one. Your mom has a handfull with your sister and I am pretty sure with your nagging. Try to see it on a different way. It feels good to help others and more if it is your immitiate family. You are so young to fully understand but you can start now. Help your mother and treat your sister with respect. God will bless you for that.

Answer 7

its not easy, being the big girl...in your situation your not suppose to be the big girl but you are...

You want to know what i think is funny? i always wished I had a true sister that would look up to me...and what do i get? ignorent women who cant remember my birthday...

You always want what you cant have...girl, life is never fair...but you that doesnt mean you have to break down and hate her...if everyone did that there would be no Mother Theresa, no heroes...no anybody...

Though you dont pity her, at least understand her, you know she's not in the right state of mind...so why bother getting mad at her? Did she ask for all of this? i think she would rather be you, then the other way around...

so she's embarassing you, she doesnt understand a word you say, but wouldnt it make you feel better that at least you can help her...even though she cant?

Who knows why God gave you such a special place in her heart, you might not see it, but someday you'll know it

Answer 8

sweetheart-it is understandable for you to feel resentful at your age. life has thrown your family a tough one. i also have a mentally challanged sister. she is younger than me though. i always tried to protect her when we were growing up. i was 7 years older than her,so it was easier on me. but- when she got older, she was a horrible burden on me ,because she started using drugs. but as to your situation, i dont think you are a bad person for feeling the way you do. if you can just try and help out,and understand that she is your family, and that she doesnt mean to be the way she is, then later on in life, when you can look at her situation in a more mature way, you wont feel ashamed for acting mean toward her when you were young. besides, you will learn alot from your relationship with her. best wishes

Answer 9

you callous, no good, very selfish, inconsiderate little bit**
be thankful you dont have to go thru the trauma that she does..
you have been chosen to be the "older" sister cuz your mind is more mature and can handle more than your sister..
stop being so mean and uncaring...
you could easily be in an accident that would leave you like this..
would you like it if your sister were like you are now????

Answer 10

because you have the ability to understand what is happening. You also can control yourself. It is hard for a child to totally understand the choices parents make, but it will be okay.