whenever we did something wrong we had a family meeting after talking about it we decide about physical dicipline for instance my sister one time got spanked for 45 minutesfor coming late around 2 am when she was 16 , ...and every single member of family should contribute ,one at a time, in this discipline and spank or cane the "bad" person... we are still getting spanked , my sister is 26 and I'm 24... but we all turn out to be ok people,,,now you think is it really good way to dicipline since we are all college graduate, drug free... my dad don't let us to live independtly so we should stay at home before getting married... I'm still getting spank if my parents think it is needed...
also, my dad has different stick from different materials which call it "tame tool" is which was/still is my dad's closet, and we had to go on top of table in frog position and they hit you in butt not any other part of body
2007-02-03 14:22:29 · 9 answers · asked by Handsome 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
im not kidding.. we are greek no we don't live in USA
2007-02-03 14:29:13 · update #1
wow, this is gonna be my way of discipline... where can i get sticks ?
2007-02-03 14:57:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Wow, yours is such a unique way. Im not sure my parents' way disciplining the children is kinda unique. But I can share what my parents did when we did something wrong.
You see, my mum is a very gentle and understanding person, and my dad is a very strict person, who would just scold at the slightest mistakes you do.
Their way? They do separate punishments. I mean, as you notice how I describe my mum as gentle and understanding. Well, she would just talk to us and discuss the mistakes that we did, and eventually made us promise not make anymore of that same mistake. While on the other hand, my dad would really spank us or would let us stand for an hour or so until he gives the permission to sit or go into our room. Until now, me and my brother is a very disciplined person, always thinking what is the good and the bad
2007-02-03 14:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by M Asteria 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do understand that things are different in different cultures, but spanking is something that should only be done to small children, and even then it should be just a few swats, not a 45 minute session like you described. As children learn to control their behavior, they need less control from the parents, until they are ready to make their own decisions. Your father is still keeping tight control over you. I don't know if this is common in your country, but in the US your situation would be considered to be very bad and everyone who knew about it would try to help you escape. What are your friends' homes like? Are they treated the same way?
2007-02-03 15:43:24 · answer #3 · answered by Cris O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never heard of such a thing in all my life. I think you must be from another country with different beliefs than what we have here in the United States. I would find it very degrading to be in my twenties and my parents disciplining me like a child. Is this a joke or what? If not you need to get a place of your own and be your own boss. I've heard of some weird things but this takes the cake.
2007-02-03 14:32:06 · answer #4 · answered by hollywood 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is your question for real??? This is ABUSE all the way around. . if any legal official knew of this, your parents would be arrested on the spot. They have no right to inflict this treatment on you, EVER, and they do not respect you. You are a legal adult, and you are letting yourself be abused and disrespected in this way. This signifies a very serious problem, and you are in need of mental health services, if you agree to this type of continued treatment as an adult. . Someone is very sick. You need to find out who. . If you don't make these adult decisions for your life, and let this kind of life and abuse go on, then you are agreeing to let other adults take over your life, and abuse you into submission. This is very very sick. Please get help for you, and your sister. I'm so glad you have written, and reached out for our thoughts on this. You need to get many people's thoughts on this, and then listen to your own. You may be somewhat brainwashed from years of this kind of treatment that this is what "loving" parents do. It is NOT. . I think you know down inside that no one should ever violate your body or your soul in this way. THIS IS NOT LOVE.
2007-02-03 14:41:28 · answer #5 · answered by CHERI * 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When my kids were little I had "the spoon", just a regular wooden cooking spoon. I never, ever hit them with it, but when they would get out of control, I'd say. "OK, I'm getting the spoon", and I'd crack it across my hand or put it on the table and they really thought they were about to get smacked. On the way to Disneyworld they were acting up in the car and I got out the spoon and...whoosh, the spoon went out the window. We laughed for hours and things were never the same.
2007-02-03 14:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
We have the corner and the whooping stick! Just a fly swatter that I give a little tap with. Everything is fine after those little things.
2007-02-03 16:06:09 · answer #7 · answered by TayLynn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After a certain age spanking seems abnormal. You need your own place!!
2007-02-03 14:29:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your kidding right..lol .. what am i saying of course you are
2007-02-03 14:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋