I have a question for the older moms.?

Question

Do you moms judge or look down on younger mothers even if you don't know them?

Answer 1

I would never judge a mother because of her age. I had my first child when I was 15, and I was a pretty darn good mommie even then, if I may toot my own horn.

There are many reasons why other mothers bother me, but none of them have anything to do with age. As far as I'm concerned, a woman who is young can be just as good or just as bad a mother as a woman who is older.

Answer 2

I think I qualify to answer your question. I am 48 years old and have 4 children. They are 27, 25, 22, and 9 years old. I can not speak for anyone else but me. I do not make judgments or look down on anyone. I was a young mom once considering that my older children were born when I was 20, 23, and 26. If it seems like it would be helpful in some situations, I may offer some advice, but only if a younger mom wants it. I have a lot of experience and lessons learned over the years. I have a teaching degree and have operated an in-home child care center for 20 years. I have had contact with many younger moms in those years. In general, I don't think judging another person or looking down on anyone for any reason has a useful purpose.

Answer 3

Well, i myself am not an older mom but i do have to say that age has nothing to do with being a good parent or not.
I've seen women in their 30's who ditch their children and put them off on their parents. I'm 21.5 and my son is 3, he has been with me everyday since the day he was born, everyday all day! Some people grow up for the sake of their babies and some don't. Women are having babies younger and younger each year so it's becoming the norm. Some might think it's horrible that women aren't married and are young and having babies but i want to know where's the fathers? Why aren't they being looked at and judged like an animal?
I say love your sister, we need to stop being so judgmental and help one another to be more educated and independent.

Answer 4

I think this entire young mom vs. older mom things is totally rediculous. WHY, as women aren't we supporting each other, rather than throwing "judgements" or opinions and "assumptions' around??? To be a mom is hard work, you have to put yourself second, sometimes even 3rd or 4th. Older and younger moms mostly want the same thing, to be a good parent. Plus if "you don't know someone", you shouldn't pass judgement anyhow, or at all, there's only one being that can do that!

Answer 5

Try to understand this because I see these types of questions a lot on here. Young people are always accusing older mothers of looking down on or judging younger moms. The thing is, I was 19 yrs old when I got pregnant and the guy didn't want anything to do with me anymore. So I went to an unwed mothers home while I decided whether to keep my baby or give it up for adoption. While there, I made friends with a 15 yr old, a couple 16 yr olds, and a 17 yr old. I got pregnant by accident because I didn't know anything about anything, but there were some girls that actually got pregnant on purpose. One 16 yr old got pregnant because her folks didn't want her dating this guy so she got pregnant thinking they would have to let her. Well, guess what. They sent her away instead. I remember feeling so much anger toward her because she wasn't thinking about the baby at all. The point I'm trying to make is, there are so many kinds of birth control now-a-days and it's difficult to find a young girl who doesn't know everything about sex and birth control. So there is no reason to accidentally get pregnant. And to get pregnant for any other reason is just irresponsible toward the baby. What you perceive as judgement or looking down on is anger at the young mom who threw her own childhood away to start having babies much sooner then she should, because most of the time these young mothers are way too immature, they haven't got all the running around out of their system, they still want to party. They drag their babies along with them while they go out with their friends, rather than making sure the babies are on a schedule and home in bed by a decent hour. I am not saying all young moms are like that, but I've seen way too many. As for me, I ended up keeping my daughter. And for the next couple years after I had her, my mom took care of her a lot because I was too busy dating and running around. I was lucky. I met a nice guy, we got married, he adopted my baby. I ended up "growing up". We've been married now for 31 yrs. It's just such a waste to see a young person throw away their youth and young adulthood. There is so much fun to have and so many things to do in your teens and twentys. Get it all out of your system. Then do it in the right order. Find a guy, get married, after a couple of fun years with your mate, start a family. You will be happier for it and so will your children.

Answer 6

Not at all. A younger mother can be a way better mother than an older one and vice versa. As long as you are taking care of your children and loving them and acting in their best intrest and not yours. You can be a great mom no matter what age!

Answer 7

I'm not sure if i qualify for what you mean older mom. My kids are grown and I'm 51 so I'm a mom and grandma. I don't look down on young mothers. I was a young mom too. I do wish I knew what i know now when I was young but that doesn't mean I look down on anyone. Life is the best teacher.

Answer 8

Definitely not...in fact I feel a bond with them because we are now part of the same "mommy's club". If someone is looking down on you, just ignore them. They are just jealous. It doesn't matter what others think of you, it only matters what you think of yourself. The one thing that age has taught me is that there will always be someone who will not think very much of you no matter how hard you try or how good you feel you have been. As long as you can look yourself in the mirror and say "I am the best person I can be" then don't let anyone's opinion of you effect your self worth or self esteem.

Good luck with the baby and congrats!!

Answer 9

No mother should interfere or judge another mother.
With the exception the mother is not parenting at all or kids are turning black and blue.
How a parent decides to parent is their business alone.
Unfortunately some folks just can not help them selves.

Answer 10

No way! The choices a parent makes are theirs and they have to live with it. I may see parents do things I may think are silly but I have learned more about being a better parent from these things I think are silly. You only get one shot at it with each child, so do what you think is right. But leave the judging to God. It is not a contest to see who does the best, but who has filled their responsibilities as a parent. Your child's happiness and productiveness is your reward.